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Infertility awareness week and mentioning something on fb

MBandBudMBandBud member
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I'm not very 'private' about our IF journey but I'm not public either.  I was going to say something on fb just to support anyone who might be going through IF, but I also feel like my DH might not like that.  I could ask him but I honestly am not sure I want to make that big a deal of it - if I just do it - he prob will never even realize - he hardly goes on fb.  If I ask, he'll likely be uncomfortable.  And yet I feel like there might be friends of mine I could support.  I don't want to discount his privacy, either.  I was going to post this: should I just make it more vague?  and take out the contact me part?  Then I feel like my point is lost.  WDYT?

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    I don't see the point in being vague.  If someone posted this, "contact me" or not, I'd absolutely assume that they are posting it because they went through it. 
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  • krissyh21krissyh21 member

    I agree with ECB, if you are not comfortable with people knowing about your IF then just posting what you posted will give you out.

    Personally I did not ask my husband and am just doing it. There is nothing to be ashamed about and putting it out there will take away the taboo-ness of it all. 

    That is what this week is all about. 

    Of course that is just my view in all this, you need to do what you are comfortable with. 

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  • DH1972DH1972

    Honestly, I think your best bet would be to talk to DH first. Let him know that reaching out to people with fertility issues is important to you and see where he stands. Posting something publicly that he might be sensitive to without consulting him first shows a lack of respect for his feelings, and though that doesn't seem like the case here, that's how it could look to him if he ever found out you did it behind his back.

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  • MouseygailMouseygail member
    I would definitely talk to him...and if he's not comfortable being totally out about it, I would leave your comment to be something about  how you are thinking about all of the couples still waiting for their children and the 1 in 8 stat.  The PP are right, the status as it is written, definitely outs you.  I asked my DH first if he was cool with it, and he didn't care, but it was surprisingly scary and freeing for me to post something.
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  • MBandBudMBandBud member
    imagekrissyh21:

    There is nothing to be ashamed about and putting it out there will take away the taboo-ness of it all. 

    That is what this week is all about. 

    This is exactly the way I feel!  I don't think DH would have a problem with it - but if I ask then I am making it like he should, if YKWIM.  I'll think on it some more.

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  • RadlerRadler member

    I'd describe myself in the same way as you do, I am not terribly private about our IF, but I don't do the mass e-mailing / FBing stuff. (I tend to lean toward more privacy on the Internet, anyway, no message board pictures or whatever...)  I'm not embarrassed of IF in the least, but I don't think my DH would love the idea of a mass announcement.

    I've certainly been able to reach out to a lot of friends/acquaintances to support them in their own IF struggles over the last few years, without doing any sort of FB announcements. Often I'll just hear through the grapevine that someone is having trouble, or someone will mention offhand that it's taking longer than they thought to get pg, and I'll offer to talk. That has worked just fine. 

    Just my two cents!  

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  • MBandBudMBandBud member
    imageRadler:

    I'd describe myself in the same way as you do, I am not terribly private about our IF, but I don't do the mass e-mailing / FBing stuff. (I tend to lean toward more privacy on the Internet, anyway, no message board pictures or whatever...)  I'm not embarrassed of IF in the least, but I don't think my DH would love the idea of a mass announcement.

    I've certainly been able to reach out to a lot of friends/acquaintances to support them in their own IF struggles over the last few years, without doing any sort of FB announcements. Often I'll just hear through the grapevine that someone is having trouble, or someone will mention offhand that it's taking longer than they thought to get pg, and I'll offer to talk. That has worked just fine. 

    Just my two cents!  

    Thanks for this - yes - this is me.  Sometimes I feel like I need to 'announce' it as a way of saying that I am not ashamed of it - but honestly, I'm not an overly public person to begin with - I don't 'announce' much of anything on fb.  Maybe I just need to feel confident that I am not 'hiding' anything just b/c I am not announcing it on fb.  Hmmm, maybe I'll just do something more generic.  Thanks for making me feel okay with not 'outing' myself.  Part of me thinks that 'ah well I am sure no one I know would benefit from me saying anything' but then I feel like that is the whole denial thing. 

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