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Re: TTT
1) YA dystopian fiction+running around with a bunch of toddlers=crazy zombie baby dreams. Sleep is not happening very much in my world.
2) My boss has added another two reports to my day.
3) Ann talked seriously about me starting an in home daycare next year.
4) CD 10 and I am crossing every body part I can that this cycle works.
5) It got cold here again...not freezing (except at night) but enough where capris and flip flops are not going to cut it.
6) I am taking a half day tomorrow.
7) I am spending a good portion of that half day cleaning out the playroom at my mom's house. A lot of the toys just need donated.
8) My mom and I are going to a big Moms' sale this weekend and I am super excited.
9) During our morning meeting we talked about crock pots. I
my crock pots.
10) I need a major girls' night but with my besties living in NE and IN it is hard to come by.
1. Today is the hearing, I wonder what the decision will be.
2. Telling the truth is the #1 rule in our house, we make sure the kids know how important being honest is but one of the kids doesn't seem to care and lies everyday. I've done all I can to help her understand, I don't know what to do to stop it anymore.
3. I still can't believe that the LA county SW falsified the paperwork...
4. A storm is coming in tonight and should last through the end of the week.
5. I love Kristin Hannah books.
6. 2brides got me interested in this geocaching business, I think A would really enjoy it.
7. Apple met one of our cats yesterday, she was so excited to touch her.
8. The Backyatdigans mentioned baklava this morning and now I want some.
9. I fell asleep with a coughdrop in my mouth and no matter how much I brush my teeth, my mouth still feels and tastes gross.
10. I found a presbyterian church near me and the pastor was very sweet in addressing the gay issue when I emailed her, I'm looking forward to visiting soon.
Two Mommies Healing Hearts
1. I'm so excited for mommymonster
2. I spent the morning designing/redesigning our adoption announcements. I love them!
3. I happened to get a cute shot of the kids on easter that made the perfect finishing touch for the annoucement.
4. How do you navigate the balance between being there for someone who is unwell and going through a difficult time vs the need for positivity and not surrounding yourself with people/a person who always brings you down?
5. Number 4 is the main question in my life right now.
6. And number 5 pisses me off because the main question in my life right now should be: What should my kids wear to their adoption? OR What should we do to commemorate that special day?
7. I wish my life could be simply happy for a while.
8. my weightloss has also stalled and its very fustrating. I've been going to the gym 4-5x a week and eating relatively well. wtf? i wish i could be one of those people that loses weight from stress but it appears to be the opposite.
9. next week we have family pics and I'm sad I haven't lost more weight for them.
10. But really though, I'd love your thoughts on #4.
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1. Even though I was only out yesterday, I feel like I haven't been at work in a month. It is a busy day.
2. The kids were so annoying last night. I think it was combination of being tired and being out of their school routine for over a week. L had them in bed at 7:03 and asleep by 7:25. LOL.
3. L is out tonight and I plan on having a similar bedtime. After all, they are going to be exhausted from school. RIGHT?
4. I had very vivid and strange dreams last night.
5. I love L's car. But it is funny going from driving/riding in an Explorer for 8y and a minivan for 6y. I feel like we are sitting on the ground.
6. But I am insanely jealous of the gas mileage she is going to get. It is 2.5x better than her old car or my van.
7. I took Grayson to the grocery store alone this weekend. It was like taking Eddie Haskell (please tell me you know who Eddie Haskell is!) It was such a different experience than taking both kids. I don't know if it is Carter and his silliness/potential ADHD or the fact that the 2 kids play off each other. But it was so nice and pleasant.
8. The weather here is nuts. High of 57 tomorrow and 80 on Sunday.
9. I might hunt down and strangle L's committee chair myself. It has been 1m and she hasn't read the 1 page IRB document that L sent to her. That means that L is 1 more month behind in getting this freaking dissertation written.
10. I can't believe that the kids' birthday is in 5w and we haven't figured out what we are doing. They really want Chuck E Cheese, but the one by their school (and near where their friends live) is GROSS. I am afraid if we do the other one (30m away) no one will come. The area near their school/friends is pretty limited on options and we've already done bowling and bouncing.
1. Semester is winding down and I am super busy with papers...blah I am procrastinating as we speak.
2. Talked to our nurse at the REs office yesterday and they want to move to injectables for the two baby tries we are taking this summer. DW has the slowest moving cycle and they are trying to get more than one follie in less then 25 days this time which is what happened last round on clomid.
