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How early is too early? (in the pregnancy)
First, I would like to apologize to sabrina69bames for jacking her post headline!
Now, on to the question.... I am due in October, but due to a high-risk pregnancy, there is a very good chance I will give birth several weeks early and am trying to figure out a shower date. Now for the scheduling conflicts: I am a teacher, so August is out because we go back to school and I just don't think I'll have the time or energy to be chipper for a bunch of people who aren't 8 years old (even if I'm not already on bed rest!). My bestie gets married in September and won't be able to make it if we do it then. Several cousins with whom I am very close are out of town for various reasons for most of July. Both the BFF and the family would be very missed if I have to schedule a time when they can't be there.
This leaves us with possibly having a shower for an October baby in June. Is this just absurdly early, or is this one of those "do when you can" situations? Thank you for helping this first-time momma deal with some stress!
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Re: How early is too early? (in the pregnancy)
Being 30 weeks, or close to it, is not too early IMO. If it is convenient for your hosts and you, then you should do it.
ETA: I clearly read the post wrong and thought you said July and not June. I do think June is a bit early, but if it is the only date that works, then that is when you will have to have it.
Absurdly early.
You might feel fine. At 33 weeks, I feel great. this is inspite of having a really physical job, and working hard all day. also, Because LO is waking me up at 5:30 with a jazzercise routine, I don't get a ton of sleep. Besides, a shower is only a couple of hours. I took a nap after the one I had last weekend. My SIL is throwing another in 2 weeks, and I expect to be fine there too.
I had my last shower at 35 weeks. DS was born less than 3 weeks later.
If June is what is most convenient for your guests and hosts, then so be it. I think it's a bit early, but what can you do?
What is your due date and when is your BFF's wedding? I would prefer an early Sept shower if I were due in Oct, but that will, of course, depend on your due date.
There is no reason that your friends 2 day event (I'm being generous and including the day before) completely ruins the entire month. Even including a two week honeymoon (which is a long honeymoon) that still leaves two weeks left in the month.
Your shower will take 2 or 3 hours maximum.
Now, that being said, if she's hosting it which I'm not sure if I read that or not) it makes things slightly more complicated, but still do-able.
Part of the "fun" (if you can call it that) of a shower is being noticeably pregnant and adorable in all of your big as a house pregnant-ness.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
This exactly...why is the whole month taken up for one weekend? I would say that June is too early.
Our two are at 27 and 28 weeks. I am high risk as well and we'll have to drive 5 hours for one of them. I want to be close to home after 30 weeks.
Being noticeably pregnant isn't a prerequisite. I'm very fat and may or may not look pregnant at 37 weeks let alone 27, although with the right short right now I look very good. I just look a bit further along than I am. Telling someone that part of a shower is being noticeably pregnant is essentially telling us fatties we probably shouldn't have showers.
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Hey, I'm a big girl too and I didn't get offended by the post Methinks you are a bit too sensitive.
Oh FFS.
You know, that's exactly what everyone was saying.
I agree witht the bolded parts here. Depending on why your'e considered high risk, you may not want to have to travel very far for a shower later in the pregnancy. And some people never really appear noticeably pregnant, so just do it when it is convenient for you and your hostess. Have fun!
Oh get over yourself. I'm not calling anyone a fattie.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I am pregnant with twins and having my shower at 26 weeks. I want to have time to get prepared and some weekends in July had conflicts for some important people and so my only other option was at 29 weeks and that made me too nervous. I think that if you have some high risk issues then you need to have it when you are comfortable having it.
Although, I do agree that a wedding shouldn't take over one entire month, but I guess it depends on what weekend it is and how much further back that would push your shower.
I'm calling myself a fatty, since, y'know, I am. I see "you won't be showing and half the fun of a shower is having a lovely bump" thrown around as a reason, and I'm simply saying that's not a reason. If someone needs to have a very early shower due to health issues or location/travel or family and friend availability, they really won't be thinking about postponing it because they need to have a big bump first.
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I agree, health risks, traveling, etc---- good reasons for having a baby shower early.
My friend has a wedding and I can't use the entire month due to her one (maybe two day maximum event)---not a good reason not to have a shower.
However, for most of the people (yes, fatties like you and me included) the fun of having a shower later is indeed having a baby bump. I know this is your first child and you may not believe me, but there will reach a point that you will actually look pregnant. Coming from someone who is classified as obese, it does happen.
My point to the OP was if it's between having it later and having it earlier, part of the fun of a shower really can be having everyone gush over how adorable you look. Jumping on the "zomg, if you are saying that you should only have a shower if you have a bump means that fatties shouldn't have showers" soapbox just makes you incredibly over dramatic
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Well, this thread took an unexpected turn...