My BFF's fourth child (first for her DH) was born last week. Another friend of hers just asked me if anyone was throwing a baby shower for my BFF. The thought of throwing her a shower only briefly crossed my mind because... well... this is her fourth child, third daughter. And I had always heard that baby showers were only for the first child - or when the child is of a different gender that the others. The friend also suggested that maybe one should be thrown for my BFF's DH. She's stocked up pretty well on things from buying on sale and by making things.
But... What's the rule of thumb? Should I be throwing her another baby shower? Her last shower was three years ago when I threw her one for her third child, second daughter. And I did it then because I didn't get to throw her one for the other two.
Added: Come to think of it.. She did mention what great shower ideas she had for me when I have a child.... Since I'm not even remotely pregnant yet... Maybe she was hinting...??
Re: Fourth Child Baby Shower..??
I always thought showers were for the 1st child, regardless of sex. If someone has a girl first and chooses to register for a pink car seat, pink jumparoo, pink bouncer, pink etc. etc., then that's on her if her 2nd child is a boy and she doesn't want to use the pink stuff. She made the conscious decision to register for pink stuff knowing that in the future she may have a boy and may not want to put her baby boy in a pink car seat.
I know some people throw showers when the baby is a different gender, which they can do if they want, but in this case, your friend has 3 other children, including 2 girls. What could she possibly need?!
We did a diaper shower for a friend of mine who was pregnant with her 3rd girl. Everyone bring 2 packs of diapers (or wipes would work too I suppose). Mom gets half of the diapers and the other half get donated to a women's shelter. My friend even got some that she could use for one of her older daugthers that was still in diapers then, so it worked out great for everyone.
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Since they were my FIRST BORN yes there was mention of twins when we told everyone I was pregnant after 5 years and IF treatments.
Oh and I see it as not your first born receiving gifts- it is the parents receiving gifts for the use of raising your first, second,etc child....
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Around here, we tend to have showers or some sort of party for every baby. I believe that every child deserves to be celebrated no matter what their birth order. My friends even threw us an adoption party shower when we got custody of DD1 when she was two years old.
Most people register for every baby although they don't really announce it. People who want to buy off of it can find it, and it's useful. I would rather spend my money on something they actually want/need. Something to keep in mind, not everything can be passed down. Things expire or wear out, get broken, or passed on to another family.
It's more like a birthday party IMO. People don't think it's being gift grabby to have a party every year, and those are for the same kid! Gasp! Who would want to buy a gift for the SAME person more than once?!
Does your circle of friends also play games like "Decorate the Singlet" or "Who Can Raw Lift/Squat Snatch The Baby?"
I am sure no one is looking to use you as their benchmark for all things socially appropriate.