S/O Fighting ...no one fights about s.e.x?

JessandJeremy · April 2012

As in...someone wants it more often than someone else? I think DH would be happy with it every night of the week....me...I'd rather sleep. Come on....who else fights over the frequency of it?

BeccaLandes · April 2012

we definitely do! it isn't necessarily a "fight," meaning no raised voices or accusations, but more a recurring disagreement. i almost never want it, and he almost always does.

EmilyAnne · April 2012

JessandJeremy:
As in...someone wants it more often than someone else? I think DH would be happy with it every night of the week....me...I'd rather sleep. Come on....who else fights over the frequency of it?

Oopsies! Yes, we do. I am so on the same page as you. Embarrassed

DeputiesWife · April 2012

we totally do. but not fighting, fighting if that makes sense.

DH definitely doesnt think we do often enough. Me. I am fine sleeping. HOwever, with his hours coming and going at all hours doesnt really make for a good time.

ladychicago · April 2012

I would say this comes up maybe twice a year? And in the past it has been a big issue, but less so lately. First, because after our last heart to heart I made a pledge to be better about it (ie more excited about it more often), and second because my DH has been traveling so much, we both just assume it is going to happen on the nights he is home. The last several months we have both been making an effort on this front, and so far, so good!

JustaKidAtHeart · April 2012

BeccaLandes:
we definitely do! it isn't necessarily a "fight," meaning no raised voices or accusations, but more a recurring disagreement. i almost never want it, and he almost always does.

This but Im the one that wants it.

LVBlvd · April 2012

We used to, but not anymore. After I weaned the twins and recovered from my surgery, I made a promise to myself to act more excited and willing to participate. And it was kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy...when I started acting more excited, I started being happier about it and wanting it more myself.

But I am a SAHM whose kids sleep until 8, so I am fine with staying up a little later to keep things healthy in that department.

naflmj · April 2012

I wouldn't say we fight but definitely not in agreement on how often. Right now he's good since I am the size of a whale but when not pregnant he does get aggravated when I don't want it all the time.To be honest, I wish I wanted it more often, I just don't.

kianew · April 2012

JessandJeremy:
As in...someone wants it more often than someone else? I think DH would be happy with it every night of the week....me...I'd rather sleep. Come on....who else fights over the frequency of it?

Ditto this.

This is a very common fight/argument in our house.

ALY1981 · April 2012

DeputiesWife:
we totally do. but not fighting, fighting if that makes sense.
DH definitely doesnt think we do often enough. Me. I am fine sleeping. HOwever, with his hours coming and going at all hours doesnt really make for a good time.

I'm inthe same boat! Our schedules are always conflicting and now that we've added a baby into the mix it's so hard to find the time. I'm certain we get busy more than others but he still would like it more frequently. Snooze....im exhausted!

dana316 · April 2012

We used to fight a LOT about sex. Me needing it more than him...it was super frustrating on my part.

Now, since having babies, I need less and he wants more...so we've met in the middle. Our sex life now is pretty great...but we struggled with it for a lot of years.

We did have a LONG dry spell after Parker was born...but since we've moved him to his own bedroom things are much much much better.

PrincessShay80 · April 2012

We don't fight about it, but we discuss it. We are actually on a mission to get some sort of intimacy back in our relationships. We are doing date nights, at least 2 a month- and I'm just going to have to force myself into sex, I hope maybe then I will start enjoying it again.

DH wants it all the time, but would be happy with it once a week, I couldn't care less- I could never do it and be totally content. I just want to sleep at this point.

desabean · April 2012

We do not fight about it but it is sometimes the big white elephant in the room since we have not had it in so long. He actually asked me a while ago if we were ever going to do it again. I felt really bad (but not bad enough to have it ; ) I do want us to have a better/more active sex life too and that is a priority for me post baby but not now.

mikiesgirl70106 · April 2012

JustaKidAtHeart:
BeccaLandes:
we definitely do! it isn't necessarily a "fight," meaning no raised voices or accusations, but more a recurring disagreement. i almost never want it, and he almost always does.

This but Im the one that wants it.

Ditto... I'm always wanting it more than him... In our relationship it's seems I'm the husband and he's the wife... LOL!!

amberleeb · April 2012

BeccaLandes:
we definitely do! it isn't necessarily a "fight," meaning no raised voices or accusations, but more a recurring disagreement. i almost never want it, and he almost always does.

This is us right now exactly. I am totally not into PG sex, I am so tired! When I am not PG it is fine.

emmyloustu · April 2012

BeccaLandes:
we definitely do! it isn't necessarily a "fight," meaning no raised voices or accusations, but more a recurring disagreement. i almost never want it, and he almost always does.

This, exactly. Physical intimacy is a big part of the way my DH feels satisfied in how we connect & it's a big stress reliever for him. I've always struggled with low libido & when I'm nursing, forget it. My drive is as low as ever & I'm always exhausted. DH gets grumpy & crabby & snippy when sex is infrequent which leads to more bickering in general. It's a hit button sue for us, probably the only one in our marriage.

Sara Scissors · April 2012

HA, we'd have to have it to fight about it!

Sadly it's low on both our priorities list right now and has been since Bennett was born. He still doesn't STTN so we'd both rather sleep most nights!

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