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Please get me excited again!

BigAppleBiggerBellyBigAppleBiggerBelly member
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Hi ladies, I haven't posted here much but have been reading all of your stories for months.  Two months ago I was fully keyed up for my natural birth experience, but now that I'm days/weeks away, the doubt is creeping in.  I'm sure a lot of it had to do with reading awful birth stories on my BMB, and part of it is me second-guessing my own strength and willpower.

 I've tried listening to hypno tracks and rereading favorite Ina Mae stories, but I can't get that "I am woman; hear me roar" feeling back.

Any suggestions to re-empower me during this final stretch?  Thanks!

Belly Dweller: EDD 04/22/2014
Big Boy: Born 05/2012
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Re: Please get me excited again!

  • JcrabJcrab
    www.birthingwithoutfearblog.com is really awesome! Maybe make a list of the reasons why you want a natural birth, having it in writing might help. You can do this, wouldn't you be disappointed after the fact if you didn't even try?
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  • BonidiebabeBonidiebabe

    I went though a phase where I told myself that I would not read any of the birth stories on our BMB. Weeeelllll..... I did anyway. I try to take it all as motivation/inspiration. I know some of those woman are very happy with their induction or section. Good for them. It just scares me to read it though. Just remember your desires!

    I don't want my little boy to be all drugged up when our eyes meet for the first time. Nor do I want to be drugged. I can't wait to experience that moment of ..... "oh my gosh, I made this child" and feel all that love fill my heart. I'm sure some women that had the drugs would say that felt that anyway. Well, how do they know it couldn't have been more intense if their hormones were not being interferred with. Simply put, I can't wait to experience the birth high. I really want to be able to do the breast crawl. Yet another reason I don't want Dilan to be drugged.  

    Getting close to the end and being in so much pain right now just walking around does put a little bit of doubt in my head that I can do this. I just have to believe in myself. I have to!

    Remind yourself of why you considered NB to begin with. Go back and look at some of your motivating factors. I love watching NB videos and reading NB stories. I am about to read Ina May's guide to childbirth again as well. From participating on this board over the last few months, i think it is completely normal for us to be second guessing ourselves and why we chose to do this. You don't have to be gung-ho excited. I don't think many women are when it comes to pushing the baby out.

    I am wishing you the best and I really hope that you can stay strong for yourself and your LO. Its all about frame of mind. Stay positive!! : )

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  • MitoRachelMitoRachel member
    When I was at the point in my pregnancy that you are I could have written your post word for word. However, when the day came I was excited to be in labor once it started and never once did I want to change my mind and have an epi or pain meds. I wanted to have a natural birth because of the health benefits, but in the end the reason I am most thankful to have been able to have a natural birth is because of the experience. There really is nothing like being able to fully participate in the birth of your child. 
    Married to E on June 5, 2010
    Gave birth to baby boy, I, on March 25, 2012
    Gave birth to baby girl, A, on May 20, 2013
    Baby #3 due April 29, 2015

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  • KatFCoKatFCo member

    Not sure if you're doing hypnobirthing or hypnobabies, but hypno babies has a "fear-clearing" track that might be useful. Also the affirmations track.

    Make sure you're getting enough rest; fatigue can really let the doubts creep in. One thing that helped me get that feeling was to watch a youtube video of a woman giving home waterbirth using hypnobabies. She was so calm and peaceful and then all of a sudden, here's a baby!

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  • KateLouiseKateLouise member

    I don't have any strategies or tips to suggest I just wanted to say that giving birth has been the most exciting, empowering, miraculous thing I have ever done. yes it's hard work and yes it's painful, and yes you will almost certainly hit a point where you think you can't go on or do anymore, and when you do you will probably be very close to the end.

    I am envious of you because you are about to experience this wonderful thing. (LO was 1 day old and I was clucky to do it all over again) No matter what kind of birth you end up having you will end up with this tiny bundle of pure loveliness that you have created.

    I am excited and thrilled for you as I am for all FTMs because until you've lived it you cannot understand it. But in my opnion the pain is immaterial when it comes to seeing those tiny fingers and feeling that beautifully soft skin.

    I wish you nothing but the best for your upcoming labour and birth. 

     

     

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  • BigAppleBiggerBellyBigAppleBiggerBelly member
    Thank you all for your responses!  KateLouise, your enthusiasm is exactly what I needed to hear!  Bonidie, let's make April proud :)
    Belly Dweller: EDD 04/22/2014
    Big Boy: Born 05/2012
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