Spicing it up...GTKY (tmi edition)

Spruce14 · April 2012

I'm having a sad morning {this marks 3 weeks and I'm thinking a lot about my baby} I need to distract myself. So, let's talk sex and cheer up this dreadful Morning.

DH and I have always had great sex...albeit pretty plain & typical. I have felt lately like we should spice things up a bit since it's so frequent...I don't want him to get bored and I feel like i've had some moments of boredom too. So I was wondering...

If you don't mind sharing, what do you ladies do before, after or during sex to spice things up in the bedroom?

blessedhope · April 2012

Sorry today is a hard day for you. Hope you start feeling better.

DH likes me to wear lingurie but that stuff can get expensive. I try to get creative with scarves, ripped jeans, flowers in my hair, his old clothes that I've cut up etc. Have you ever "done it" outside the bedroom? ( in the woods, skinny dipping?) Just don't scare any campers or people swimming! ha! Have fun!

GatorBaby2012 · April 2012

I'm sorry you're having a bad day. I'm more than happy to help get your mind off of things.

DH and I are pretty plain when it comes to DTD. When we first started dating, we were all over each other 24/7, but after we started living together and the newness wore off, and with our work schedules and such, we probably only DTD once or twice a week. It's always good, but still not very frequent. After TTC, we started DTD more frequently and after a few cycles, it really started getting redundant. Some things we do to "spice it up" a little is that I may rush home from work and put on lingerie and will wait by the door when DH walks in. Other times we may shower together and get things started there. We also mix it up and DTD in the guest room or on the kitchen table (usually that's after we have some wine). I'll also send naughty texts (not too naughty) to get him thinking about it before he comes home.

If you really want some kinky ideas, read the Fifty Shades books. That will tell you just about everything you want to know about spicing it up...and then some! It will also put you in the mood.

ProcurementGirl · April 2012

As of late, reading 50 Shades of Grey really helped.

No, but seriously, if you choose to read this, make sure DH is close by Wink

ProcurementGirl · April 2012

GatorBaby2012:

I'm sorry you're having a bad day. I'm more than happy to help get your mind off of things.

DH and I are pretty plain when it comes to DTD. When we first started dating, we were all over each other 24/7, but after we started living together and the newness wore off, and with our work schedules and such, we probably only DTD once or twice a week. It's always good, but still not very frequent. After TTC, we started DTD more frequently and after a few cycles, it really started getting redundant. Some things we do to "spice it up" a little is that I may rush home from work and put on lingerie and will wait by the door when DH walks in. Other times we may shower together and get things started there. We also mix it up and DTD in the guest room or on the kitchen table (usually that's after we have some wine). I'll also send naughty texts (not too naughty) to get him thinking about it before he comes home.

If you really want some kinky ideas, read the Fifty Shades books. That will tell you just about everything you want to know about spicing it up...and then some! It will also put you in the mood.

Ah! You beat me to it!!!

raashton · April 2012

We have shared fantasies while in the act. Just talking about it can really spice things up. I don't know how you feel about porn but that can add a dirty element, if you like that sort of thing. Also, toys can be fun if you feel comfortable with that.

Spruce14 · April 2012

ProcurementGirl:
GatorBaby2012:

I'm sorry you're having a bad day. I'm more than happy to help get your mind off of things.

DH and I are pretty plain when it comes to DTD. When we first started dating, we were all over each other 24/7, but after we started living together and the newness wore off, and with our work schedules and such, we probably only DTD once or twice a week. It's always good, but still not very frequent. After TTC, we started DTD more frequently and after a few cycles, it really started getting redundant. Some things we do to "spice it up" a little is that I may rush home from work and put on lingerie and will wait by the door when DH walks in. Other times we may shower together and get things started there. We also mix it up and DTD in the guest room or on the kitchen table (usually that's after we have some wine). I'll also send naughty texts (not too naughty) to get him thinking about it before he comes home.

If you really want some kinky ideas, read the Fifty Shades books. That will tell you just about everything you want to know about spicing it up...and then some! It will also put you in the mood.

Ah! You beat me to it!!!

