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KristenFMR
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Court Help
KristenFMR
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We are about to go into yet another court battle next week. Every 3 months or so BM takes my husband back to court for more child support but always masks it with some other complaint. For a while it was that I was overstepping my boundaries, communication, we're not letting stepson call her, ect. It always has some other issue in the order which has always been just smoke and mirrors to get the judge riled up and off the topic of money. Unfortnately we have a very female biased judge who gets caught up in thinks that are not at all relevant to why we are there. It is so stressful going to court several times a year. We already pay well over the amount of child support that we should but BM keeps saying she'll take her chances with the judge to try to get more.
This time her issue is communication. She does not like emailing or texting with my husband she prefers to call him. The problem is that she gets highly emotional on the phone and says bad things about him and myself in front of my SS. She also has problems with lying, very frequently and anytime she gets caught in a lie over email she says she can no longer text or email that it all must take place over the phone. She does not want a paper trail of her going off on my DH. I am confused as to how the courts can order my husband to communicate via phone. It's as if the courts are trying to force them to get along and this relationship is well beyond repair. At this point we just hope for a professional type relationship which would be best for the child. My husbands concern is that if communication goes to phone only she can say and do whatever she wants with no recourse and he has no proof. What would you suggest in this case? Should we submit a motion that communication be written so we have documentation? I just don't see how someone can hope to fix communication by making it all madatory over the phone.
I am tired of not getting our side of things heard but I hate wasting the courts time on stupid things that will not resolve anything. Why can't some people just move on with their lives
Vent over thanks so much!
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Re: Court Help
you can absolutely request only written communication, just as she is requesting only verbal communication.
In order for a request for written communication you need to say that BM has access to say e-mails or text messaging or what have you. her attorney could very easily advise her to get rid of her internet for a few months and then you are SOL.
hopefully you guys have an attorney and can try to figure out a way to show the judge that it is "justified" to have written communication in order to keep track of specifics (not to tattle on BM for her nasty comments)
We are awaiting our court date but are going to ask a judge to only allow written communication. its harder for us bc BM doesn't have access to a computer during the day, her husband takes their laptop to work, so she only has access at night. plus, like your bm, she has gotten caught in a few lies over the e-mail so its easier for her to manipulate us over the phone.
best of luck!
Oh yes they are always from my husband I have never contacted her expect for my SS calling her from my phone a few times.