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Can you call a co-ed BBQ a "shower"?
I'm hoping you all can help me. My friend has been very adamant on not wanting a traditional shower. She says she prefers something casual and co-ed.
Is it appropriate to throw a BBQ and still call it a shower? Would you include registry information in the invite? I'm afraid people will think it's just that, a BBQ, and not get her any gifts.
TIA for your input.
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Re: Can you call a co-ed BBQ a "shower"?
Well, sure, if it's a shower, you can call it that.
however, depending on her group of friends and whatever the norm is, I can also see how the men might see "shower" and think "heck if I'm going to that". I just know my DH and our male friends- most would have NO desire to go to a shower.
So, calling it a shower could maybe affect attendance.
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I didn't think of that...how would I word the invitation then? Perhaps something like "A BBQ in honor of baby" and then include registry info?
Honestly, none of our friends have done something like this so I will probably get some questions, which I don't mind. I just want to make sure I do this right!
Cute idea!
As long as you include registry info, people will assume it's a shower. I'd probably say something more like "a bbq honoring mom and dad to be, Jack & Jill"... or something like that.
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I like this idea.
Funny and witty. I like the Baby Bash as well. Call it what you want...BBQ for Baby-to-Be or whatever and add the registry info. Frankly, when we get an invite to anything my DH never even looks at it. I just tell him the particulars (date and time) and he comes with me. I would be the one purchasing the gift anyway.
I threw my friend a co-ed BBQ shower for her wedding. We had really cute gingham-themed invitations (we did call it a BBQ shower) and did include registry information.
Unfortunately, only 1/4 of the people brought a gift, which I was really stunned about. Even though we specified co-ed and BBQ, we also included the word shower and registry info to get the message across that this was still about "showering" the new couple.
It was definitely a fun day for everyone but like I said, only 1/4 of the people brought a gift.
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Haha all I can think is "she got porked, now here comes the stork."
My favorite shower I ever went to was just a casual party. The invite made it clear that it was co-ed AND included registry info. The only "shower" part of the evening was the opening of gifts. It was great especially since it was my new husband's friends and I knew no one.
This is the type of shower I want, too. I don't like having to play games.
Ours isn't a BBQ but it's going to be at a pizza place. Our invitations say baby shower, because yes, the idea is to "shower" us with gifts as the new parents. Both of our names are listed, and both of my parents are listed as the hosts. I think all this (and the fact that they'll be addressed to "Mr. & Mrs." and "The ___ Family") conveys the idea that it's a co ed shower, and it's casual (ya know, a pizza place).
In my experience, BBQ baby showers are co ed and don't usually have the frilly components that traditional showers have.
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Sounds like you're roasting a baby...LOL Sorry, couldn't help it.
My hosts wrote something on the invitation like "Please join us for an Italian feast to celebrate baby M" or something like that and included registry info. I can't remember the exact words. It is a co-ed shower and is really more of a party since I didn't want a traditional baby shower either.
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I had a coed BBQ/shower for my first baby. It was fun and relaxed, we had it in Aug. at my MIL's pool. I didn't want a stuffy tea party fru-fru shower, more like a fun get-together with friends.
We're having a BaByQ too!
My mom and good friend are throwing me a BabyQue. My shower will be in the summer so I figured, why not have a shower and cookout all in one?? I have a lot of male friends attending, and my bf will have his friends there also. I'm quite sure they'll prefer that rather than a traditional shower haha. If it's celebrating the upcoming birth of a child, of course calling it a shower would be appropriate. As long as you include registry info they will know!
That's exactly what I thought!! Sounds like baby is going to be the main course!