Clicky 'Who puts LO down' Poll

Chunstad · April 2012

I was invited to a girls night out tonight. The first thing I thought about wasn't 'Yes! What am I going to wear!', it was 'What time? Can't, who will put C down?' Yes, I have always been the one to put C down for all naps and for bedtime (I nurse him down). Isn't that sad? So I told DH that this weekend, we are going to do a trial run of him putting C down. It will probably mean more work for me, but it's not fair that I can't go out. It got me thinking, though, who puts your LO down the majority of the time? Are we just the odd people who do this?[Poll]

karinothing · April 2012

I nurse to sleep at night and naps most of the time. For naps, DH can usually put DS down without too much of a fight (he just bounces him). We did one trial at night and it was a bit of a fight (I wasn't home) but DS eventually went down. DS fed him a bottle in the same position I nurse in (in the dark) then essentially just held him while he cried until he passed out from exhaustion. But it worked eventually!

kagl08 · April 2012

I said we share. I do naps. DH does bed. It's been working very well so far. We learned the hard way to do this. I was always the one putting my DD down and now she won't let anyone else put her down. I will not make the same mistake with DS!

christiney06 · April 2012

I do naps b/c MH is at work but he puts her to bed every single night.

pearblossom · April 2012

I used to always do it and it does make you feel tied down. Now that DH is with the kids when I am in school, we found that they actually go down better for him. I would make him do it all the time if he weren't working at bedtime.

Hope it goes well for you guys and you get a much deserved night out!

cantalopes24 · April 2012

This one of my huge reasons for not nursing to sleep. With E, he can fall asleep anywhere with nothing special. MH works in the evening but I do like to go out with my mom and friends a few times a month so him being able to put the kids to bed is a must. We share as evenly as we can when MH is home.

LCass · April 2012

I chose that I do it mostly, but that's like 99% of the time. DH will try once every week or two, she cries and pushes away from him and he hands her to me and says she only wants me. She's getting easier to put down and I'm not nursing her to sleep any more, so we'll start working on him doing it again. She did go to sleep for him a few nights ago, actually.

Chunstad · April 2012

I'm sure that I've created a monster. He is so hard to rock and soothe to sleep, I have always found it easiest to put a boob in his mouth. I guess I've screwed myself.

alison2379 · April 2012

I schedule practice sessions every 2 weeks with the babysitter or my husband so C remembers how to go to bed with someone else.

mars37810 · April 2012

She still nurses to sleep at bedtime so when I'm off work I wind up putting her to bed but DH has no issues with putting her to bed on the days I work. There are some nights where he has to rock her a little before putting her in the crib because she doesn't pass out like she does when I nurse her. I do not nurse to sleep for naps so it is shared evenly between the two of us when we are both home.

LCass · April 2012

Chunstad:
I'm sure that I've created a monster. He is so hard to rock and soothe to sleep, I have always found it easiest to put a boob in his mouth. I guess I've screwed myself.

It's fixable. I would do the same with Lily because I'd just get tired of trying other things and resort to nursing. It just takes some work to fix it, if you decide you want to (because the boob really does make it sooooo easy).

peelester429 · April 2012

I nurse her around 6:45 or so, then MH takes over and does bath and jammies. We say prayers together, and then he puts her in her crib.

kmart1tm · April 2012

We used to share duties, but somehow it has evolved into exclusively me Hmm

We are having a babysitter put her down this Saturday though, so we'll see how that goes.

Papps · April 2012

I voted exclusively, but I should have done mostly. MH stays home with DD so he puts her down for naps and whatnot, but when I get home I hog her and give her a bath, read, play etc.... then put her to bed. He's done it a few times, so he would totally know how, but I prefer to get as much time in so I just do it

kellybug80 · April 2012

christiney06:
I do naps b/c MH is at work but he puts her to bed every single night.

This. He is much better at getting her down..

Shannon526 · April 2012

margaretkaye1:

I nurse L to sleep, but I couldn't keep her awake to put her down "awake but drowsy" if my life depended on it. She won't take a bottle and I need to get that last feed into her.

Naps we're having issues with all around.

This is me exactly.. L fights sleep like it's a bad habit, so the only way to get her down is my boob.

She will fall asleep in the stroller sometimes, but the minute you stop moving she starts to stir and wakes up crying.

blu-eyedwife · April 2012

It depends on the day -

MWF - daycare does naps, I put him to bed

T,Th - I do naps, DH does bed

S/S - DH does naps and bed (for the most part, if he's out I'll do naps)

amyc216 · April 2012

I know what you mean! Recently my friend wanted to do dinner and a movie. I told her I could do dinner early so I could be home by 7:30 to put DS to bed. I nurse to sleep as well. MH was able to rock DS to sleep for about a week or two a while back, but DS won't have that anymore.

sewpinkgal · April 2012

I do mostly because I'm home with him all day, but when H is here, he will do it.

uberbitter · April 2012

I always put DS down for bed, though hopefully DH will get some practice at once he's down with classes in two more weeks. DH, our daycare lady where DS is two days a week, and MIL all put him down for naps, which is often harder for me than bedtime, so hopefully it won't be a big deal.

joolz17 · April 2012

I voted I never do because I thought it was bedtime only. I suck at reading comprehension!

