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wwnbw
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SS and his lies
wwnbw
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It was kind of strange to see the post below because mine has to do with a car wreck too.
So remember last week my post about SS (12) and CPS? I don't want to go into that agian but this week we have a new problem. Today DH took SS to the dentist and then to school. We got a call from them asking about a death in the family and asking why SS was at school. I was shocked because there was no death in the family. He was telling his friends AND teacher that his step brother died in a car wreck and he saw it and saw the car crumble. When he got home he said his friend asked him why he looked so depressed and so that is what he told him. He told us he had a dream that an 18 wheeler crashed into a car and killed the step brother and when he told everyone at school he left out the dream part. He doesn't really seem to see anything wrong with it. He said his teacher didn't even care it was a lie and was put off we were making a issue of it.
I'm worried....like I don't want to leave him with my other kids for even 5 seconds. I don't know if he would do anything or not. I just think this is not somthing a normal person would say. I'm calling tomorrow to get therapist or someone for him to talk to. He says nothing is wrong and he doesn't want to go but he will be going. Am I wrong to be scared? Is this is as serious as I think it is? Any advice?
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Re: SS and his lies
is this the only time he's done something like this? Or is there a pattern of behavior?
In my opinion, if this is the only time he's done something like this then it was probably a "trying to get attention by being dramatic" thing that went farther than he had intended it to and he was embarrassed to tell anyone he made it up. I don't think you have anything to worry about and I wouldn't haul him off to therapy for a one time bad decision like this. I would just talk to him about how serious those comments are and how that is not the appropriate way to get attention.
Now, if this is a pattern of behavior and he's OFTEN talking about his stepbrother dying, then I would be more concerned.
I agree with all this and think you may be over reacting a bit. He is 12. Both my sons told big whoppers at this age. The last one that really sticks out was when the youngest told us "his friend at school got hit by a tsunami". After that the whole family dubbed his friend "Tsunami Sid". Everytime we knew he was telling a whopper we asked him if he was hanging out with his friend "Tsunami Sid". Now we apply it to anyone we know may be lying.
They do eventually grow out of it. Like PP said, it sounds like he is looking for attention. You might want to try causually asking him in a few days (when he doesn't feel like he is in trouble) why he made up the story. If he is open to the discussion it would give you a chance to tell him he has a great imagination but there is an appropriate time/place to employ it. Good luck. I know how you feel. It tears my gut up when my kids lie.