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Chromosome Testing Results

SweetPea1002SweetPea1002
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Last night my doctor called with my chromosome testing results. They came back normal. I'm happy they were normal, as I did not want my DH and I to have to worry about chromosome issues, BUT now all I think about is why did I lose my baby boy at 11 weeks. What did I do wrong? I did drink 1 cup of coffee, but my doctor told me it was ok, did that do it. Also, my doctor told me the gender, that is was a baby boy. I'm so sad about that as my DH really wanted a boy and we were having one. I just don't understand why this happens to us. No one should ever have to go through a MC. Now after 4 weeks from D&C, I'm still waiting for my AF and once I get that I'm hoping I will have closure and be able to move forward. 
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Re: Chromosome Testing Results

  • MWoodsideMWoodside member

    Try not to find reasons to blame yourself.  It was not b/c you had 1 cup of coffee.  There are women who drink way over the recommended guideline of coffee, or smoke cigarettes, or eat "forbidden foods", etc during pg & go on to have healthy babies.  None of it makes sense or is fair.  Losses sometimes just happen.  My Dr said to me "there are so many thousands of things that have to happen at just the right moment for a pregnancy to result in a healthy baby- one of those things must just not have fallen into place with your pg."  Not that his comment made it easier, but it does make sense.

    I know it's so hard to wait for the first post-loss period.  Mine came 1 day shy of 6 weeks.  I hope yours comes soon.  It is refreshing to be able to know your body is functioning normally again and it's 1 step closer to being able to try again.

    I'm sorry for your loss.

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
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  • kelly321kelly321 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. If you find yourself stuck in the blaming-yourself game and constantly asking what you did wrong, you should consider seeing a grief counselor. Unless you were smoking crack in the evenings, you did nothing wrong. A cup of coffee did not -- did you hear me? DID NOT -- cause your miscarriage. Even a cup of coffee a day does not cause miscarriages. I'm so sorry you're blaming yourself and hope that you have a good support system to help you through this devastating time.

    BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
    BFP2: 3/18/12, blighted ovum, natural m/c @ 7w4d
    BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence

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  • momof2plusangelsmomof2plusangels
    i think the worst thing you can do is blame yourself.  so please don't do that, it will only eat you alive.  hugs.
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