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Hi! Intro and question..

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Hi, I am new to this board...43 and preggo after 2 unsuccessful  attempts.?.thankfully, it looks like this one is sticking. Just told my family at 13 weeks and my sister is way ahead of me in thoughts and questions...asking me things that haven't even crossed my mind yet...or even the bumps checklist...like breast feeding, baby names, etc.  She mentioned a baby shower and I feel a little awkward about it.  She seems to want to do a full shindig, where I thought at my age, it might be more appropriate to have a small one with just close friends and family.  She disagrees and wants to have the same kind of list that I had at my bridal shower (cousins, co-workers, arms length friends,etc).  Any thoughts on this? TIA..

Btw...Congrads to you all! 

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  • carrotsoup70carrotsoup70
    Congrats and welcome! I personally think that your sister should honor your wishes about the shower. I understand your concerns because of your age (I'm 41 and will be 42 when LO is born) but if this is the only thing that is holding you back from having a bigger shower, don't let it! People love babies and I'm sure your family and friends want to celebrate with you regardless of your age.
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    Congrats! I think you should do what you feel comfortable with. 

     

     

     

      

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  • FyreFlyeRushFyreFlyeRush member

    I agree with PP. do what you're comfortable with. I declined to have a shower at all, and my mother and sister were a little offended. In the end, my mom understood my reasons and backed down. My sister called me selfish for a while, but let it go.

    Congrats and welcome!!! 

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  • jessandandy09jessandandy09 member
    ah, I always prefer a smaller shower but thats because I get embarrassed and overwhelmed by too many people giving me gifts. This is your baby and allegedly your shower, so make your wishes known.  Think of it as advocacy practice for when you have to make demands on your doctor etc... good luck :-)
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  • jessandandy09jessandandy09 member
    oh and congrats and welcome!!!!! I was so busy thinking about your shower question I didnt tell you welcome.
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  • KrissyL10KrissyL10
    Congrats and Welcome!  I'm 45 and due in July.  My daughters are 15 and 12 and I had sold or given away all of my baby stuff.  My friends are tickled that I am expecting and insisted on a shower.  I feel awkward about it too, but what the heck.  The amount of stuff I need is overwhelming so I will very much appreciate the shower gifts.  Your sister should honor your wish to have a smaller shower though. 
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  • steverstever member

    Welcome and congrats!

    And I reckon that as a FTM you're entitled to a shower if your sis wants to throw you one :)

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  • ELF4321ELF4321 member
    Welcome and good luck!  I didn't want a huge shower either, primarily because most of our family are far less well-off than we are, and I would have felt weird inviting them to a shower and having them feel obligated to give us gifts for the baby.  A couple of my friends just ended up talking me into going for afternoon tea because they wanted to do something for me, which was nice. 


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  • aprillleaprillle

    Congrats!!

    Okay, I will just admit that I would love a big ole shower but then I like to have big parties like that with lots of people - but it's for you so I would go with what you feel comfortable with. 

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