Do you have Godparents Picked?

wp3772 · April 2012

If so have you asked them or are you waiting until after your baby is born?

DH and I have picked but we have not ask them yet. I was thinking of waiting until after Ella has arrived - I have read poems and other cute ways to ask.. But any suggestions or real life experiences??

I want to make it special when I ask them because it does mean a lot to me!

BarefootRI · April 2012

We didn't ask in any special way. DH has two brothers and I have two sisters. We picked one of his brothers and one of my sisters to be DD's godparents, and the other two knew that they would be the godparents for Baby #2. We never even had to ask DH's other brother this time because as soon as we announced we were pregnant, he was all "YES! I'm a godfather!" haha. I asked my sister over the phone (we are long distance) but I'm sure she was expecting it.

SallySunrise · April 2012

Do you mean Godparents in the religious sense, or are you talking about "guardians" as in, who will raise your children should both you and DH pass away? Some people use the words interchangeably.

We do not have religious Godparents for our children. (We are religious, but not Catholic.) Our children's legal guardians will be my brother and FSIL, and we just asked them in person last weekend. They were very surprised and honored, and were happy to accept the responsibility. We trust them 100%.

wp3772 · April 2012

SallySunrise:
Do you mean Godparents in the religious sense, or are you talking about "guardians" as in, who will raise your children should both you and DH pass away? Some people use the words interchangeably.
We do not have religious Godparents for our children. (We are religious, but not Catholic.) Our children's legal guardians will be my brother and FSIL, and we just asked them in person last weekend. They were very surprised and honored, and were happy to accept the responsibility. We trust them 100%.

I am catholic, so i mean in the religious sense, my husband just looks at it as who is going to take care of her if we are to pass... So i guess my answer is C. All of the Above!! haha

angelfire02 · April 2012

We have godparents picked out and I have asked the two god mothers but we haven't asked the god fathers. I asked my cousin and best friend when we were out one day just the three of us. My husband wants to wait to ask his friends in person also and we don't see them as much as they don't live real close. As for guardians we haven't picked those yet.....it's something so important I know we have to do but I feel like it's a huge thing to ask of someone and we want the same guardians for all of our future children so we have to think about who would be willing to take on 3-4 additional children if God forbid something did happen to us. It's a lot of pressure!!!

Davesgrl2011 · April 2012

I know who I want to be Godparents, but we are Catholic and the churches around here are giving us a hard time b/c we literally don't know anyone who is confirmed, and you have to be confirmed to be a Godparent. The best we can do is have one (confirmed) Godparent and one "Christian witness" who CANNOT be Catholic but MUST be christian. We always thought it would be my sister and BIL for baby #1 (but neither are confirmed) and my DH's brother and SIL (not confirmed and SIL is Jewish). I'm for having the baby christianed in a protestant church (my mom is protestant) since the Catholic churches are so rigid.

Oh- and we haven't picked guardians. Have no idea who it would be.

kjem182 · April 2012

I would consider our LO's godparents and guardians one and the same as we would only choose guardians that shared our faith. And we just cannot decide. It's an awesome responsibility-we want a couple that would raise our child the way we would raise our child, and that is not easy to find. While I love my brother, he and his wife have very different values than we do and I just don't see leaving our kid with them. We don't have any friends that we'd feel comfortable asking-they either have several children of their own and it would be a huge expense to take on our child (CA-high cost of living for each child), or they don't have children and live a life we can't see a child fitting in to. It's hard, because I'm not sure if you looked at dh and I from the outside, we'd seem like great parents, either! We work all the time and are constantly busy and I have too many projects going, etc. It's TOUGH.

JulesFo · April 2012

We're also Catholic. Since we try to have the baptism as soon after the birth as possible, we have asked (both times) before the baby is born. Also, we have family that is out of town, so having it arranged ahead of time is good.

I couldn't find a cute way that wasn't cheesy, so we just asked, but will give a godparent gift at the baptism. To us and to the people we asked, it is already a very special thing so we didn't feel the need to ask in any way other than just, "we admire you so much and want our child to have your qualities. We trust your guidance and want you to have a special place in her life."

Good luck -- I'm sure whatever way you decide will be just right for you guys!

mamayo26 · April 2012

We are Jewish so we need to aske the g-parents ahead of time as they are part of the bris (which we are actually doing a mini bris in the hospital).

I wanted to do something cute to ask my best friend, but i just ended up blurting it out. My husband is going to ask our BIL to be the godfather and i am sure he isn't going to do anything cute...

Now g-parents are different from the legal guardians for us, except that I asked SIL and BIL to be the legal guardians, and DH wants BIL to be the godfather too, so he gets dual roles.

Good luck!

JennyJensing · April 2012

BarefootRI:
We didn't ask in any special way. DH has two brothers and I have two sisters. We picked one of his brothers and one of my sisters to be DD's godparents, and the other two knew that they would be the godparents for Baby #2. We never even had to ask DH's other brother this time because as soon as we announced we were pregnant, he was all "YES! I'm a godfather!" haha. I asked my sister over the phone (we are long distance) but I'm sure she was expecting it.

This kind of. My brother and his wife will be the Godparents and we just asked over the phone because they are long distance and, really, that's their style anyway since they have 3 kids of their own.

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