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Which positive discipline book?

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Looking on amazon, there are a number of PD books - LO will be two next month. Should I get the infant through toddler book? Im mostly looking go advice on how to get her to understand to not do things like hit or throw objects. She really doesn't seem to understand " don't " or " no" . I know, funny. ;)

 

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Re: Which positive discipline book?

  • tokenhosertokenhoser member
    Do you use your library? I always get parenting and breastfeeding books from the library and only buy it if I REALLY buy what the author is selling.
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    1. Emotional Life of the Toddler (not really discipline but very helpful)

    2. Positive Discipline

    3. Positive Discipline: The First Three Years

     When your LO is 2.5 - 3:

    4. Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For Their Early Years--Raising Children Who are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful (Positive Discipline Library)

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  • Meg&JesseMeg&Jesse
    I really liked the Positive Discipline books.  A-Z was good and so was the preschooler ones.  I did like the Working parent one, but it didn't give as many "suggestions" as the other ones.
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  • 3003girl3003girl member
    Thanks! I'm going to order some on Kindle tonight. 

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  • janenelsenjanenelsen

    As the author of the book I want to tell you why I suggest Positive Discipline the First Three Years. There is a big difference in brain development, and social skills development for children 0-3. Of course the difference continues as children develop through the years, but so many parents do not understand age appropriateness during these tender first 3 years. Expecting toddlers to understand "no" and "don't" is fruitless and frustrating--and can lead to children developing a sense of doubt and shame instead of a healthy sense of autonomy (Erik Erikson--I taught child development at a community college for 10 years :-).

         Instead of saying, "No," and "Don't," show your child what to do. Instead of, "Don't hit," try, "Touch nicely," while demonstrating. Instead of, "Don't run into the street," say, "Hold my hand and show me when it is safe to cross." Of course this requires a lot of supervision--unavoidable at this age. You might like my article on "What Does Your Child Under Three 'Know' about 'No.'"

    https://www.positivediscipline.com/articles/no.html


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  • 3003girl3003girl member

    Wow, Jane, thanks for posting!

    We are just hitting a pretty defiant stage and I hope reading your book helps.

    We usually do great with everyday things, and say "no" very infrequently. What we are having trouble with is hitting. Kiddo seems to think it's funny to hit us in the face right now, and we've tried saying "no hitting" or "be gentle" or "mommy doesn't like when you hit her" or "We don't hit" but nothing seems to be working. It's been going on for about a week. I've started to walk away from her or put her down if she hits, which makes her cry. I'll wait a short time - 30-60 seconds - and then go back to her. But, she is still hitting us out of the blue, for seemingly no reason. I will try the "touch nicely" technique. 

    Thanks again! 

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