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one of my students

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lost her baby over spring break... :( She was about 26 weeks along I believe... she was at school today!  She did not directly tell me... we have a program here called Future Promises that assists teen parents.  How should I aproach her about this?  Should I wait until she comes to me...should I call her?  I remember getting calls right after Sofia passed and not wanting to talk to anyone...
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Re: one of my students

  • JessicaRobbJessicaRobb member
    Wow... I cannot imagine dealing with this as a teenager. Maybe give a letter to the future promises teacher/advisor to give to her. It may be hard to process F2F but if she has a letter than she can deal with it in her own way and be prepared to talk. My bet is she would want to know and be happy someone reached out to her but it may take her a while to respond. Just let her know that you are available when she is ready.
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  • weddedwifeweddedwife member

    Wow, that's hard. I would definitely reach out to her. I'm sure she's going to hear a lot of awful things like "It was for the best" since she was a pregnant teen.

    I guess it depends on your relationship with her. If you're not comfortable approaching her then a note is a very good idea. Or can you ask to see her after class or something when you could see her alone?

    I think your perspective could be very valuable to her, coming to her from woman to woman and not adult to teen, like I'm sure most of the conversations have been about her pregnancy. You could explain how devastating this experience is, regardless of age or the circumstances of the pregnancy.

    I'm so sad for her.

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  • lizzythom9106lizzythom9106 member

    Poor girl :(

    I would reach out to her. Even if it is only a "I know where you've been, I've been there too. I'm here if you want to talk"

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