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BM got married...did not even tell SS she was dating...

Let alone wait two more months till SS got home for summer break to have the wedding. 

I give the marriage less than a year, because any man who is happy enough to marry someone without wanting his potential SS (SD was invited) there, let alone want to meet SS (it's a pretty good indicator that she won't be taking SS back like she threatened us last year) indicates some lack of moral fortitude.

Whatever else my feelings for SS are, he does not deserve this. And the fact that SD didn't have the spine to call DH in advance just makes me cringe.  

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Re: BM got married...did not even tell SS she was dating...

  • Who does something like that?! It broke my DH`s heart and my own that BM would not let SD attend our destination wedding. How could you do that to your own child?
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  • Nice. I thought SS had decided he was going to live with her when y'all moved back to the states anyway? (or do I have that backwards?). Has he expressed any feelings on this or do you think he will just take it out on you guys? (with his history I expect the latter, but I wonder of maybe there is a way for you to sit down and try to talk to him to prevent any crazy outbursts)
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  • That's f'd. I can't believe it. We made sure we had both kids with us when we got married. I couldn't imagine not having one of them there.
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    Who does something like that?!

    My ex.  His girlfriend of a month or so moved in (they didn't even know he was dating her) one night and they woke up to find her living there.  They got married on my younger son's birthday, when I had all the kids with me and despite the fact that he had them for the five weeks prior.  "It was the only weekend we could have a honeymoon."

    Rocks for brains, I tell you.  Rocks for brains.


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  • We didn't have our kids with us - but they were 2 and 3 and we eloped.

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  • I'm kind of curious how you guys even found out about it!

    she was so secretive about the BF but now that they are married she's out in the open? weiiiiird

                           
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    I'm kind of curious how you guys even found out about it!

    she was so secretive about the BF but now that they are married she's out in the open? weiiiiird

    Oh...she emailed DH last Tuesday to see when we would be back from our trip so we would be here when she told him. 

    See, she is smart enough to recognize that someone needs to be here when she told him, but not smart enough to recognize that she should have waited 2 more effing months to have this wedding when SS was home.

    The only POSITVE out of this...this was the kick in the butt to have DH go after her for Child support for the next 2 years.  ESPECIALLY since:

    A) DH will be unemployed/retired and we would most certainly be getting a reasonable sum of money.

    B) the odds of BM now wanting her son to live with her are slimmer now that she has a new husband at home.

     

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  • Who marries someone that has never met their child?

    Who marries someone with a child and doesn't bother to meet that child?

     

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  • Wooooooooooooahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh WTF?????

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    I'm floored. 

    Oh...she emailed DH last Tuesday to see when we would be back from our trip so we would be here when she told him. 

    Cowardly.

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    Who marries someone that has never met their child?

    Who marries someone with a child and doesn't bother to meet that child?

     

    BM is marrying (or maybe already has we aren't 100% sure) a guy that has 5 kids and SD has no idea he has any kids.  BM's last husband (she is on #5 and the last one was married for at least 3 years)) had 3 kids that SD never knew existed.  We can't understand how you can marry someone who doesn't have contact with his kids for some reason or another and you think it's safe/good idea for your own child to be around him.  The only reason we know he has 5 kids is because DH had a PI friend look into the guy and DH's sister confirmed he has kids.

     

    We made sure SD was at our wedding.  We planned it for our weekend and didn't even take a honeymoon because we had her.  We went to a hotel that night but we made SD was at our wedding.  She was our flower girl and I wouldn't have had it any other way.

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  • Wow...no wonder your SS is a mess.  His mom is a piece of work.

    I found out from my mom that my dad was getting married.  She thought I already knew because he had told my sister.  That was a mess, I can't imagine if he had gone off and gotten hitched without telling me.  What a shitty, shitty thing to do.

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