feeling very alone

TLR813 · April 2012

It's only been 5 days since my d & c, and I'm not doing as well as I hoped. Still crying everyday, although not as often. For something that seems to be common, I feel so alone in this. DH was great in the beginning, but he doesn't want to talk about the m/c anymore. My mom has shockingly been less than sympathetic, so I've given up trying to talk to her. The few people who know what happened try to be there for me and listen, but since they haven't gone through a m/c, they just don't understand. I feel like this board is all I have to get my feelings out. I'm heartbroken and angry, but trying to get back to hopeful. I just want to curl up into a ball, and stay in my own world for awhile. I swear if I go on facebook and see one more person announce a pregnancy, or post pictures of a sonogram or baby bump, I'm gonna lose it!

Thanks for letting me get that out.

Laurakat81 · April 2012

(((hugs)))

I can relate to that alone feeling. Only people who have gone through it can understand and even then many of them are afraid to admit how bad it was.

It does get better.

MrsPBandJ · April 2012

I'm sorry for your loss. It's definitely normal to have ups and downs. My husband has been very supportive, but he usually doesn't know what to say to me because he isn't experiencing all of the physical and hormonal effects like I am. I haven't spoken with anyone in real life who has gone through a miscarriage, but I'm sure the other ladies here will tell you that what you're experiencing is totally normal and fine.

I also suggest avoiding facebook for a while, as I agree it can be hard to hear about someone else's good news when you're feeling sad.

JennOH85 · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. It makes all of the pain feel so much worse when you feel isolated and cut off from everything. I have been there. It does get better, I promise, but not right away. It's been almost seven weeks since my MC and I've slowly been getting stronger, but if I'm being honest, I still cry at least once every day. It's okay if you need to retreat into your own world for awhile. Get your feelings out however you need to -- on this board, in a journal, whatever helps you to heal. Wishing you peace and comfort. ((hugs))

oktobersky · April 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's been 4 weeks since my miscarriage and I totally understand the feeling of being alone. About a week after my miscarriage I almost went numb and now dip in and out of all the negative emotions. When I feel any bit of peace, I try not to question it or ask why I don't feel the need to cry right at that moment. On the flip side, I know that one small thing will trigger me to completely break down.

I really hope that you start to feel better soon. I hate that you and all the other women here have to deal with this. Please remember that you're not alone, even though it really feels like it. If you ever want to vent or let out your emotions you can send me a private message.

Durve2008 · April 2012

I am sorry for your loss. Although my husband was great through he m/c...I def noticed that it was easier for him to "move on" than for me. I also have a hard time with FB right now. I am mad at myself for being jealous of everyone else that seems to be preg. It kills me to see sonograms right now. I totally understand how you feel...you are not alone.

flip*flop · April 2012

I'm so sorry. Left Hug

McPetey80 · April 2012

i just had a D&E on Monday. i can relate and i think really the only people that can are the ones who have gone through it. i also think it's much different for a man and a woman going through it. my husband is equally heartbroken but i think, being the woman and having carried the baby and had the procedure and m/c happen to our bodies - the loss is much deeper for us. i was thinking about this last night....because i wonder why i just break down and feel in such despair...and my husband, who also cries, but seems to hold it together more than me. i really didn't think i would be THIS upset but i feel so depressed.

McPetey80 · April 2012

also, i have inactivated FB from my phone and haven't logged on in over a week. all my friends are pregnant. one of my friends just announced her pregnancy the day i found out my bad news (last week) and i completely lost it. i've found avoiding FB has been helpful. even avoiding the bump was helpful but i needed a support group so just came back on today. coming onto thebump also hurts, just seeing all the baby stuff everywhere.

JennyP0222 · April 2012

I am sorry that you are feeling this way. I think many of us on this board can relate. It really is something that is hard to comprehend for anyone that has not gone through it. Just remember that whatever you feel is okay and there is no set time frame for when you should stop crying and feel the grief of this. You are going through a very emotional and heart breaking loss and you deserve to feel and do whatever you need to in order to cope with it. I wish you the best. Please trust in the fact that as each day passes, the pain will subside a bit. It won't go away but it will get easier.

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