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August 2011 Moms
ambicklion
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Heartbroken (long)
ambicklion
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A while back I posted on a FFFC about my niece being pregnant and how I prayed a natural way out for this little soul would occur. She was born today (8lbs, shockingly) and is in NICU due to some oxygen issues. I do not know exactly what is going on but am trying to find out. I am so heartbroken and sick to my stomach that this innocent baby will be sent home with my niece. As some know, I do not have FB but went on my mother's account to see niece's page and started crying. Why is it legal for someone to flat out post they are a hooker, what street they are trolling in Compton and how much they made? Why would anyone spell their unborn baby's name out in the cash they made from doing this and make it their profile picture? Why, if there is a God above, would he let an innocent angel go to this situation? And please, at this point, spare me the God does everything for a reason...I'm not in the mood. She has warrants for her arrest, the DA is looking for her to testify against a pimp that tried to kill her....it just goes on and on.
I have called LA County CPS to report that she is a hooker, needs to be drug tested and that baby NOT given to her. They seem like they could care less. Maybe it is because I wanted to remain anonymous? I am scared of her retailation and the thugs she is involved with. They said they would send a referral but who knows. I'll call back tomorrow to see if anything has been put in motion. I have called the hospital NICU social worker and flat out told them everything about niece and they say their hands are tied unless she slips up and answers a question wrong. Only then will they be able to open an investigation. She asked me IF anything were to happen with the baby, would any family members take her. I said, yes, I will certainly take her. Having two under 1yr. would be challenging but at least I wouldn't be laying in bed wondering if she is being fed, held, loved properly or even alive.
I know as soon as I can get in touch with her she will tell me to eff off but I'm going to try anyway. We haven't spoken since I begged her to give her first born up for adoption, which she did, 4yrs ago. She became angry with me over something ridiculous (not helping some fellow inmate of hers) and that was it.
I had to unload this somewhere and I truly hate calling people with something this awful to say. If you have read this whole thing, thanks for letting me rant. Also, if you see any spelling or grammatical issues, sorry. I don't have the clear eyes to go back and really just don't care right now.
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Re: Heartbroken (long)
::hugs::
My heart is breaking for your niece's baby
Please keep us posted.
BFP 12/10/10 - DD1 8/16/11
BFP 10/29/13 - c/p 11/2/13
BFP 11/29/13 - DD2 7/18/14
BFP 3/20/18 - DS1 due 12/2/18
Thanks Ladies. I truly appreciate your thoughts and kind words.
Shanado: Maybe so. If I don't get her, I hope someone deserving does.
Mrs. Stew: From what I understand, she has a male with her that she listed as the father so if she goes to jail, the baby stays with him. I do not know if he really is the father or if he is her pimp. This is an aspect that makes me even more SICK and SCARED....what if this is just some pimp she put as the father???
I have never been glad a baby is in NICU until now. At least I know she will be safe and unharmed for a little while.
That's scary. Keep calling CPS and talking to the social worker at the hospital. Keep us posted...we'll be thinking about you!
BFP 12/10/10 - DD1 8/16/11
BFP 10/29/13 - c/p 11/2/13
BFP 11/29/13 - DD2 7/18/14
BFP 3/20/18 - DS1 due 12/2/18
Oh wow, Amb. My heart is also breaking for this baby! It was just born and is all happy and healthy, and I can only imagine the filth and neglect she will be exposed to. I hope your cousin changes her ways, and tries to be a fit mother...I really do. But, unfortunately, most people like this just don't care, and the children usually follow in their footsteps.
I will keep her baby in my thoughts and prayers in hopes she gets the care and love she deserves from her mother.
I am so sorry that you have this going on. Thoughts and prayers are being sent. I second (or third at this point) what everyone is saying about calling the hospital and CPS daily!!! If she has warrants can you call your local PD?
I think you are a great aunt doing this a lot of people would have said well I tried and left it alone... ad hard as it is going to be STAY STRONG!! : )
Im heartbroken reading this post. I cant even wrap my head around it and this isnt even my family. You or some other family member needs to come forward and give your name. I know its not your responsibility and I am sure this sort of thing happens all the time but you are doing your best and if that little girl was to be given to you she will in time.
I will pray for a miracle because that it was that baby is and that is what she deserves.
Wow, that is a lot to deal with. I'm sorry you are oing through this, but I applaud you for being willing to step in for the baby. Not everyone would do this (I can tell you a story sometime, but now is not it). Hang in there and keep reporting. Maybe get other family members to call as well.
My coworker is a foster parent and she picked her youngest up from NICU because (I assume, she can't really tell me) that there were drugs and an abusive situation going on. The older sibling was already placed with my coworker. Keep working on it. Offer to your niece to keep her daughter. Make it an attractive offer for her. She may take you up on it if she realizes she has a sick baby that requires lots of medical care and attention.
Thank you all, really. It is difficult being on the opposite coast from this situation. At least if we were near each other I could maybe persuade her more easily or know that when she hits her wits end she could drop her off to me. We ALL know how challenging being a new parent is and for the most part we all have some sort of support. She has nothing but literally pimps and hookers in her life and chooses it to be that way.
My first action tomorrow will be to follow up with the two social workers I spoke to today. I then will call niece and tell her my experience with a healthy baby, try to explain how it will be even harder for baby K and to please call me if she ever has the thought I can't/won't do this any longer. I will be on the first flight from D.C. to L.A. I want so badly to ask her what she plans on doing with K when she's out "turning a trick" but know that is an immediate fail. She is so very spiteful and I fear she will cut off all communication if the wind doesn't blow right. I do want to entice her with a perfect scenario for baby K but I know why she is having and trying to keep her. She feels like she has never been loved and thinks this is the way to fill that void. She has had a traumatic life but trying to "make" a love is impossible in this type of situation, IMO.
It is surreal how my mother and I fought to pull her and and her brother from their awful home and now I may be doing the same thing again but to her.
I am the only one calling as of now. My mother is terrified she will find out and cut off communication again as she has so many times before. We really have to handle this situation as careful as possible. Niece's father and step-mother really have nothing to do with her and she them. My sister, her mother, is the biggest piece of sh!t on the planet so we haven't had any contact with her in several years. It is family dysfunction at its finest. Niece's brother lives with my mother since we had him removed by CPS from his home at the age of 14. He has developmental and behavioral issues as well as has been declared disabled due to his IQ. He is now 25 and will never live independently. This poor little baby already has some hereditary issues to battle with not to mention the environmental issues she will have. I'm just tapping my fingers until CA opens for the day.
I wish I had more help but I don't. There is more of an explanation in the previous post I replied to.
Wow, totally making me tear up. You are an awesome person, you are doing all the right things. Keep your chin up, at least that precious baby has you love and care for her. I will keep praying for you!
I used to work for social services and just wanted to say, keep on doing what your doing. Bug the hell out of the CPS, the squeaky wheel does get the most grease. Tell everyone you know about the situation, you never know who knows someone high up who can pull some strings or take a special look at the case, plenty of families are bi-coastal so you just don't know. If you're not getting much help from CPS ask them who else you can call, we always worked closely with the police, so maybe there is a police liaison officer you can talk to who has dealt with this kind of scenario before.
Its okay to be mad at God and to not wanna hear people say cliches like "everything happens for a reason." I'm a Christian through and through and I feel the same as you about this, good families struggle with infertility and drug addicts and hookers pop out babies like bread in a toaster. Anyway I know there are plenty of times when it may not feel like its doing any good but prayer is powerful - keep telling us to pray, tell people at church, get everyone there praying, don't give up and tell us if we can help in any way at all.