3. Injectables are EXPENSIVE!!!
4. We talked switching to known donor a lot and decided to wait on our decision there. We still have some frozen little fellas left and we just are not ready to give up on them yet. Plus the 400 miles between us and known donor is going to take more than a couple months to plot out.
5. I am very excited about our summer baby tries. It was depressing pausing TTC in January and I feel like we are moving ahead again.
6. 2brides- I agree the weather around here is RIDICULOUS right now.
7. I was sworn in as an officer of our Graduate Student Government last week. It was exciting to get involved again and I even get a small stipend.
8. One of the issues we are addressing at my very Catholic University is inclusion of sexual orientation in our non-discrimination clause.
9. I really love my MSW program but I am not a fan of my advisor. I cannot wait to be able to switch in the fall.
10. I really better stop fooling around and write this paper lol.
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
1. I am fed up with the workers I supervise. They've done so many random annoying things this week and don't seem to be responding to my gentle redirection. I'm trying to step the gentleness down a little bit, but it does not come naturally.
2. It doesn't help that I've been struggling with motivation to do my own job.
3. How many times can I calculate and recalculate due dates and maternity leave finances and vacation and and and...
4. DW and I had a really nice date night this weekend. We also had fun celebrating Easter together (dying eggs, church, cooking Easter dinner).
5. It's probably a good thing that I really like my wife, huh?
6. I've been working harder at the whole weight loss thing, but it doesn't seem to be paying off.
7. I want DW to start/finish reading Hunger Games so we can go see the movie.
8. I kind of miss my old office and job. It sort of feels like the promotion is temporary and real life will be back soon, but that's not the case.
9. Easter leftovers for lunch are delicious.
10. I want my car to live forever, but I wish it didn't look so beat up in the mean time.
IVF Oct/Nov 2012
Beta #1 = 77, Beta #2 = 190, Beta #3 = 1044
Cautiously optimistic.
And you would be completely justified! K's committee chair once held onto a chapter for FOUR months!!
Question though - if L hasn't gotten IRB approval yet then I'm assuming she hasn't done the study part of her dissertation (or maybe it was just some other IRB document). Is that correct? Has all of her writing been the chapters leading up to the research/study portion?
Bingo.
Oy! I don't envy you at all! K had IRB approval from the start so that she could start sending off letters to the people that she knew she would need to interview. Is L all set to go on the next step once approval is given? I would bet she's hating that she can't move forward because someone can't process paperwork in a timely manner.
For K, the chapters leading up to the study/research (or in her case interviews) was a lot but not nearly as time consuming as everything post-interviews. Now perhaps in reality it was just as much time but since it was spread out it didn't feel as intense - idk? What I do know, is that that the final 4 chapters were the most intensive for her. I hope for you that L is the opposite - that her early chapters were the hard ones
they wouldn't let her apply for IRB until her prospectus was done - though they didn't tell her that they needed to review the IRB application until her prospectus meeting (3/14) and they still haven't read it.She has the letters ready to send as soon as the IRB comes through. S
he feels that the interview process will go faster than the prospectus chapters because she is doing a phenomenology research methodology which involves a lot references. I think her references for the first 3 chapters is something like 23 pages. But what do I know?
Stay away from the references! I've spent six hours this week going line by line of the bibliography to make sure that all APA formatting is correct. It was also my job to go through the entire paper (all 300+pages) and make sure that each article/source referenced was actually in the bibliography.
If L asks you to help with that job find an excuse not to as quickly as possible!
I hope L's committee chair moves on this soon and she can continue on. You'll get to the end - promise! :-)
You're a good wife! ;-)
K did. It was well worth it. Not sure how many interviews L has, but I think K had 6ish and the transcription was a few hundred dollars. I had tried to type them out but even at my fastest I wasn't getting through the hours of tape fast enough. If L needs a recommendation I can find out the name of the company that K used.
1. I am jealous of MommyMonster!
2. Working from home today and cooking a bunch. Over lunch I made quinoa to heat up and eat with shrimp another day this week, and I roasted brussel sprouts to eat with dinner tomorrow night. I'm making chicken breasts tonight for later in the week and Gwen's lunches, and for dinner tonight, homemade pizza on Naan crust. And roasted asparagus. Mmmm. Can't wait.
