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February 2012 Moms
liberty95
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*FFFC*
liberty95
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Re: *FFFC*
My family is a Foreign Service family. Families like mine are posted in every corner of the globe. We live our lives away from family, friends and the conviences and comforts of home. We often live and work in dangerous places among those that misunderstand our intentions and purposes. Sometimes members of our ranks sacrifice our lives to further diplomacy. Please remember that we serve too. And I'm always open to questions.
Don't feel bad. We can't be all things to all people all of the time - even if we try. You are doing a great job. If you weren't you wouldn't think twice about these things or worry about being a bad parent.
My family is a Foreign Service family. Families like mine are posted in every corner of the globe. We live our lives away from family, friends and the conviences and comforts of home. We often live and work in dangerous places among those that misunderstand our intentions and purposes. Sometimes members of our ranks sacrifice our lives to further diplomacy. Please remember that we serve too. And I'm always open to questions.
My DH cashed out his investments so we can start a college fund for DD and redo the kitchen. He did this 2 weeks after I returned to work. I wish he did it earlier so I could have taken 12 weeks instead of 6 with DD. I know it's his money and he can do what he wants but I really want to be at home with her.
I also am judging this women whose husband I work with. They had a baby a month after I had DD and she gets to be a SAHM while her hubby teaches full time. She refused to try to breastfeed b/c then "her husband couldn't get up at night" AND she brought her 2 week old into the high school and let the students touch him. I am judging her and I know that it is not my place to question someones parenting skills....but I do. I can't help it.
I honestly don't understand women who, for no reason other than selfishness, don't even TRY to breastfeed. She could pump and her husband could get up at night... ugh.
My FFFC? I don't understand people who have 7, 8, + kids... I don't think you can be everything you need to be to that many kids. How do you actively, 100% parent that many? I don't think you can.
First I am upset with my sister for telling me before work on Wednesday that she could no longer watch DD it is to much work, even though I know the logic and understand why she cant (she has 2 babies already). I am still mad and trying not to be. Although the change has been so great so far, SIL does so much better with DD than my sister did, she looks at it as spending time with her instead of work.
almost the same as a PP I am annoyed that DH didnt get his degree, we both went to college at the same time (we were married then) and he couldnt stick it out and finish like I did. I wish he would have so I could stay home and not feel guilty that I am wasting my degree that we are still paying loans on, and we could afford it.
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This. Well kind of...DH is the breadwinner in our fam BUT could be doing soooo much better for himself and our family but is simply too lazy and too comfortable to apply himself! I am a horrible wife because I find myself resenting him for having to work instead of being home with DS. Worst part is I and he knows he is much more capable! UGH! He is overworked and underpaid and it pisses me off!
I am very aware of all the benefits my DD gets from breast milk, however I have come to realize that my #1 motivation to stick with it for at least a year, possibly 18 months long term goal, is for very VEIN reasons, BFing and pumping, has made me loose all of my weight, so when we suffered with Thrush recently or when I am pumping at work rather than eating lunch or taking a coffee break, I think of the weight loss compliments I recieve rather than the benefits for DD
I have been sleeping on spit up for a week, it's just so much work to change the sheets! Lol!
Here is mine- DH is really nervous about his vasectomy today but I am SO excited because we are all going to stay with my parents for the weekend so I am going to get tons of help with the kids.
I'm starting to resent DH's work schedule. He works in retail, so he works a lot of nights and weekends and has weekdays off. On his days off, he's able to take DS to daycare and have a day to himself to get things done, sleep, etc. On my weekend days off, it's just me and DS, and sometimes I feel like a single parent. When he's home, DH is GREAT with DS, and willing to let me have some me time, but I wish I could get a whole day every once in a while. Guess I'm more jealous than resentful.
I really, really want just one whole day off from pumping. I love being able to give DS breast milk, but sometimes I just want a day when I don't have to think about it. I keep reminding myself that my initial goal is 6 months and I am almost half way there! I am working on building up a big freezer stash so I can start using that once we pass the 6 month mark until it runs out. I will have to see then if I will keep pumping or not. I just don't know yet.
I refuse to cut DS's nails. I use an emery board... and normally only after I see that he has scratched his face again!
I am teaching DS how to hold his bottle already. He can do it for almost 10 seconds at a time now.
Learning how to hold his bottle all by himself! by kristin172429, on Flickr
E.T.A one more: I am a shameless picture poster!!!!
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Yes you are. But we love it.
My family is a Foreign Service family. Families like mine are posted in every corner of the globe. We live our lives away from family, friends and the conviences and comforts of home. We often live and work in dangerous places among those that misunderstand our intentions and purposes. Sometimes members of our ranks sacrifice our lives to further diplomacy. Please remember that we serve too. And I'm always open to questions.
I have another one!
Yesterday my DD was with my SIL and I got a break at work, 2.5 hours between meetings, instead of going to my office to do work, or going to hold DD or helping out SIL. I went home and took a nap and started on my cleaning that needed to be done that night. I felt so guilty and being in my house without DD was weird, kinda felt like my old life where I would go home during my breaks. I needed that and it reassured that I would not go back if I could. It made me miss her more and I felt like I should have went to see her instead.
I have another!!
I got so behind on folding and putting away laundry that I literally just took two big baskets of washed clothes that had been sitting in our bedroom and tossed them back in the laundry room to be washed again. At this point, it will just be easier. Now the laundry is not allowed to leave the laundry room unless it is folded or on hangers. I hate laundry.
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Yes, but he's a cutie, and I love seeing pictures of him!
Melodic Insomniac
Hubster works, so he's not home as often as I'd like, but it's a necessary absence. MIL lives across the street, but is pretty much useless helping with Sophie (that will be expanded upon in my MIL Monday post). My grandparents live 25 minutes away, but they're pushing 90, so they're no help either. For the most part, I'm essentially a single mom. And there's a teeny part of me that relishes being a martyr about it.
Edit: Also, I just now became slightly resentful of Sophie, who can't really be taken out in public yet - she's still screamy more times than not - as I just saw that They Might Be Giants will be playing a free concert in my little town tomorrow night.
Melodic Insomniac
h no you are not...I gave myself that award this week too......I don't even wanna share it's so embarrassing.
I too have been sleeping in spit up stained sheets for a couple nights! I only get 4 hours a night to spend with LO, I couldn't care less about washing the sheets :P
With the warm weather approaching I have been craving a cigarette so bad. I really only smoked socially, I would NEVER smoke around LO. Plus I'm still breast feeding so for now there's no giving in!