first miscarriage..no hb..not sure what to do 7w 4 d..maybe d&c?

yenny · April 2012

My 3rd us was yesterday( I have a weak cervix and am high risk, hence the 3rd us). The doc measured the fetus at 7w4d which is definitely what it should be at. He was unable to find a heartbeat though and my placenta is not doing too well. First of all the baby does not have much room to wobble in , the lining of the placenta looks heavily inflamed. They think my lymes may have attacked it. The biggest thing is the no heartbeat thing.

The doc wanted to do a d and c today but I just couldnt. Im going to another doctor for another us on Wednesday and if there is no heartbeat Im thinking I should just miscarry. Im hoping i naturally mc so I do not have to make that decision. Do you think there is hope for a hb? Am I waiting long enough or is it just a lost cause and I should D and C sooner than later?

My doc was very harsh in delivering the news and just said if I was his daughter he would give me the same advice. Am i just beign stubborn? How does the fetus grow to this point to not have a hb? Does a D and C hurt? Is the healing time long?

Im having a fourth us wednesday to confirm no hb . If no hb then Im thinking D and C Friday.

Thanks for reading my rant.

yenny · April 2012

ps obviously my ticker is wrong and i just havent had the heart to change it.

BravoBravo · April 2012

Sorry for your loss. I can't not comment on the heartbeat or growth.

But I can tell you that in my experience (3 d&c's in the last couple of weeks) that for me the worst part was the antibacterial soap they used to clean the area and for the straight-cath. It was kind of a burning sensation that lasted a few hours until I used the restroom enough to flush it out. I am fortunate to not have any cramps post surgery or heavy bleeding. My case was extreme, I believe, in the number of d&c's I needed. I had a blighted ovum and the tissue was missed the first two times, the third was done with u/s guidance.

Good luck with your decision.

dmgalley25 · April 2012

I had a d&c a week and a half ago. I was also lucky to have very little cramps and no bleeding at all. I am sorry you are going through this.

wifeofaussie · April 2012

So sorry for what you're going through. For starters, definitely get a second opinion though! Sometimes docs state things as gospel truth that aren't.

If the worst should be confirmed though, I lost a baby between 7/8 weeks and should warn you, miscarrying is very uncomfortable. If you decide to go this route, I'd ask for a prescription for some sort of painkiller. It took me 4 days to get through the worst of it and unfortunately, I didn't get meds til near the end of it because I miscarried over the weekend and didn't want to go to the ER. It is a very personal decision and whatever you decide will be right for you. I don't think there's really a "good" way to handle it. Sometimes I wish I'd had a D&C to avoid some of the trauma and pain and sometimes I'm glad I went through it like I did. There's no wrong decision, only what is right for you. Should you decide to go the D&C route, my mom had a miscarriage with a D&C and said there was very little pain involved, just some mild cramping afterward.

sard77 · April 2012

I had a natural miscarriage...... not by choice. i started bleeding on a sunday (3/18) and went to the ER. it was a "threatened miscarriage" nothing for sure. so they sent me home and told me to go see my doctor that tuesday for a follow up, if my hormone levels continued to go up i was ok and they would figure out why i was bleeding. At this point i still had not had a ultrasound. I didnt make it to tuesday, on monday i was home on bed rest like i was told when light period cramping and a good amount of bleeding started around noon. it continously go worse and by 5:00pm when my husband came home form work i was in tears i was in so much pain and going though at least 4 pads and hour ( i have a very high pain tolerance). So we put it off for as long as we could, know they couldnt really do anything. We went back to the ER around midnight. all they did was confirm my levels had dropped then gave me two doeses of morphine and loratab, and sent me on my way. they next morning i was still in some pain, around 5:00 that night i finally passed what i believe was the sack (about the size for my hand wrist to finger tip). I had no idea what i was supose to do with what i thought was my baby, sitting in my underwear. So when my doctors ofice finally took me off of a 10 min hold, they told me " ooo just go ahead and flush it or throw it away." i was pissed!!! i bleed for a little less than 2 weeks. But i am still waiting on my levels to come down to zero. and it has been a month. So i would do the D&C it is an option. Sorry if i was ranting. but this was the hardest and scarest thing i have ever been through.

sard77 · April 2012

sorry about tracker things i cant figure out how to get them off

LaBellaVida · April 2012

I am still going through a natural miscarriage, I belive I am at the tail end of it as my bleeding is very minimal now. I started to cramp and spot on april 5th. after much research online I deicided to take a hpt on april 13th. to my suprise it came back positive. my husband and i have been ttc since august 2011 and this was the first time i have gotten pregnant since. i knew something wasn't right so i went to the ER and they tested my hcg levels and they came back at 120. because of my symtoms they diagnosed me with a "threatened miscarriage" and told me to follow up with OB on Monday April 16th. I did, they checked my levels and they dropped to 97. again....they told me to check up with OB on wednesday april 18th..and I did...and my levels dropped again to 87. the doctor gave me a few options to choose from...i can take medication to help the process along, get a d&c done, or pass it naturally. for me...i was in no rush to fully end this pregnancy. I suppose it's because i am still holding out some hope that the doctors made a mistake and i have a healthy growing baby in my belly. i found taking medication or getting a d&c done would be to invasive and i trusted in my own body to pass the tissue. these options are a matter of personal choice, so whatever you feel is the right thing to, is the best option for you. i think you are making a great choice by getting a second opinion.

from my understanding when i was speaking with my doctor a D&C can leave scar tissue if not performed right. my doctor also told me they would have to give me sedatives to take the pain away while it was being performed so that tells me they can be painful. they said i may be crampy for a few days with some more blood loss.

if you take the medication to help the process along..they told me that i more than likely would have severe cramping, and extra blood loss.

i believe i made the right choice for me and for my body. just make sure you ask questions and feel 100% comfortable in the decision you make....i think it will help the greiving process along if you are at peace with your decision.

good luck!

yenny · April 2012

i cant get this tracker stuff done either. so annoying but whatever, im not offended.Thank you all for your kind helpful words.

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