MC last week

krisztina33 · April 2012

I found out last week that I was pregnant with my first--around 6 weeks, only to find out a few days later that my HCG levels had plummeted and a MC was imminent. I'm really struggling right now. People keep throwing platitudes at me "it wasn't meant to be", "you weren't that far along", "you only knew for a week, so why is it such a big deal?"

I'm truly devastated. Any words of encouragement for someone that has made it to the other side would be greatly appreciated. I think the worst part is that physcially I still "feel" pregnant--sore breasts etc. It seems a cruel trick of nature.

JennyP0222 · April 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage and still had all the pregnancy symptoms for several weeks after finding out that my pregnancy had failed. It really is horrible. I was very angry at my body for doing that to me. Finally losing the symptoms was a relief for me because it meant I was starting to heal physically and regulate again. I was TTC when I became pregnant and knew I would want to try again as soon as I was able.

There really are no words to make you feel better but just know that you are among friends here who have been through this and absolutely understand your heartbreak. Do not worry about what others think about your grief either. You have suffered a tremendous loss and have the right to feel whatever it is you feel. I promise it does get better, day by day. <<hugs>>

MrsPBandJ · April 2012

So sorry for your loss. I also only knew I was pregnant for just over a week, but already my husband and I had so many plans and dreams for our child that were completely shattered in one moment. People say stupid things because they simply don't know what to say and they can't imagine what you are feeling. Find people who will just listen, whether in real life or here.

Like the PP, I had pregnancy symptoms for 2 1/2 weeks after my miscarriage until I had passed all the tissue. Hope things get better for you soon.

BravoBravo · April 2012

I think some people don't understand that as soon as you find out you are pregnant there are hopes and dreams attached. You need time to grieve over the loss of that. And some just don't know how to respond.

Even my sweet MIL said "well you can take comfort that there was never a baby"... I had a blighted ovum. Tongue Tied

krisztina33 · April 2012

Thank you all for your words of comfort--I completely agree that the second you find out (especially if you have been TTC), you can't help but start planning and dreaming of that little one's place in your life. Today seems a bit easier, and knowing that I am not alone (it's truly heartbreaking how common MCs are...) gives me strength. Wishing you all courage and hope on your journeys! <<hugs>>

heather4hawks · April 2012

So sorry for your loss. Hope the healing process comes quickly for you, both physically and emotionally. No one knows or understands what it feels like unless they have been in your shoes. Just keep in mind that people don't know how to react and are just trying to help, although they often make things worse.

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