Clicky poll: Will you have a baby shower for 2nd LO?

redhead0525 · April 2012

2nd shower?
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mishfull · April 2012

DD is 4, new baby is a boy - so I am finding we are buying a lot of new stuff for a boy, as well as buying things that I wish we had with DD! While I am not asking anyone for a shower if someone where to offer to host one I would not be opposed to it.

ks3pink · April 2012

DD one is 6 years old and we are having twin boys. Yes, we are having another shower.

mrsjenni · April 2012

My mom and sisters threw me a surprise small "sprinkle" with just us and a few of my close friends. It was all about celebrating the new baby GIRL (and eating a TON!)

But I think big, huge showers that include a second registry and info inside the invitation is tacky. But whatevs. I do agree that every baby deserves to be celebrated. Do what you want.

skyejo · April 2012

My coworker really wants to throw one for me but I feel weird about it. Not really because I think it's tacky but because I feel like it's gift grabby since I already have everything I need because of DD. When she brings it up again I'm going to polietly decline.

Jodi2008 · April 2012

I certainly wouldn't plan one for myself and do NOT expect anybody to throw me one, but if I had a little surprise sprinkle with close friends, that would be fine. I definitely won't be registering or anything like that. We usually celebrate all babies at work so my co-workers will probably do some small surprise thing for me- cake and maybe a small gift or two.

kbbgg · April 2012

My girlfriends are insisting on throwing me one. DD is seven years old this year and her father and I were never really together. My friends and family think its been long enough, and now that I married the man of my dreams and having a baby the proper way, they really want to throw me a proper baby shower.

I say - why not? Im so thankful to them for wanting to and it makes them happy to do it.

Embracetheday · April 2012

My mom wants to throw a small family shower for me because my family is in the mindset that "every baby should be celebrated". I'm really struggling with it because DH and I don't need the help (although its appreciated) and I just feel gift grabby having it. I've got to mention this better to my mom, she took it a little personally the first time and I don't want to fight over something special she is trying to do. Its a hard and weird situation.

judahsmommy1 · April 2012

I'm not sure. We live in a completely different area of the country now than when I was pregnant with my first. If my church offers to throw me a shower I'm not sure what I'll say. I might talk to the children's director and get an idea of how people feel about it here. I know with my church in Oregon they threw one shower per woman. It didn't matter if it was her first kid or fourth, if one had not been given at the church a shower was thrown. I suspect the policy is the same at this church. I agree that every child should be celebrated, but I don't know that a shower is the right way all the time.

ilovelife · April 2012

My mil keeps talking about the shower she wants to throw me...but I just had a large shower not even 2 years ago. lol. I told her that we can get together with family only, but I do not expect gifts and will not create a registry. Thankfully she agreed to that...this week at least. I've told her this once before but she evidentally forgot about that conversation. I'll end up explaining every three or four times again.

Tash13 · April 2012

I voted no, since I have most of the stuff I need anyway (and I think it's tacky, especially if your other LO isn't very old) but I may end up with one at work. I didn't work here the first time around and they always do surprise showers for expectant moms so I wouldn't have a say.

L8kissie · April 2012

Nope, but I wouldn't be sad if someone threw one for me. I kept stuff and don't need tons though. Presents are just fun.

Kasi80 · April 2012

Yes. DD is 11. Different set of friends, different life than I had back then, different area. My sister's and a good friend are planning it. If people think it's tacky they can suck a hairy nut. Surprise

alice2Bcheshire · April 2012

I'm certainly not planning or expecting a shower, but if someone wanted to host a SMALL gathering to celebrate these babies I would not be opposed. No registries or shower games or anything like that though-- DS is only 21 mos. and he was generously celebrated.

Cheerilee · April 2012

My mom and an ex-co-worker (I left the state for school but worked with the same group for 6 years) are throwing me showers - one for friends/family and the other for close work friends. This is my first but DH has full custody of his 8 year old son. He didn't gain custody until he was 4ish and we met when he was 5. All of his baby stuff stayed with his bio-mom. SO, this is KINDA my second - but not really.

monksmama · April 2012

Not for my second...

