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Postpartum Depression
Just a little Venting Question...
Well, i am the stepmom of a 12 yr old and a 10 yr old and i just had my first lil one in November of '11. I breastfeed and pump for my baby, he's never had any formula and i also home make his food instead of buying the jars. I work full-time from 8-4:30 pm, I am up every morning at 5:30 am to get lunches made, breakfast ready and get myself ready. My husband is a Stay at home dad and watches the baby all day and picks up the other boys from school. We have lacrosse practice 4 days a week and they don't come home until 8:00pm. By the time they get in get a shower eat and go to bed it's about 9:30pm. I stay home with the baby while they are at practice and breastfeed and make dinner...this happens everyday and weekends we have lacrosse games.....I go to sleep at 10 pm to repeat the same things over again...so husband and wife time rarely happens because my DS is still wide awake and wants to play with mommy. I feel like i have no time to myself and that i am just wearing my emoitions out on my sleve because i can't get any time to myself. Does anyone have any ideas or advice to help me manage my time a little better because i just can't seem to find the time for me anymore and I seem to be like a robot with no emotions? How do people do it and manage to stay happy...?
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Re: Just a little Venting Question...
If dh is a sahd, maybe he needs to get up and make lunches. He can make dinner before lacrosse practice (crockpots are awesome) and he can cook for the baby once in a while. You have wayyyyy too much on your plate and he needs to step in and help more.
Something else that work for my husband and I was we declared one night a week ech where we could do whatever we wanted without interruption. They were planned and budgeted for. Most nights I just sat at my sewing machine and was left alone. We both knew that on that night, I the baby cried, he had to get off the couch and attend to it. It worked for us.
Wow I hope you find mommy time soon! You need it!
How do people do it and manage to stay happy...?
In my case, Enfamil, Gerber and Zoloft :P
My husband is a SAHD, and I work full time, too, so I understand how you're feeling. I joke with my husband that I'm going to start sneaking in the side door after work, just so I can pee and change out of my uniform before I get mobbed. Like PP said, if dad can make lunches during the day and start a crockpot in the morning (oh, how I love my crockpot), it will save you a little bit of time. Talk to your husband and see if you can work out a schedule that will give you EACH a couple of baby-free hours in a week (he needs baby-free time, too), even if it's just to go shopping without a baby in tow, or to go get your nails done. At some point, you should also probably consider hiring a babysitter, so mom and dad can have some together time as well. (something we still haven't done ourselves.)
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