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LIAngel
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So I mentioned to the Pedi about DS only wanting to use the potty at home
LIAngel
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my mom had to bring the kids to the Dr today while I'm at work (both have sinus infections, she has ear infection) and as a "by the way". My mom mentioned to the Dr the fact that Nicholas will only use the potty at home. I told her to ask him about that. So he'll hold it in for up to 4 or 5 hours and then as soon as he gets home from school he'll pee- A LOT. She also mentioned that he won't even go on the potty at her house (yesterday he had 2 accidents since he didn't get home til almost 3, but he just wouldn't use the potty at my mom's house- even though DH brought his potty from home).
So the Dr said that holding it in for that long isn't good. It can cause bladder infection. He said that if he continues to do that (not wanting to go at school or any place other than home), that I should stop for a few weeks and then start back up again when he is more mature. But I don't want to do that. That to me would be going backwards and would undo what we did these past 2 weeks. Why would I put him back in a diaper or Pull Up?
So WWYD? Would you stop and then start up again? My gut says no.
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Re: So I mentioned to the Pedi about DS only wanting to use the potty at home
If he won't potty anywhere but home, even though he's doing great at home then to me he's not really ready to comprehend that big boys go on potty's wherever you are. So yes, I'd follow the ped's advice.
Let me ask you this in a very blunt way. Would you rather he got a bladder infection by holding it that he needed to be catheterized to test, then needed antibiotics and be back to square one anyway? (and FYI the catheterization is traumatizing for him, for you, and for anyone else in the room when it's done!!! DS was PETRIFIED of the doctor for an entire year after he was cath'd and his was done at the ER not at his ped's office. We couldn't even take him with us if we needed to take one or both of the girls in because he would cling to me and SCREAM if the ped was in the room with us!
It's also possible that just the threat of needed to go back into diapers because he won't use the potty at grandma's and at school will kick start him into realizing pottying on the big boy potty means wherever you go.
I don't know. I hear boys are harder to PT so I am not sure if this is a factor. I would explain to him that the doctor said if he does not go potty at school or at Grandma's house then he needs to wear diapers like a baby again. I would phrase it like that too. I think at over 3 years old he is old enough to understand and will start to go.
Good Luck!
Thank you for your responses. The preschool he goes to will accept kids in diapers if they are in the K1 and the K2 classes. My DS is still in K2. But in order for him to enter K3 this coming August, he needs to be fully PT'ed. So we started working on it now, when he was home for Spring Break last week. Since I know PTing boys is harder, I wanted to start now so that when August comes I'm not panicking like "Oh crap he starts school in a few weeks I better get him on the toilet".
And no of course I don't want him to get a bladder infection. We just started PTing last week and this was the first week he was out of the house for any length of time. Pedi says to give it a week or 2 so I'll do that and then figure out what I'm going to do from there.
I'd put him in a Pull-Up when you aren't home.
When you are out and about with him I'd have him try to go every 30 minutes or so. Don't wait until he tells you. Tell him it's time to try to go potty.
I also tink that telling him that he might need to go back to diapers will get him serious.
If you just starte PTing a week ago of course he doesn't understand that he needs to go potty outside of home! Put him in a pull up or whatever when you go somewhere and encourage him to use the potty outside of his comfort zone. If he doesn't want to, at least he can go in the pull up and you're not cleaning up a mess and he's not holding it.
My DS has been PT'd (during the day) for a few months but I still put a cloth diaper on him when we go out for more than a couple hours b/c he's not ready to use a public potty. He's scared and that's ok. I'm not pushing it. I just tell him he's going to wear one just in case and he gets tons of hugs and praise when he comes home dry (95% of the time he's dry).
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Here are some ideas...
Can he watch DH go potty at different places? If he sees that Dad (or another guy) goes in other potties it may help. DH normally doesn't like to deal with it but DS has done much better once he started taking him to public potties.
Have you tried standing up vs sitting down? DS will not sit on potties outside our house but will stand and pee. (Can't believe how finicky toddlers are!)
Are you taking him to the potty even when he doesn't ask (at grandma's and school)? We normally try every hour or so no matter what, at grandma's house DS gets a reward no matter whether he actually goes, he just has to try.
yes he goes at set times at school- usually every hour. And my mom or my sister (when they babysit him at their homes) will take him every hour. He'll sit and try, but just won't go.