Am I the only one? Sleep related

pettycrocker · April 2012

I feel like I might be the last person still rocking/snuggling LO to sleep... and can almost feel the disaster waiting to happen. I think at the worst, I might have a 4 y/o that still needs to be rocked even for naps. I hope I'm not setting up LO for a huge sleep battle in the future.. I just really love snuggling/rocking her... It's basically the only time my baby is ever snuggly since she's been born (even though she usually puts up a fight for a few minutes because she hates to go to sleep!)

In the back of my mind I'm hoping one day I'll walk in her room and she'll just be sleeping in her P&P and *poof* the issue resolves itself.. But that will probably never happen right? lol

I hope I'm not completely alone with this one.. but I definitely feel like the minority of the group with this. If there are any other Mommas still putting off sleep training, do you have a set goal in mind to at least get started?

scuba2011 · April 2012

Still rocking, snuggling and nursing her to sleep... We have decided to push off sleep training until we move out of our townhouse- her wall is the common wall with the nice guy living next door. In June we will start sleep training with the hopes of her being on a schedule by mid-August when I go back to work. I am thinking I should try making a nap routine while we are still living here and the neighbor is at work, but I have yet to set a goal to start that project.

craxyrae · April 2012

I had weaned off nursing/rocking/singing to sleep and then DS learned to roll over, crawl and stand in his crib. Now if I put him down awake, his head won't even touch the mattress and he is already rolling over. Occasionally at night he will be so milk drunk that even he will go down easily, except for this week because he has been cutting his top two teeth so we have been in sleep hell! It was really fun between 2:15 and 4:45 this morning when he wouldn't nurse to sleep, rock to sleep, shush to sleep, etc. and he kept trying to roll while I was holding him!

Little&BigPea · April 2012

I WAS... but last night was the last night.

We start sleep training tonight. With working I just can't do it any more. She needs to learn how to sleep on her own and STTN. DD is still waking up 3-4 times a night. My BFF had to spend the night last night to take care of DD just so that I could get some sleep.

I had a really bad debilitating migraine yesterday that I am pretty sure was caused by a lack of sleep the night before. The night before DD woke.up.every.2.hours!

I will definitely miss my snuggle time. Crying

boogerbearoriginal · April 2012

I nurse LO to sleep, H/etc. rock him to sleep. I'm not worried about long term implications and I have no intention of messing with something that works to get LO the sleep he needs.

This is probably an UO or FFC or something but if your LO is going to sleep and getting the rest he/she needs I don't see why rocking an infant to sleep is a problem. I guess I feel like over the course of LO's (hopefully) 80ish years on this earth, he will put himself to sleep almost all of the time. If I get the pleasure of spending a year or whatever rocking him to sleep as a baby, well that's a gift not a problem.

This is in no way a judgment or commentary on people who sleep train, because I am not in their shoes so I cannot make the call on what works best for that family. Every kid and every family is different and we are all doing what works best for us for our situation.

carrielb12 · April 2012

It really just depends on the night. I would say it's 50/50 for me. I do enjoy the times DD wants to be rocker though

jmo866 · April 2012

I don't rock to sleep myself, because when we did it didn't work well for DS, he'd wake 20 minutes later pissed that we were gone, but honestly, they were probably rocking babies to sleep for centuries and it was fine. My MIL would still rock him to sleep if that was what we did, she did with her boys and they lived to tell the tale. I think we just all get too hyped up (myself included) by all of the "sleep experts" and the drowsy but awake phenomenon, but what all this babbling is meant to say is, if it ain't broke, don't fix it! Even the babysleepsite lady says, it's not a problem until it is, so deal with it then if you have to.

ETA: edited for typo

jesstellina · April 2012

DH trained DD to take naps on her own back in January, but I do still nurse her to sleep at night. I got the No-Cry Sleep Solution from the library yesterday, because I do want her to be able to go to sleep at night other ways too. Lately it's been taking an hour to nurse her to sleep a lot of nights. I get tired and would like to have some time alone with DH at night!! Pllus, starting this summer I'll be working nights sometimes.

LyndseyLC · April 2012

still rocking, snuggling and nursing to sleep here! I love it and would miss it

s_deorio · April 2012

I still rock/hold lo for each nap and the same at night. We will hold her until we go to bed and she come with us to bed. It's what works for us now,

pettycrocker · April 2012

Thanks so much for the input/perspective. I haven't seen this come up and really thought I was one of the lasts to not sleep train. So glad to know I'm not alone, and now I'm definitely feeling better about our decision. Still not sure what we'll do moving forward with the sleep training. I think I was getting caught up in all the sleep training posts and worrying that we were way behind where we should be with her sleeping.. I guess the good thing is that she's sleeping, no matter how it happens.