3. My cousin called asking for a favor that I don't even think I can do (legally), and I just annoyed by the whole thing. [Just to clarify, its not illegal, its just not something I can legally do for him. He has to do it.]
4. This weekend was so nice though. Great weekends make up for a lot.
5. Trav is cranky lately. I'm cranky too, so his crankiness just annoys the piss out of me. Its a bad combo. I'm hoping the homemade pizza makes him happy and we can have a good family night.
6. My friend has her first OB appointment today... I can't wait to hear how it went! I'm so happy for her.
I can't seem to concentrate today... this has been open since 10, so I'm just posting it!
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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1. Our fourth week of foster classes is tonight- I can't believe how fast this is going by!
2. We had our first home visit by the home finder last Thursday and it went fabulously! We also have our background check paperwork in and fingerprinting this weekend.
3. Looks like another BFN from our last two frozen embies. We're certainly not shocked.
4. I'm scheduled for a hysteroscopy and laproscopy in may so well be taking a break from TTC at least for a couple months.
5. I'm looking forward to a break. I have not felt like myself since the IVF in September. I've gained ten pounds, I'm almost always overly emotional and I just don't feel like I'm as happy as I used to be.
6. Work has been super busy recently. Two projects that I've been developing for well over a year have finally started which makes for one happy, dorky scientist but long work days
7. The sicilian Easter pie ended up as a success!
8. I think we're going to attemp to paint this weekend. We have three rooms that need to be done before our home inspection in May.
9. I really thought I would make it to ten, but it looks like this is a nine things Tuesday for me!
IUI #2 (100 mg clomid and HCG trigger) - BFN
IUI #3 (Gonal-f and HCG trigger) - BFN
IVF #1 - 21 retrieved, 20 mature, 15 fertilized (ICSI), 2 d5 blasts transferred, 8 frozen - c/p
FET #1 - BFFN
FET #2 - BFN? c/p? Either way no baby
FET #3 - No shock...BFN
FET #4 - BFN :-(
Surgery and TTC cancelled - pursuing surrogacy
7/31/12 Surrogate got a +HPT!!!!
Oh no, you have a dissertation purist on your hands. I'm like this too, and I finally got great advice from one of my Masters committee members, which was essentially "I think you have learned enough, now you just need to finish it".
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
I wish I had an easy answer for this, but I've been struggling with this question for most of my adult life. You need to figure out boundaries, but it is always difficult. For me, reading/learning about codependency was essential, and realizing that I wasn't responsible for other people's behavior (and the potentially terrible consequences of that behavior). I don't get the sense that you are quite in the same place (your boundaries seem fairly good), but it's good to be reminded that you have a right to put yourself and your own needs first sometimes.
Also, just on a logistical level, helping the person to get other supports in place helps sometimes. Encouraging the person to get a therapist, that they can always rely on their sponsor, that there are support groups they can turn to etc might take some of the burden off.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
1. Today was pretty much a completely lost day for me. Just getting to my normal stuff now at 5 pm.
2. We had our consultation at the Chicago Women's Health Center this moring. We reviewed C's charts, got the okay to start inseminating, talked a little bit about legal issues, and got some instruction on how to do insemination.
3. This means we're a go for our first insemination next week.
4. However, we haven't consulted with a lawyer, which was suggested by the woman at CWHC. Ordinarily I would be all over suggesting lawyers, but the relationship with our donor is so trusting, and frankly, I don't really want to deal with it.
5. I've had three job interviews in the last week and a half. Now I'm just waiting to hear if I get any offers.
6. I am really ready to have a job again. I don't do well with large amounts of unstructured time.
7. I am also nervous about having to make what feels like a very big career decision right now.
8. I got to spend a bunch of time last week with my friend's four month old. I really want a baby...NOW.
9. I have no idea how I'm going to get dinner on the table every night once C and I are both working full time. I feel like I'm barely on top of it right now when I'm not working.
10. I don't really have a #10.
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
1. Mommymonster, I'm glad you're back and that good changes have been happening!
2. My wife finally started looking at new donors this morning. I had narrowed the catalog down to about 15 for her to look at. I have my favorites and I'm excited to hear what she thinks.
3. Tomorrow I get to call CCB to see if we're getting our money back for Crappy Vial #1. I can't imagine how they can get away with not paying, but we'll see.
