WWYD- my cleaning lady is pregnant

nuttycoconut · April 2012

I hope I don't end up sounding like a total bitter b*tch in this post! So this morning my cleaning lady told me she is 10 weeks pregnant.

Some backstory - She hasn't been very sensitive during this time for me even though she almost lost her daughter to IC a few years ago. Her daughter was born at 28 weeks and almost didn't make it. However it is funny how quickly one forgets because my cleaning lady is one of those people who told me that it's okay I can have more babies and that I'm "young" so it will happen.

I might want to let her go. Partly because I don't want to see her big pregnant belly in my home and she makes me feel kinda crappy. She was complaining about morning sickness and being tired today. She also told me her pregnancy was a shock because they weren't even trying! I don't want to hear that!

I am also worried about the baby even though it's not my place to worry. She has an IC so is at risk for another Preemie. She's getting a cerclage put it at 16 weeks. I know her cervix is none of my business but it scares me to death that she is cleaning my house with a weak cervix. I hired her when I was pregnant and tried to take it easy and the unthinkable happened to me. So I don't know what to do. I'm sure she really needs my money right now but I may have to let her go. Am I being dramatic? WWYD?

fluttergirlmoonchild79 · April 2012

Based on what you've said, I would let her go. If anything simply because she is pregnant and high risk and you don't want to put her health or her baby's in jeopardy. I don't think you're being dramatic at all. I would have thought that she of all people would have a bit more compassion towards you.

johnnys june · April 2012

I agree with fluttergirl. I'm assuming she's a freelancer? I think you and your mental/emotional well being needs to come first - especially when it concerns your home -- your safe haven. If she hasn't been sensitive up to this point, I highly doubt she'll be sensitive or understand/respect your decision. But it's yours to make. You cannot please everyone or make them understand -- and that's ok. Good luck with whatever you decided. But personally, I would let her go too.

mdluv21 · April 2012

That is tough - I am not sure what I would do. When I first lost the twins I found a new hair dresser because mine is pregnant.

I hope she has enough sense to decide when she can still work and can't. I always feel bad for my cleaning lady though because I know she really depends on the income. Luckily, her children are in high school.

Sorry that is a tough situation!

barrona · April 2012

I am so sorry you are in this situation. I also agree with fluttergirl; I would let her go. She wasn't there for you when you needed it most and I also can't believe that she would complain about her current pregnancy around you. If you feel it is best to let her go then I would. And you are by no means being dramatic.

jbranden12 · April 2012

No question, I would let her go. Her being pregnant would be difficult enough for me to be around without the added insensitivity.

Petunia844 · April 2012

I'm sorry you're in this position...but I would let her go. You have a kind heart and it's amazing you want to keep her on, but you need to protect yourself and your heart. There's no way I could deal with that stress. Hopefully she will understand, but if she doesn't it's only because she's very very lucky and doesn't have to understand.

doodlescaboodles · April 2012

That's a tough situation. If you feel uncomferatable I'd let her go. It's totally understandable and it's only going to become harder as she gets further along in her pregnancy.

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