Thanks ladies!

dairygirl19 · April 2012

I don't believe in sleep training unless there are issues (then it's perfectly understandable).

Otherwise, don't fix what ain't broke..lol.

I still rock LO to sleep with a bottle.

I fail to see the big deal.

She loves it and it's her bedtime transition that she associates with. 1/2 the time she falls asleep in my arms 1/2 the time not. When I lay her down 1/2 the time she goes right back to sleep the other 1/2 she fusses/cries. It's rare he cries for more than 10 minutes though and I just let her be during that time. She's a decent sleeper too, up once for a quick bottle or not at all..so obviously a little bit of rocking has no long term effects on her.

Even if my 4 year old has to be snuggled to sleep someday, I'd probably be fine with it.

Sleep Training is fine in some instances but a lot of times I feel like it's just forcing a baby to do something they're not ready for. I say rock away..They're only babies once!

pettycrocker · April 2012

dairygirl19:
I don't believe in sleep training unless there are issues (then it's perfectly understandable).

Otherwise, don't fix what ain't broke..lol.

I still rock LO to sleep with a bottle.

I fail to see the big deal.

She loves it and it's her bedtime transition that she associates with. 1/2 the time she falls asleep in my arms 1/2 the time not. When I lay her down 1/2 the time she goes right back to sleep the other 1/2 she fusses/cries. It's rare he cries for more than 10 minutes though and I just let her be during that time. She's a decent sleeper too, up once for a quick bottle or not at all..so obviously a little bit of rocking has no long term effects on her.

Even if my 4 year old has to be snuggled to sleep someday, I'd probably be fine with it.

Sleep Training is fine in some instances but a lot of times I feel like it's just forcing a baby to do something they're not ready for. I say rock away..They're only babies once!

At least you know from this post, you might not be the only one still rocking your 4 y/o LOL. I guess we're all in good company.

katie4253 · April 2012

We did, until he went all crazy baby a week ago. He was waking up in the middle of the night too, but were were dealing with it. I think like lots of things with parenting, you do it until it becomes a problem. If it isn't a problem for you, then I wouldn't worry about it.

jlsimon56 · April 2012

I nurse to sleep! For bedtime and naps! Don't tell anyone! :-)

My sister is 100% into The Sleep Lady, and it really worked for her kids. My sister is a teacher and had a more rigid work schedule. My other sister also liked TSL but wasn't as 100% into doing it b/c she is a SAHM and they move a lot (like, 3x per year) so it was hard to redo everything for their LO every 4 months.

I do work F/T but I have a really flexible job, so does DH (he works from home). I put LO down at 8pm. She wakes anytime from 5am to 8am. If it's closer to 5, I will nurse her or DH will rock her back to sleep. Closer to 8 and she's up for the day. We tried sleep training but we didn't like it. I wil say that LO slept GREAT at daycare when she could fall asleep on her own. Now she can't, so her daycare naps suck (like, one 20 minute nap). But she sleeps so well at home that I can't mess with it, haha.

My sister always says, "It's only a problem when it's a problem."

I do like TSL and we will fall back on that if/when LO's sleep turns to crap.

DH didn't like sleep training or TSL b/c they discourage the rocking and the snuggling and he really wanted that.

AmandaP678 · April 2012

I didnt read all the responses but I still hold my 2 year old to sleep oops

And I agree it's only a problem when it is a problem and Ill just deal with it later.

CABeachMom11 · April 2012

yep- still rock/nurse to sleep and I love it. He used to sleep better but all this teething has really screwed everything up! He refuses the bottle during the day and wants to nurse all night, so once his teeth come in, I will start to ween the night feedings, but right now I need to know that he's getting enough milk- so we do it. Were just going to see how it goes.

genekelly · April 2012

I'm still nursing to sleep usually and will rock DS back to sleep if he wakes in the middle of the night and cries too long or loudly. LO wakes 2-3x a night and usu I'm nursing him then. I'm not ready to do any real sleep training and I know my sister Ferberized her son at ~15 months and he's a terrific sleeper now(he's 6). I figure I can do something about it later if it gets worse. For now, I'm managing the schedule just fine and don't think that sleep training is worth it to me yet.

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