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Toddlers: 24 Months+
Hysterical at bed won't stay in her bed and at 1 am Help...
DD has been pretty good about staying in her "big girl bed" She doesn't always go to sleep right away but plays in bed and talks or plays her music thing.
Last night - OMG. She was hysterical at her door everytime I tried to keep her in bed. Like can't catch your breath hysterical. She kept telling me she wanted to snuggle and then draw. She finally fell asleep 2 hours later "drawing" on her magnadoodle in my bed. Then at 1 am kicking and screaming - but couldn't tell if she was awake. This went on for about 1/2 hour and then fell asleep while I rocked her in the recliner in the living room. (we are downstairs, she is upstairs) She was up at 330 the night before.
What do you think? Nightmares? I have never experienced this with her. I need her to sleep in her bed and I feel like I am losing the battles with her lately.
TIA!
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Re: Hysterical at bed won't stay in her bed and at 1 am Help...
I have not made the transition to a "big girl bed" yet. DD is happy in her crib & I see no reason to fix what's not broken. Is there a reason you had to move your DD from a crib? Maybe she's not ready for a regular bed yet.
As for the keeping her in the big girl bed I would be consistent & not let her out of her room once you've put her in there for the night even when she's upset or you"re just starting from square one each time you let her out of her room or in your bed or draw. I would not give her the magnadoodle even in her own room. Just keep going in her room & putting her back in her bed. Put a baby gate on her door so she can't get out on her own. Good luck & I hope everyone starts to get some sleep soon.
I suggest you pick up 1,2,3 Magic and read the chapter on bedtimes.
We were going through the same thing with DS. He had been in his big boy bed for months and was doing great. Then all of the sudden he started really fighting bed time. He was ok up to the point that I left his room. He would start crying, getting out of bed, screaming, etc. Then he started coming into our room at night screaming that he wanted to sleep with us. OMG DH and I thought wtf happened to our kid! After a few nights of this BS, we put up the baby gate (which pissed him off even more!) and started following the ideas in 123 Magic. Basically there is no talking and no emotion on my part or DH's (even though we are super annoyed and frustrated when DS does this). We calmly lead him back to bed, tuck him back in, kiss him and leave. NO talking at all. We do this in the middle of the night too. The baby gate is still up every single night but he rarely gets up now. If he gets up to go potty I lift him over the gate, carry him to the bathroom, help him go, and it's immediately back to bed. Not a single word is spoken but he gets hugs and kisses.
GL! It's super frustrating!
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I did not transition ds1 to a big boy bed until he was almost 3 and we are nowhere near transitioning ds2.
If I were in this predicament, I would do the Super Nanny way and stay consistent with it. Once she is in her bed for the night, she stays in her bed. If she gets out, you go in and put her right back to bed. No snuggles, talking, drawing, etc.
I also do not believe in playing in bed either. If she is having quite time (instead of a nap) that is one thing, but being put to bed for nighttime, then that is meant for sleeping, not playing.
Good luck!!
Were you referring to my post? If so, I didn't say that 2 was too young for a toddler, bed. I was simply stating our experience and what I would do in the same situation. I do think that 2 is too young for both of MY boys, but could be different for someone else's child. It really depends on the child. So in reference to your remark of: "it's silly but it bugs me that so many parents keep toddlers in cribs. time for real beds!" that statement in itself is silly. If a child is comfortable where he/she is, why the need to rush a transition that isn't necessary?
This is a great suggestion. Don't allow her to play or draw or anything when she should be sleeping. Just keep putting her back. We have a baby gate on our son's door so he can't just walk around or so whatever at night and it works great because we can still see him and check on him. Just set the rules and keep to it. She might be having bad dreams. My oldest son went through that at that age and still does but he can express himself better now. Just cuddle her a little until she is fine and put her back in bed.
I don't agree with this last line -- DD isn't in a bed yet, she's still in a crib. We would love to have her in a bed, but i'm concerned about her safety. I hear her through the monitor and she gets up in the middle of the night, sings, talks to her animals, and i'm fairly sure she'd walk out of the room if she was in a bed. I don't want her wandering around our upstairs area. She knows how to open up the gate, doors, etc. So we want to wait until she'll a little older. We will be transitioning her to a bed in a few months - so it's not like we'll keep her in there forever. I don't understand why you're bugged by this.
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Our LO has had some struggles with waking in the night and sometimes getting hysterical.
We haven't worked out if it's nightmares, some kind of pain, or just disrupted sleep.
It's a hassle, but it is improving and I figure it's just something that will pass.
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