AH I am reading it! I think that's what has put me in the mood to spice it up a bit I have drafted a pretty naughty email that I'll be sending him later... will see how he responds. I've never done a naughty message before...

Spruce14 · April 2012

blessedhope:
Sorry today is a hard day for you. Hope you start feeling better.

DH likes me to wear lingurie but that stuff can get expensive. I try to get creative with scarves, ripped jeans, flowers in my hair, his old clothes that I've cut up etc. Have you ever "done it" outside the bedroom? ( in the woods, skinny dipping?) Just don't scare any campers or people swimming! ha! Have fun!

When we were young {too young} we used to do it EVERYWHERE! outside in a park as a train passed, on a pier, at open house parties of people we didn't really know. We were crazy. Then obviously when we were out of high school we flet that was inappropriate so we calmed down a bit. I now can't do public places for fear of getting caught but i haven't tried the kitchen island...hmm.

Spruce14 · April 2012

raashton:
We have shared fantasies while in the act. Just talking about it can really spice things up. I don't know how you feel about porn but that can add a dirty element, if you like that sort of thing. Also, toys can be fun if you feel comfortable with that.

DH is quite the prude when it comes to porn. I mentioned to him once that a friend of mine and her H watch to get in the mood and he thought it was weird. Something in the back of my head tells me that he's lying because he thinks I would think it's weird. Personally I wouldn't mind it at all- actually I think I would enjoy it.

shellyco · April 2012

When we were young {too young} we used to do it EVERYWHERE! outside in a park as a train passed, on a pier, at open house parties of people we didn't really know. We were crazy. Then obviously when we were out of high school we flet that was inappropriate so we calmed down a bit. I now can't do public places for fear of getting caught but i haven't tried the kitchen island...hmm.

This was us too! Then we got engaged and I grew a conscience, and ever since our sex life has been pretty vanilla. We have recently started watching porn together as PP suggested. I saw your response that YH isn't that into it (watching together, anyways!), but I'd push to try it once and see what happens! Sensual massage sometimes works for me too, so long as I don't get too sleepy!

danaunclaw · April 2012

Go to your local nasty store (or go online to something like Adam & Eve) and buy toys, toys and more toys!!! I'll leave it at that. We like toys sometimes when things get a little too mundane. Embarrassed

((BTW, I once saw a huge rubber foot at one of those stores. I find that weird. However, if you happen to purchase that and are into that sort of thing, please give us some details as to how exactly that would be useful in the bedroom?!?!?!? Hahaha))

Spruce14 · April 2012

danaunclaw:
Go to your local nasty store (or go online to something like Adam & Eve) and buy toys, toys and more toys!!! I'll leave it at that. We like toys sometimes when things get a little too mundane.

((BTW, I once saw a huge rubber foot at one of those stores. I find that weird. However, if you happen to purchase that and are into that sort of thing, please give us some details as to how exactly that would be useful in the bedroom?!?!?!? Hahaha))

HAHA this made me LOL! I guess for those with a foot fetish?? Haha, I won't go there but I will go look at some other things Thanks

Spruce14 · April 2012

shellyco:
When we were young {too young} we used to do it EVERYWHERE! outside in a park as a train passed, on a pier, at open house parties of people we didn't really know. We were crazy. Then obviously when we were out of high school we flet that was inappropriate so we calmed down a bit. I now can't do public places for fear of getting caught but i haven't tried the kitchen island...hmm.

This was us too! Then we got engaged and I grew a conscience, and ever since our sex life has been pretty vanilla. We have recently started watching porn together as PP suggested. I saw your response that YH isn't that into it (watching together, anyways!), but I'd push to try it once and see what happens! Sensual massage sometimes works for me too, so long as I don't get too sleepy!

