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FB pregnancy announcment

SarafussSarafuss member
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A friend of mine announced on FB yesterday that she's pregnant and due December 24th.  I saw the due date and had to look it up on the due date calculator.  That makes her 4 weeks pregnant today.  I just cannot imagine.  I feel like a terrible person but I am having a hard time feeling happy/excited for her.  Maybe if the pg test were dry before she annouced it would be a little easier.  I hate being bitter.  Everytime I think about it keep telling myself that the fact that she is pregnant has nothing to do with me.  And we're not even TTC right now.  I'm not sure what's wrong with me... Embarrassed

ETA:  Not sure what the point of my post was...just venting I guess.

Married 9/19/09
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1  starting Nov. 2009
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks 
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15.  Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15.  Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
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Re: FB pregnancy announcment

  • JenCWJenCW member

    I don't think anything is wrong with you!!!

    Taking my IF issues out of it, it seems crazy to put it out there in such a public forum so soon.  Even if you are bursting at the seems to tell someone, tell your mom, your BFF, even some of your close family members, but don't throw it up on FB.

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  • MouseygailMouseygail member
    I know how you feel...the secretary here at work started TTC her second right after I did...and she got pg her first cycle...and I found out the through the office grapevine BEFORE she was even 4 weeks...yep.  crazy.  (oh, and its extra awesome to watch her belly grow by the day as a constant reminder...)
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  • SarafussSarafuss member

    imageMouseygail:
    I know how you feel...the secretary here at work started TTC her second right after I did...and she got pg her first cycle...and I found out the through the office grapevine BEFORE she was even 4 weeks...yep.  crazy.  (oh, and its extra awesome to watch her belly grow by the day as a constant reminder...)

    Ugh, I'm sorry you have to deal with it at work.  That makes it so much harder to see it every day.  ((hugs))

    Married 9/19/09
    Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
    TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
    TTC#1  starting Nov. 2009
    3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
    TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 
    TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks 
    Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15.  Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15.  Forever in our hearts.
    TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
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  • IBackBevoIBackBevo member

    imageMouseygail:
    I know how you feel...the secretary here at work started TTC her second right after I did...and she got pg her first cycle...and I found out the through the office grapevine BEFORE she was even 4 weeks...yep.  crazy.  (oh, and its extra awesome to watch her belly grow by the day as a constant reminder...)

    Oh, I've sooo been there!!!  One of the support staff got pregnant accidentally (not even married, lives with her Dad) while I was TTC.  I got my IF diagnosis right when she was about 7-8 months pregnant.  It got even better when she had the baby and started bringing it to work...that was right about the time I was starting ART.  Then, one day, she sent me a completely b**chy email and cc'd my boss...even lied about me not turning in my time to her (I'm an attorney and she does the billing). I sent her back an equally b**chy email. Then my boss came in and said that he understood that her email was inappropriate but asked me to cut her some slack because she was a new Mom and that was really hard, blah, blah, blah.  I snapped back at him, "Well, it hasn't exactly been easy on me being told at age 31 that I can't have kids and if I do manage to get pregnant any child I have could be disabled all while having to come to work everyday and have a baby shoved down my throat." He just stood there looking stunned. 

    IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
    2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
    BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
    Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
    BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014

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  • hanncannahanncanna
    I agree. I'm 21 weeks pregnant with twins after 2 years of trying and this weekend I went to 2 parties looking obviously pregnant. Of course photos were taken and friends posted them to FB. I decided to not untag myself...and this is as public as I've ever gotten about my pregnancy in public!
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  • Mrs.RockyMMrs.RockyM member
    I'm with you. A friend announced her pregnancy at like 8 weeks, and she's 4 weeks behind me.  I still haven't announced mine because I'm freaking out over the possibility of loss because of the CVS.  She only found out about me because she called me out and I just couldn't lie.  She's even posted on facebook.
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  • MBandBudMBandBud member
    My guilt comes from feeling like if something were to happen I would think to myself 'that is why you shouldn't announce so early'.  But nothing ever happens in these instances.  So I'm just then guilty and mean and guilty.  Then I just feel even more broken.  BLEHHH.. 
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  • emmyloustuemmyloustu
    Well, just to play infertile devil's advocate, I got my 1st BFP exactly 3yrs ago today and as soon as we told family and friends, it was up on FB the same day with an edd of 12/24. We were bursting at the seams with excitement and had been sharing our IVF journey via FB. I'm sure fertiles and infertiles alike may have found it ballsy or annoying of attention whorish or too early, but frankly, I didn't care. I announced my surprise BFP very, very early on FB, too. I a, just a very open person. 
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  • lillinzloulillinzlou
    No one, except us, understands the sting of a pregnancy announcement.
    Conceived DD after 15 cycles--- TTC #2 since 11/10---Me- Poor egg quality and supply---DH- Poor count and motility---2 rounds 75IU Follistim/IUI-BFN---5/12 150IU Follistim/IUI-Over-produced! Converted to IVF! 0 fertilized:( Rescue ICSI performed. 2 embryos transfered-BFN

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