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cs1007
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Repeat c-section and hospital visitors?
cs1007
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I am wondering what to do regarding visiitors after my repeat c-section. I really want DS #1 to have some special alone time with DS#2 (and DH and I too!). I was planning on having my parents, who are watcing him while I am in there, bring him in the late afternoon, after I have had most of the day to rest and recover. Hoping I can try to seem somewhat normal (considering) so that I don't scare him with Mommy being all tired and out of it, etc.
Anyways, my in laws get out of work around the time of day that I was hoping for DS to come see us. I don't want them to feel left out, since my parents will be able to see the new baby, but I also don't want anyone else there when I am tryig to spend the little time with DS #1 that I will have. I already know I am going to be a basket case being away from him for 3 days.
WWYD/WDYT????
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Re: Repeat c-section and hospital visitors?
You could make it clear that you want both sets of grandparents to visit, but explain that you will probably be a little out of it... you could have your husband suggest short visits... I don't know the situation of your first c-section, but mine was an emergency... it was horrible, I was so out of it. The second was planned, and a completely different experience... I was not to out of it... I was acually out of the hospital in less than 48 hours... In the end, whatever you feel most comfortable with is what you should do.
I'd have your DH explain to his parents that you've blocked off a specific time (say 4-6) for DS1 to spend with DS2, and you won't have other visitors then, but you're happy to have them visit after 6. Hopefully they'll understand and be willing to delay their visit an hour or two for the sake of both their grandsons.
And tell the nurses of your wishes as well, so they don't let any visitors in during that time.
I responded on the c/s board, but came over here to see if you offered more details. Honestly? I think it's a seriously unfair move to allow YOUR parents to visit but not his because you might be a tish emotional. You do realize someday you'll be the MIL, right? How would you feel if your son's in laws were allowed to come meet his new baby the first day, and you were told you had to wait? I'm guessing that would go over really well.
My relationship with my ILs hasn't always been peachy, but I would NEVER have considered letting my parents visit on the day of the birth and not DH's. It's as much their grandchild as it is my parents', so it's all or nothing, imo. They were all at the hospital for my RCS, and came to see DD for about an hour afterward.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I only have advice to give because I was super stressing about this last week too!
We are in a similar boat - with having parents/in laws watching DS while we're in the hospital with baby DD.
My husband and I decided that we were going to make a visiting schedule and send it out to family members. That way, we can make sure we are prepared for whomever would like to drop by.
On the first and second day, my mom is watching DS, on the 3rd day my inlaws are taking him, and on the last day, my dad is watching DS. We told our parents that whoever is with DS at the time could/will get some "Hey, could you bring him down by yourself for a little bit" phone calls so that we can spend some family time alone (and these times could be outside of the schedule "visiting hours".
Anyway, I sure feel a lot better knowing that everyone is being super supportive of whatever we want those first few days to look like. I know yours will be too as long as you vocalize it! Good luck!!!!