I honestly think if I put it on he will be into it... I think he puts on this prude act but I have a feeling he would be pretty turned on. Ugh we used to massage each other a lot but since the MC my back has been gross and covered in acne, I won't let him get close to it. NOT sexy

Actingdiva09 · April 2012

**I'm not listeniiiiing**

DH is OOT until late Wednesday!!! Sad you guys are killing me!!! Hahaha

Spruce14 · April 2012

Actingdiva09:
**I'm not listeniiiiing**
DH is OOT until late Wednesday!!! you guys are killing me!!! Hahaha

Haha. Stop reading this thread! AND DO NOT read 50 shades of grey while he's OOT

ProcurementGirl · April 2012

JellyTwoPointO · April 2012

We live in Indiana, so it's pretty easy for us to get into the country. We've taken a few drives into the middle of cornfields before and opened the windows and sunroof and have had some good loving in the backseat of our car.

Also, wearing nothing but hooker heels gets him turned on. ;-)

We've also done entire "sexting" sessions during the day and I've sent dirty pictures.

psychmajormom · April 2012

I'm sorry you are having a craptastic day

But as for you question, doing it outside is always great! The fear of getting caught heightens the "pleasure" for me! lol

shanrob · April 2012

I took a pole dancing class (S Factor in nyc). I'm not sure if this is offered where you live, but....man, oh, man. Put on some platform stilettos, buy a pole, and you'll never ask this question again

ktsnshn · April 2012

We don't really do anything too crazy, but I have started to initiate more. Because we are TTA I think my DH is really digging the fact that I am initiating and it is not just because it is my fertile window. I highly recommend 50 Shades too, I think it has kicked off several fun nights for us Smile

Spruce14 · April 2012

shanrob:
I took a pole dancing class (S Factor in nyc). I'm not sure if this is offered where you live, but....man, oh, man. Put on some platform stilettos, buy a pole, and you'll never ask this question again

Ohh! That sounds fun. I'm right outside of NYC in LI so thanks for that info! I will look into it

JellyTwoPointO · April 2012

I'm purchasing my copy of 50 Shades of Grey today!!! I'm so excited! (*ahem* or at least I WILL be!)

Spruce14 · April 2012

Jellybean902:
I'm purchasing my copy of 50 Shades of Grey today!!! I'm so excited! (*ahem* or at least I WILL be!)

Ohhh you will not be disappointed

Mrs Carbo · April 2012

Spruce14:
When we were young {too young} we used to do it EVERYWHERE! outside in a park as a train passed, on a pier, at open house parties of people we didn't really know. We were crazy. Then obviously when we were out of high school we flet that was inappropriate so we calmed down a bit. I now can't do public places for fear of getting caught but i haven't tried the kitchen island...hmm.

Haha this made me LOL because this was totally us. Now we're pretty standard, but DH recently mentioned trying to spice things up a little bit. He said we've spent our entire lives trying to avoid "this" (pg), so we should enjoy being uninhibited. I hope your day gets better!

Spruce14 · April 2012

Mrs Carbo:
Spruce14:
When we were young {too young} we used to do it EVERYWHERE! outside in a park as a train passed, on a pier, at open house parties of people we didn't really know. We were crazy. Then obviously when we were out of high school we flet that was inappropriate so we calmed down a bit. I now can't do public places for fear of getting caught but i haven't tried the kitchen island...hmm.
Haha this made me LOL because this was totally us. Now we're pretty standard, but DH recently mentioned trying to spice things up a little bit. He said we've spent our entire lives trying to avoid "this" (pg), so we should enjoy being uninhibited. I hope your day gets better!

This is so true! My day has gotten better, thanks! I wrote DH a naughty email that kept my mind very occupied.

Mash67 · April 2012

every once in a while, we will watch porn... but its once every few months. Massages really get me going. I enjoy wearing Lingerie, and I have a ton of it!! Probably like $500 worth! I have these super cute white satin heels with white feathers that go across the top.. Ive worn them three times BUT I LOVE THEM!! For some reason Tinypic is down so I cant PIP the shoes.. but I will once it comes back up!

We switch it up a lot, bedroom, shower, living room... Bounce house(epic disaster) and the closet... which is so big when we moved in we jokingly called it the "baby making closet"... LOL and it has been used for that purpose LOL... talk about rug burn next time we will opt for a blanket.

Before we " GREW UP" The car, Gym, pools and hot tubs were our thing.. The Gym event were after hrs when they were closed and we worked there.. LOL

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