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B-day party advice. Cancel/postpone?

armywife76armywife76 member
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I bought everything for Chase's b-day party before all of this came up, and if I'm still going to have it on the 21st as planned, I need to get the invites out in the next couple days. It's a circus party theme, mostly family and about 5 friend with kids. I'll be out about $100 including perishable food/custom invites, etc. if I postpone/cancel it, but to be honest the thought of germs potentially coming into my house getting Grant sick again is making me nervous. Would you go ahead and have on the 21st so Chase doesn't get the shaft (and ask people not to touch/hold the baby), postpone it a month or so until after Grant's surgery, or just scrap it until next year? We could always just have a small celebration with just us, I guess. ETA: just remembered the circus-themed outfits for both from etsy that I ordered that won't fit next year. Make that $200. Crap.
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  • pandabearloverpandabearlover

    I went ahead and had Betsy's party the year Carly was born. Carly was 5 weeks early and I was supposed to have her party the week Carly came home from the NICU.  I postposed it by 2 weeks, mostly because I hadn't been home in 2 weeks and I knew my house would be a disaster.  

    DH's aunt held the baby almost the whole time and kept her away from the little kids that were there.  She didn't get sick (it was during the swine flu hysteria).

    I'm not sure what he is having surgery for, but depending on what the docs say, I might postpone it a month or so.  But I would still have a party for him, even if it's just immediate family and the only picture you get is him blowing out his candles with his circus shirt on.  You only turn 2 once! 

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    It probably depends on your family/friends.  I know if I had a party and told them we were very worried about germs, etc, everyone would respect and 1) not come if they were sick, 2) not come close to the baby.  If you think they would do this and feel comfortable with it yourself, I say go for it.  If you don't then don't feel bad at all about postponing the party.  Either way it does sound like a lot of fun!
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  • naflmjnaflmj member
    Can you just do close family so they all understand the health concerns and it's easier to tell people to stay away from Grant but Chase doesn't get the "shaft"? I highly doubt he will know the difference if you cut back the list or cancel. Otherwise, I'd postpone until after the surgery and just have a little cake with Chase as an immediate family. He'll love the party just as much in a few months and you'll only be out the perishables. 
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  • MouseygailMouseygail member
    imagenaflmj:
    Can you just do close family so they all understand the health concerns and it's easier to tell people to stay away from Grant but Chase doesn't get the "shaft"? I highly doubt he will know the difference if you cut back the list or cancel. Otherwise, I'd postpone until after the surgery and just have a little cake with Chase as an immediate family. He'll love the party just as much in a few months and you'll only be out the perishables. 
      Ditto this! 
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  • armywife76armywife76 member
    imagepandabearlover:

    I went ahead and had Betsy's party the year Carly was born. Carly was 5 weeks early and I was supposed to have her party the week Carly came home from the NICU.  I postposed it by 2 weeks, mostly because I hadn't been home in 2 weeks and I knew my house would be a disaster.  

    DH's aunt held the baby almost the whole time and kept her away from the little kids that were there.  She didn't get sick (it was during the swine flu hysteria).

    I'm not sure what he is having surgery for, but depending on what the docs say, I might postpone it a month or so.  But I would still have a party for him, even if it's just immediate family and the only picture you get is him blowing out his candles with his circus shirt on.  You only turn 2 once! 

    I like your idea of one trusted person holding him if we do decide to have it soon. It's mainly germs on hands that I'm worried about.
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  • browneyedgrl4282browneyedgrl4282 member
    I had two similar situation when Brady was born. When he was 2 weeks old my mother turned 50 and we had a huge surprise party at my house for him. I was nervous about it (especially since it was December) but I didn't want my mom's birthday to go uncelebrated. Then again when he was 5 weeks old there was huge christmas party/family reunion and Brady had just been in the hospital for pyloric sten and staph infection but we went anyway. I just didn't let anyone other then my mom, sister, and one aunt touch him.
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  • dundasgirldundasgirl

    I would postpone it.  You aren't shafting him at all!  I like to have Reed and Penny's parties on the same day and their birthdays are 6 weeks apart so he has to wait:)  He doesn't really care as long as he gets to eat cake.

    And I saw your edit about the outfits...not wasted money at all!  Do a little photo shoot with the boys in their outfits ahead of time.  Super cute!!

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  • AndBabyWouldMake5AndBabyWouldMake5

    Could someone you trust watch the baby outside of the house during the party?  Maybe a grandparent and then have that person come for the last few minutes, or for cake or something?  I'm sure it would be a hard call b/c that trusted person would probably want to be there for the older one's party. 

    Whatever you decide it will be the right thing for you!

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