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Meeting the kids for the first time

Tiffany0614Tiffany0614 member
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DH and I are going to meet the children we hope to adopt for the first time this weekend. DH thought we should take them a small gift. I hadn't thought about it. My concern is their foster mom also has two small children of her own. What if she brings them? I don't know if she will or not. Is it common to bring the children something at the first meeting?

Me 30/DH 31 Married in June 2003. TTC since 2008. M/c in Nov. 2008. D/x: DOR and MFI 5 cycles of IUI in 2010. IVF #1 in Nov. 2011. ER 11/22. ET 11/25. BFN.
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  • ctbride08ctbride08 member

    I would bring something to do that could double as a gift - that way if the foster mom brings the other children noone is left out.  Stickers and paper, coloring books and crayons, play dough (depending upon where you are meeting), bubbles, ect.  It'll help break the ice and give the children something to focus on while you are meeting.

     

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  • Tiffany0614Tiffany0614 member
    We're actually meeting at a Burger King with a play area (foster mom's suggestion).

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    I think the colouring books are a great idea (obviously bubbles in a play area aren't going to be the best situation lol). That way there's something they can do if they choose to stay right near you instead of off playing...
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  • mamatojtsmamatojts

    I would bring something for each child.

    a. the foster parents kiddos won't be sad they didn't get anything

    b. so it doesn't look like you're trying to "buy" the kids with gifts. (sadly, that's the way some caseworkers may look at it)

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  • Amy720Amy720

    I would bring something for all the kids.  Good luck!

     

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  • Tiffany0614Tiffany0614 member
    Thanks everyone! Sounds like the consensus is to definitely bring something. We can't wait to meet them!

    Me 30/DH 31 Married in June 2003. TTC since 2008. M/c in Nov. 2008. D/x: DOR and MFI 5 cycles of IUI in 2010. IVF #1 in Nov. 2011. ER 11/22. ET 11/25. BFN.
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