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Ok, so I'm kinda peeved (not totally loss related)

fluttergirlmoonchild79fluttergirlmoonchild79 member
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Up until now, my work has been surprisingly very supportive of me during this time.  My DH's grandmother passed away last week.  He wasn't very close to her as she lived in Florida most of his life until recently.  There was a small showing last weekend before she was cremated.  Next Thursday his family is going to have a service/celebration at 6pm.  Yes, the service is local and in theory I don't need to take any time off of work to attend the service, however, looking at my HR policy I'm entitled to 3 days bereavement.  Since I'm entitled, I figured I'd take it.  I asked my boss and my HR rep if I could have next Wednesday, Thursday and Friday off per the policy.  I was told no - that the policy only applies if you need to go out of town.  I finally just said "forget it."  Am I in the wrong for even asking for this time off?  I'm just a little peeved that I was denied bereavement for my DH's grandmother even though our policy states spouse's grandparents count.  Sorry, just needed to vent.

 

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Re: Ok, so I'm kinda peeved (not totally loss related)

  • barronabarrona

    First of all, I am so very sorry for the loss of your DH's grandmother. As for work, I personally think that is complete crap. I understand that every company has their own policies, but I have never heard that in order to take bereavement leave you have to go out of town. Bereavement leave isn't just about the travel that might be involved but more about spending time with family and being there for eachother. I'm sorry work is being rude about this and if I were you I absolutely would have asked for the leave as well.

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  • jbranden12jbranden12 member
    imagebarrona:

    First of all, I am so very sorry for the loss of your DH's grandmother. As for work, I personally think that is complete crap. I understand that every company has their own policies, but I have never heard that in order to take bereavement leave you have to go out of town. Bereavement leave isn't just about the travel that might be involved but more about spending time with family and being there for eachother. I'm sorry work is being rude about this and if I were you I absolutely would have asked for the leave as well.

    exactly this! Sorry you're dealing with this :(



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  • weddedwifeweddedwife member

    I think that is crap. Do you have a copy of your handbook that you can review?

    When the baby died they gave me 5 days bereavement. We didn't go anywhere, so would that rule still apply? That seems like a bunch of b.s.

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  • LaBellaVidaLaBellaVida member
    I would call in sick- take those days anyway! if they have problems show them the handbook where it states that its allowed. thats what I would do... good luck! sorry for the loss in your family.
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  • fluttergirlmoonchild79fluttergirlmoonchild79 member
    I did actually review our handbook before I even asked. My HR rep told me it actually reads what she says which is that "if you have to leave out of town" blah blah blah.  I know I could have pushed the issue further but I was in a "mood" yesterday and decided rather than having to put my foot in my mouth I would just drop it.  When Corbin passed I was still on maternity leave.  They still gave me my 3 days which was actually nice because with my PTO it rounded out a whole paycheck.  This whole thing just adds further hatred to how much I hate my job.

     

    In memory of Corbin Scott 10/28/11-12/3/11. Heaven got another angel the night you left this world behind Heaven got a little better the day it took you away from me Missing you tonight, see you again sometime For now I'll close my eyes and dream of heaven tonight I'll love you forever I'll like you for always Now and Forever My baby you'll be

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