I did bedtime for the first three months and then I started losing my mind (I do all naps during the week since I'm on mat leave; we share on weekends). Slowly husband started taking over bath time and bedtime. Now I nurse him around 6:30 and that is it. I don't even always help with the bath. He loves having that time with G, and I love having 25 minutes alone.

I do the occasional bedtime if he's playing hockey or away for work or wants to go out (the latter has actually never happened - if he goes out it's after G is asleep).

kmart1tm · April 2012

joolz17:
I voted I never do because I thought it was bedtime only. I suck at reading comprehension!
I did bedtime for the first three months and then I started losing my mind (I do all naps during the week since I'm on mat leave; we share on weekends). Slowly husband started taking over bath time and bedtime. Now I nurse him around 6:30 and that is it. I don't even always help with the bath. He loves having that time with G, and I love having 25 minutes alone.
I do the occasional bedtime if he's playing hockey or away for work or wants to go out (the latter has actually never happened - if he goes out it's after G is asleep).

I'm jealous of this. I'm home with L all day every day, and I would love it if H would step up and do the bath routine even 1 or 2 times a week. He claims he is "scared" to bathe her by himself. H? Really? I love him, but it's time to grow some balls.

Mrs. Mo · April 2012

DH gets really bad panic attacks when DD cries. Since she's a "cry myself to sleep" gal, I'm the one who rocks her to sleep. He will always give her her kiss goodnight before I put her down, though.

joolz17 · April 2012

kmart1tm:
joolz17:
I voted I never do because I thought it was bedtime only. I suck at reading comprehension!
I did bedtime for the first three months and then I started losing my mind (I do all naps during the week since I'm on mat leave; we share on weekends). Slowly husband started taking over bath time and bedtime. Now I nurse him around 6:30 and that is it. I don't even always help with the bath. He loves having that time with G, and I love having 25 minutes alone.
I do the occasional bedtime if he's playing hockey or away for work or wants to go out (the latter has actually never happened - if he goes out it's after G is asleep).
I'm jealous of this. I'm home with L all day every day, and I would love it if H would step up and do the bath routine even 1 or 2 times a week. He claims he is "scared" to bathe her by himself. H? Really? I love him, but it's time to grow some balls.

No! Get him to start helping with bath time and slowly make him do more on his own. J was scared at first too but now they have a great time! He puts on music, it's really cute. And you need that time to yourself!

Liz4444 · April 2012

When DH is home, he always does it, so that's all weekend and bedtime during the week (unless he's out for a business function). I put her down during the day unless I'm out, then my mom does it.

karinothing · April 2012

joolz17:
kmart1tm:
joolz17:
I voted I never do because I thought it was bedtime only. I suck at reading comprehension!
I did bedtime for the first three months and then I started losing my mind (I do all naps during the week since I'm on mat leave; we share on weekends). Slowly husband started taking over bath time and bedtime. Now I nurse him around 6:30 and that is it. I don't even always help with the bath. He loves having that time with G, and I love having 25 minutes alone.
I do the occasional bedtime if he's playing hockey or away for work or wants to go out (the latter has actually never happened - if he goes out it's after G is asleep).
I'm jealous of this. I'm home with L all day every day, and I would love it if H would step up and do the bath routine even 1 or 2 times a week. He claims he is "scared" to bathe her by himself. H? Really? I love him, but it's time to grow some balls.
No! Get him to start helping with bath time and slowly make him do more on his own. J was scared at first too but now they have a great time! He puts on music, it's really cute. And you need that time to yourself!

This exactly. I nurse DS to sleep but as soon as DH gets home from week he takes over (so for like .5-1.5 hours) and does everything. He does the bath and gets the baby ready for bed.. It is a nice break!

hannamarin · April 2012

My H is either not home or just barely in the door when I am putting her in the crib so 90% of the time it is me. He tries to give me a break one day a week. However, he sucks at putting her down drowsy and awake. I am much more used to her (stil on mat leave) so I feel bad for him. He thinks we still need to rock her to sleep.

Last night, I put her down and joined him in the living room and she was crying and he looked at me like I was crazy. "shes crying". I said, yes. I went back in 3 minites later, replaced the paci and she was asleep. He was shocked.

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