I had a shower for my first son six years ago. This is our third baby and first girl. I would be really surprised if there isn't a 'sprinkle' in the works. I am planning on having a registry, but it is just for the completion coupon so I am making it private and not sharing it with anyone.

We threw a 'sprinkle' for a friend who just had her fourth baby. (and 3rd girl) We just invited a few friends (her family is pretty far) and we had lunch with the kids at a local restaurant and we chipped in for 2 gorgeous new baby wraps and a prenatal massage. It was a really nice afternoon

jesslinnn · April 2012

Nope.

I kept everything from DS and all the 'big stuff' is neutral because we knew we'd be having more kids.

Plus I think it's tacky.

Lanibee · April 2012

I voted no shower because we do have everything, but my friends and I are planning a baby celebration/blessing but there are no real gifts and this celebration is all about eating and catching up.

Clbevins · April 2012

I think all babies should be celebrated. I gave my friend for her third baby a shower but it was a bit different. It was only a diaper shower since she had everything. We all had fun hanging out and partying and she went home with months worth of diapers!

ematthews920 · April 2012

My son is four, so we don't have everything we need anymore. I wouldn't mind buying it ourselves, but this is my MIL's first blood grandchild, so she wants to throw us a shower. Hopefully it will just be a small one!

ematthews920 · April 2012

Kasi80:
Yes. DD is 11. Different set of friends, different life than I had back then, different area. My sister's and a good friend are planning it. If people think it's tacky they can suck a hairy nut.

Hah! Sounds like something I would say. Love it.

tartaruga · April 2012

katebyblow:
My girlfriends are insisting on throwing me one. DD is seven years old this year and her father and I were never really together. My friends and family think its been long enough, and now that I married the man of my dreams and having a baby the proper way, they really want to throw me a proper baby shower.

I say - why not? Im so thankful to them for wanting to and it makes them happy to do it.

Hmm Really??

abeni09 · April 2012

The most judgmental place I have ever seen is a website where mom's gather to give each other advice

I am having a shower for my second. I did register for gender neutral large items with my daughter and am having a boy this time. But there are still things needed, most prominently diapers. When I was having showers for my daughter, I had enough people wanting to throw showers for me and enough family and friends feuding among themselves that we chose to do 3 small showers. I had to have my daughter early and missed having one of those showers. A shower is a gift to the mother, usually from some one who loves her dearly. I say you should accept gracefully and only ask for diapers and formula if it bothers you to ask for more. I am receiving mostly handmade items, which I am very thrilled to be getting. I love keepsakes and I am very happy so many crafty people love me.

Also I threw my sister in law a shower for her second boy last year, every one was thrilled to be there and to give to her. I was thrilled to do it. It was a labor of love, and I would have been hurt if she didn't want me to throw the shower.

Twizzle · April 2012

Scout2005:
Just for the record, baby showers celebrate the mom, not the baby. So the whole "all babies deserve to be celebrated" rationale doesn't really hold up.
Baby will be celebrated when they are born, and on their birthday every year, at holidays, etc. A "sip n' see" or "meet the baby" party is a lovely idea. But baby showers are to "shower" new parents with gifts to welcome them into parenthood.
There are exceptions and situations that make it less tacky, but I think those are few and far between. And no, I don't think having a child of a different sex is one of those exceptions - if you didn't think to register for gender neutral items the first time around, that's on you.

I agree with this. I could see doing it if your other child was significantly older, like 8+ years, for things that expire like carseats.

I also don't really enjoy attending showers that much so I wouldn't want to obligate my friends and family to attend another one for me.

I also don't think it's any more judgmental on these boards than it is IRL--people are just more willing to speak their minds here because of the anonymity.

theunplannedparent · April 2012

Yes. My daughter is 6 and we are expecting a boy. This pregnancy was unplanned so I hadn't kept anything anyways. Also, that's standard operating procedure around here. Even friends who have had same gendered children close in age get showers.

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