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I have been reading all your posts and i know your dh is not ready for an SA and doesn't want to do the testing, but have you done all the tests available to you? bloodwork, unltrasounds, HSG, sorry if you have already addressed this prior. Just curious as your chart usually looks good so i was wondering if it's something like a blocked tube or something that can be remedied easily? hope i am not overstepping by asking.
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  • LlamamamaLlamamama member

    Ha Ha.. you are not overstepping at all!  :) I appreciate you thinking about me!   Basically in order for me to get any tests run (other than the FSH) I have to go thru Infertility.  In order to be seen by Infertility, dh has to agree to a SA.  That is the 1st step.  They told me they won't do anything else til that is done.  Which is FRUSTRATING!

    I always think my chart looks pretty good too.. I almost wish my chart would look crappy so I would not get my hopes up EVERY month.  Maybe for me a crappy chart would actually mean something happened.  :)

     

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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member

    Seriously, Llama, I'm happy to send MH over to your DH to knock some sense into him. MH is kinda short, but he's buff and scrappy-- I'm sure he could drag DH around to get an SA.

     We have always wanted to tour wine country, so we could make a trip of it.  Wink

    I'm so sorry this is holding you up. One of my coworkers has been trying with his wife for SEVEN FREAKING YEARS. He is now 39. He JUST had an SA done. (I know-- WTH was he waiting for?!?) He has 0 sperm count. Zero. Nada. Nothing.

    7 years down the drain because he didn't get an SA earlier. His wife must be a saint. 

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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member
    And I just realized that that story could be the last thing you'd want to hear. I should add that my coworker has a TON of medical issues that are most likely tied into his zero sperm count. So his is a special case. (He's not the brightest bulb on the tree.)
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                               Me:39  MH:39 
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    TTC #2: BFP 4/22 but stalled growth and no HB at 9w3d on 5/30        

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  • chitwngal2010chitwngal2010

    that's too bad they won't do any other tests. my obgyn did an HSG i think before the SA, it's on the list of things that had to be done anyway so i think it didn't matter what order it was done. can you go to a different doctor?

    i would hate for you to find out that it was something you could have fixed and then another year or so it's too late, you may be very upset and angry with your husband down the road, does he understand that?

    seriously i don't need to tell you time is a tickin, and he needs to put his big girl panties on, or maybe you need to really have a serious heart to heart as to what is at the root of not doing the SA. just my 2 cents.

     

    good luck!

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  • LlamamamaLlamamama member

    Hmmm.. Wine AND an old fashioned A$$ whoopin'?  Sounds like a party!  :)

    I have said to dh how it IS possible he has an infection or something that he is not aware of that could be causing our issues.. It IS possible that all he needs is an antibiotic. It certainly does not mean a bunch of surgical procedures for him to endure.  Also, if he comes back free and clear he can sit back and watch me take the brunt of the embarrassing tests.  His exact words to me last week.  "I am considering it."  I told him he had 2 weeks to do so because if I am not pg this cycle I am going to be bringing it up again in a SERIOUS way.  :)

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  • LlamamamaLlamamama member

    imagedanieleandwayne:
    And I just realized that that story could be the last thing you'd want to hear. I should add that my coworker has a TON of medical issues that are most likely tied into his zero sperm count. So his is a special case. (He's not the brightest bulb on the tree.)

    Stories like that don't upset me--they fuel my fire!  

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  • LlamamamaLlamamama member
    imagechitwngal2010:

    that's too bad they won't do any other tests. my obgyn did an HSG i think before the SA, it's on the list of things that had to be done anyway so i think it didn't matter what order it was done. can you go to a different doctor?

    i would hate for you to find out that it was something you could have fixed and then another year or so it's too late, you may be very upset and angry with your husband down the road, does he understand that?

    seriously i don't need to tell you time is a tickin, and he needs to put his big girl panties on, or maybe you need to really have a serious heart to heart as to what is at the root of not doing the SA. just my 2 cents.

    I think he is STARTING to see it this way..it is clear that after all this time I am still completely obsessed with making this happen.  I don't see being able to "get over it" if I miss our window because of his stubbornness.  He has about 2 weeks to get on board the SA train!  :)

     

    good luck!

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  • Country Girl in the CityCountry Girl in the City
    imagedanieleandwayne:

    Seriously, Llama, I'm happy to send MH over to your DH to knock some sense into him. MH is kinda short, but he's buff and scrappy-- I'm sure he could drag DH around to get an SA.

     We have always wanted to tour wine country, so we could make a trip of it.  Wink

    I'm so sorry this is holding you up. One of my coworkers has been trying with his wife for SEVEN FREAKING YEARS. He is now 39. He JUST had an SA done. (I know-- WTH was he waiting for?!?) He has 0 sperm count. Zero. Nada. Nothing.

    7 years down the drain because he didn't get an SA earlier. His wife must be a saint. 

    Maybe we could make it a TTGP after 35 road trip and he could be beat up by several angry women.  That might do the trick.  Also, I really like wine.  We could do wine after the beating.

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  • AdiAdi
    Llama - kick his butt! (and by all means... take a winery tour! I did when I had given up hope...did a horseback riding one, it was a lot of fun.)
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