Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Complete Placenta Previa and C-Section
I also had complete previa with DD. I had a bleed at 31 weeks and was in the hospital for 3 days. While there I was given steroid shots in case the bleeding didn't stop and she had to be delivered then. It did stop so I was sent home on bedrest. My c section was scheduled for 39w3d(my dr likes to wait as long as possible-the dr I saw in the hospital said he would do an amnio at 36w and deliver then if her lungs were mature) but I actually delivered at exactly 36 weeks. We were in the hospital for an NST and they found that I was having regular contractions. The on call dr gave me a couple doses of Procardia to try and stop them but it didn't work.
She was 5lbs6oz and perfectly healthy. We didn't need any NICU time and she got to come home with me when I was discharged.
I know it's scary, but you will most likely have a good outcome. It's definitly hard to follow bedrest orders when you have a toddler, but just remember that it's not forever and it really is the best thing for your baby. Good luck!
I had complete placenta previa with my second. I had my first bleed at 30 weeks, I went to the hospital and the bleeding stopped shortly after I got there. They kept me overnight and the next day I was sent home on strict bed rest. My oldest was almost 9 months at the time and instead of going home we went to my parents house (otherwise I would have been on hospital bed rest for the remainder of my pregnancy).
Before we left the hospital I was told if I bleed again to call 911. Well on March 12th about 2 in the morning I woke up with a massive bleed. My mom called for the ambulance and I was rushed to my local hospital. My doctor came in and told me I would be staying at the hospital until my scheduled c-section on March 27th, when I would be 37 weeks (my oldest was born at 37 weeks 6 days so they wanted to get number 2 out before I went into labour).
At supper time that night I had another huge bleed and passed a big clot. The nurse came in and told me to not eat my supper and got me an iv all set up. When she finished my doctor came in and told me I would be going by ambulance to a larger hospital with a NICU. The nurse looked at my family and said "DO NOT follow". We were going to head down as fast as we could including lights and sirens.
On the way the nurse (I had a nurse and a paramedic that was taking neonatal courses in the back with me) that each bleed will get worse so they wanted to get me to a hospital that was better equiped in case they needed to do a c/s. Well she was right I had 2 more massive bleeds with huge clots (sorry if it is tmi but when I passed the clots they were big enough to feel).
The next day I had no bleeding so I was hoping that was the end of the bleeding and we would make it to 37 weeks. Well no such luck. I woke up at about 8 am on the 14th to yet another bleed. I called the nurse and they said I would be heading down to l&d very soon. By 9 I was in l&d and they started prepping me for an emergancy c/s. And at 12:16 pm my baby boy was born at 35 weeks 1 day. He ended up being in the NICU for 11 days and is now home and doing wonderful.
Sorry that was so long. Hopefully you can make it to your c/s. I don't mean to scare you but I always find it best to know good AND bad stories so you can be prepared for both cases. I think what I experienced is less common most people make it to there c/s date.
Also my doctor suggested I take iron because with placenta previa you lose mor blood than normal so taking iron should help decrease your risk of a transfusion. Good luck with everything.
I just had a c/s due to what was thought to be a marginal previa but turned out to be complete. On Feb 14th I had an ultrasound that revealed the marginal previa. On the 19th I got home from work, went to bed but couldn't sleep so I took a bath. After getting out I felt a pop and a gush of blood. This was pregnancy number 4 and I had never had any bleeding so this was a concern. I went in to l &d and ended up staying until the 24th because I had bleeding off and on for three days(had to be episode free for 48 hours before being released). I woke up that 2nd night at around midnight to use the bathroom and when I sat up, I could feel the clots rushing out. That was scary and there must have been at least 4 baseball sized ones. The doc said that it was the blood that had pooled and just came out when I sat up (I was sleeping hard because I had vistaril to help me sleep) so he said wait until am to see if there was more bleeding. There wasn't a lot from then on so when I was episode free for 48 hours I was sent home. That was on the 24th. The next day I started bleeding again and "knew" I was going to have baby then. That was 34 weeks, 5 days. I had him that night, 2 1/2 hours after going in. They realized I was having contractions on the monitor, but not painful to me, so they gave two doses of terbutaline. The first worked magically, and the second, not so much. I got up to use the bathroom and basically started "peeing" blood. That's when I called the nurse and they got me prepped for surgery.
My little guy was 6lb 8oz and in the NICU for 6 days. He's home now and will be 6 weeks on Sat and weighs over 9lbs! That's what happens when you breastfeed every two hours 'round the clock!
I also have a complete placenta previa. I am currently home on complete bed rest after a bleed at 33 weeks 2 days. I am now 35 weeks 1 day. My bleed happened in the middle of the night- I woke up thinking I had to pee and when I stood up felt a sudden gush, followed by 2 more. I have never been so scared in my life! My husband raced me to the hospital. The bleeding stopped pretty quickly, but they kept me in for 3 days and gave me the 2 steroid shots, just in case. I was having contractions every 2 minutes for a while, but they have eased up after the last few weeks. I am taking Procardia (nifedipine) for an irritable uterus and will still have mild contractions every now and again. I am starting to relax a little but for the first few days home, I was afraid to even go to sleep and had trouble eating- I had been up an hour before my bleed and had PB and toast and they were worried at the hospital because I had eaten and might have to have an emergency c-section. No bleeding since. We have optimistically scheduled my c-section for May 1st. Only 2 weeks to go!
My advice would be to just try and relax as much as you can and take it easy. If you don't have a job where you are on your feet a lot, your MD will probably let you keep working ( I worked the day I had the bleed). Unfortunately, these things are pretty hard to predict, but resting as much as possible should help.
Good luck!!