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kimberlymautz
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To say something or not to say something...
kimberlymautz
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That is MY question.
If you know someone is naming their child something that is just AWFUL do you tell them or pretend you love it?
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Re: To say something or not to say something...
Unless they ask, neither.
ETA: "you must be so relieved to have finally settled on a name! It took/will take us forever! And you look fantastic, by the way!"
Wow, you've just touched on a number of "names" seen here! I read this board with a mix of horror and fascination, ha ha. I cannot believe what some people are seriously going to name their child, that blows me away. I guess to answer your question, I pretend to like the name, just to not offend the person....to each their own, I guess. What good does it do to tell them? They're going to do what they want in the end.....
Depends on how close you are to them. My cousin was going to name her baby boy Angel and the family was nagging her about it. So I didn't nag her about it, I just bought her a baby name book and said that maybe if she looked through it the family would get off her back. Thankfully she picked a different name.
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It depends how close I am to the person, and also whether they've decide to use that name for sure.
With one cousin I felt obligated to let her know that the name she chose for her son (particularly because of the way she spelled it) would probably be mistaken for a girl's name all the time (I figured she'd want to know because her DH has a boy-turned-girl name and eventually started going by his middle name because of it). Turns out, she didn't care, and gave him the female spelling anyway.
I still think her husband has no idea how many girls are given that particular boy name nowadays, or I'm sure he would have said hell no. I probably should have said something in front of him, lol.
I don't think I'd ever pretend to love a name, no matter how close I was or wasn't to the parent. I can't pretend to like names like Nevaeh and Kaylee. :P
It's actually two people I know. One of them asked my opinion and the other just simply told me. The first picked out a severely awful name so instead of saying anything mean or telling her how much I hate it I simply directed her to Nymbler and told her to keep looking just incase, and the other I LOVE the first name, and the rest is even pretty, it's just SO LONGGGGGGGGG. I wrote her full name a few times, and it goes over almost two lines in a notebook, a line and a half if you write tiny. Haha.
I think the only reason I don't mind telling people on here that I don't like names they choose is because I don't know them, I just don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
&& My boyfriend's name is Angel! He's Puerto Rican though and named after his grandfather, so that's not as crazy as it may be here.
This exactly.
You have no business telling anyone what to name their child. This is the internet and people ask for honest opinions. Real life doesn't (usually) work like that.
Now I really want to know the names, especially the long one, LOL! If you're worried about her googling the name and finding this thread, I think one way to avoid that is to insert a period between each letter of the name.
Like J.o.h.n. D.o.e.
Someone correct me if I'm wrong.
For me, it depends on how close I am to the parent. A good friend, I would be kind, but honest. An acquaintance, I nod and smile.
I did mention to a coworker once that when I heard one of her top choices for her DD (Annalee) all I could think of was "anally." I apologized profusely before and after telling her, but I wanted to bring it up, just in case she hadn't thought of that aspect. She hadn't, appreciated my honesty, and ended up naming her DD Amara.
My user name is my real name so I don't want to put up the long name, don't wanna start issues. Haha.
But the one I think is awful is Schiathh. But she would pronounce is Sky-uh. For a boy.
Yikes, that is for real awful.
If the person were asking me, I would try to give some variant on my honest opinion (although probably would tone it down). If they're not asking my opinion, it's not my place to give it. I'm definitely guilty of saying "oh, how cute!" while inwardly thinking "ewwwwwwwww."
Props to the PP who gave her friend the heads up on Annalee. I think there are a few situations like that where it would be reasonable to tactfully bring up the issue.
Holy cow, that is bad! IMO I would not pretend to like it, but not say anything bad about it. Just be indifferent without lying. If she asks...its fair game to say whatever you like.
Except: I knew a "insert name here" and he/she was awful. I hate that, it is so irrelevant.
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Um what? That doesn't even look like English.
Well, shoot. I guess it's back to the drawing board for me.
I never say anything bad about other people's name choices. It's not my child, nor my place, to say something.
I have my own children to name.
ETA- this applies to IRL only.
it may not be my place but if we're discussing it, i'd give my opinion, tastefully, of course.
i really want to know what kind of name is 2 lines long... sounds ridic.
Uh, wow, what the heck is that even? Horrible! This could actually be an intervention moment... NO ONE will spell that right, all through his life. Seriously, this is one of the worst I've seen.
You should put some slashes or .. in that name, because if she googles it then she will find your post. btw google asked if i meant schiit when I went to see how made up the name was or if it had a meaning.
I think the person who would consider naming their son that name wouldn't want to hear your opinion. I hope they gave him a terrific MN to fall back on later in life.
On the boards where people come for opinions I feel just fine giving an honest opinion but if they don't ask IRL I try to keep my mouth shut.
My sister found out she's pregnant again over the weekend and she shared her boy list with me and there were 2 or 3 I just didn't like so I didn't comment on those options at all. I told my top favorites and how much I loved my favorite from her list especially with her other LO's name and it took her mind off the ones I didn't really like so much.
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That is absolutely the worst name I've ever heard. I hate when people just make up pronunciations. BTW, I tried googling the name and I only got one result: this post. So you may want to delete this post in the near future so your friend doesn't stumble across it.
Same as the herb/spice?