4. Assuming we do get reimbursed/credited for the 2 crappy vials, our next two vials will essentially be free...which would be a huge bonus! I'm hoping one of them works and we just have to worry about buying sibling sperm. Look at me being all optimistic!
5. I got a bill for $20 from my RE's office today. At first I thought it said I owed $2,600 (that's what my insurance paid) and I nearly died.
6. I have radishes, two kinds of lettuce, leeks, peas, garlic, and arugula sprouting in my garden, and tomatoes and basil sprouting in my sun room. I can't wait until we can eat some of it!
7. I cannot stop eating Easter candy.
8. I just got back from vacation a few weeks ago and all I can think of is my next vacation (late July).
9. I can never make it
10. to 10 without faking it.
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
1. J just left to go to her parents for the night.
2. Her mom has another pain management appointment with her doctor tomorrow and with the meds she'll be getting, she'll be feeling pretty loopy.
3. It's also going to be weird sleeping alone.
4. Our kitty keeps getting sick
I think I'm going to have to get him medicine for his hair balls and switch his food. Poor kitty.
5. It's snowing outside right now. Ick. We had a cookout for Easter and it's snowing now... That just doesn't make any sense, lol.
6. We're trying to plan our next insemination. It should be sometime within the next week to week and a half! Yay!
7. I have lots and lots of cleaning that I have to do tomorrow. I'm really hoping that I can get the motivation!
8. We made an amazing spaghetti bake with chicken and a bunch of cheese for dinner. Best leftovers ever!
9. Looks like it's a night of tv with the fur kids!
10. I just realized how boring we really are!
Have a great week
*DS 6/28/2013*
1. Buffalo Wild Wings for dinner--YUM!
2. Dinner at 10:00. Totally our norm lately. We need to start getting a better schedule. We're so focused on the babies that we're skipping meals and just not eating how we should be.
3. I have a migraine. Had one yesterday too. I believe #2 plays into this.
4. Gabriel was inconsolable last night. It gives me such anxiety when he is screaming at the top of his lungs and absolutely NOTHING helps. I really feel bad for him.
5. We got the house cleaned over the past couple days and it is SO NICE. I really hope it stays this way for a while.
6. I FINISHED THE NURSERIES. I really hoped they would be done long before now, but with them coming about 7 weeks early, it just didn't happen. I made Isabella's mobile completely by hand. I can't believe how long it took, but it is so beautiful. For Gabriel's room, it is alphabet theme and we hand painted a set of wooden letters. It turned out so cute. Maybe i'll post some pics.
7. I miss the warm weather. It's so nice to be able to have them out for walks rather than being cooped up in the house.
8. Mel had a job interview today and I REALLY hope she gets the job because the schedule would be so amazing for us. It's a job where she would work every weekend, but it is day shift. We've both had nursing jobs in the past that were every weekend. It does eventually get old, but the idea of only needing daycare 1-2% of the time sounds wonderful.
9. The babies are already in size 1 diapers, almost 9# and eating 4 oz. Seems crazy.
10. Foods here, time to eat!
Crazy! Glad they've caught up so well, you won't be fitting them into baskets for photos for much longer!
AMH 0.5, AFC 5-8, FSH 7ish
IVF #1 - antagonist. Empty follicle syndrome. 1 retrieved, 0 fertilized.
IVF #2 - antagonist. Ovulated early. 3 retrieved, 2 fertilized, 0 blasts
I'm having this experience with my sister, which is really tough, since I only have one sister. But she's really negative, and clearly has some unaddressed mental health issues, and is drinking a lot- She's cut us out of her life multiple times in the last two years, which makes me sad since my kids don't even know her.
Then, randomly, she shows up at our family party a few weeks ago.
So, for me, I continue to include her in things, even if she's negative and cuts us out, because I want to be the kind of person that includes her. But I also don't get sucked into her negativity and drama, because I would rather focus on my life than that drama, so I don't respond to her hateful emails (she doesn't call me, but I wouldnt reply if she did since she's always negative)
I want to make sure she feels included in the family, but I don't have to put up with her drama. I would decide what you are willing to do, and then stick to that- for your own sanity.
I'm sorry you are going through this, and I hope it settles down in the near future.
thank you - thanks to all who replied!
I can relate to a lot of what you said. Unfortunately the situation escalated yesterday and its to be determined where we go from here, but I will keep your words in mind as we move forward.
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