Those w/ outside babies... update us on how the visitor situation is going.

Luvmy2sons · April 2012

I know as we were all nearing the end, everyone was stressed about visitors in the hospital, who was going to be in the room, visitors after you got home etc. Just curious how everyone is making out. If you've had any issues. What frustrated/frustrates you. If you would change anything. If you set any rules, etc.

I know what I did with my first 2, but now life is different as I have 2 in school, extra-activities, homework, etc. I told my mom (who is taking a week or two off to be with me, run my kids to school, help with homework, etc because DH will be returning to work immediately), about the "visitor" rule I heard on here - if you want to come, bring a meal, help with a chore, etc. Because I don't need people to just come hold my baby. I need help with house things, kid things, etc. Just seeing how everyone is doing, especially those with school-aged kids. And if this is #2, 3, etc - what you did differently this time. Wink

SteelCity44 · April 2012

I laugh about how much I worried about visitors during labor, since we didn't even end up getting a chance to tell anyone I went to L&D until after the baby was born! Having visitors after the birth was very awkward for me though since I didn't have LO in my room. I didn't understand why people wanted to see me, especially since I just wanted to sleep. I sort of wish I had told DH to tell his family just to stay home. I know they wanted to see the baby, but seriously, only 2 people were allowed in the high risk nursery at a time (and I was always going to be one of them), and they could only stay in there for a couple of minutes.

DH did have 2 of his friends stop by to congratulate him at midnight (our first trip to the nursery was 11pm), and he very dumbly invited them into my hospital room after my first walk after surgery. I gave him the meanest look when he walked them in. I think they saw it, because they left after 3 minutes. I'm not a good judge of house visitors after baby goes home, since LO didn't come home right away.

Luvmy2sons · April 2012

SteelCity44:

I laugh about how much I worried about visitors during labor, since we didn't even end up getting a chance to tell anyone I went to L&D until after the baby was born! Having visitors after the birth was very awkward for me though since I didn't have LO in my room. I didn't understand why people wanted to see me, especially since I just wanted to sleep. I sort of wish I had told DH to tell his family just to stay home. I know they wanted to see the baby, but seriously, only 2 people were allowed in the high risk nursery at a time (and I was always going to be one of them), and they could only stay in there for a couple of minutes.

DH did have 2 of his friends stop by to congratulate him at midnight (our first trip to the nursery was 11pm), and he very dumbly invited them into my hospital room after my first walk after surgery. I gave him the meanest look when he walked them in. I think they saw it, because they left after 3 minutes. I'm not a good judge of house visitors after baby goes home, since LO didn't come home right away.

I totally understand about having had a baby, but baby being in the NICU. Luckily most of my family chose to just stay home. But then I battled people wanting to come to the house once he got home. This time, I'm hoping most people come to visit in the hospital, because once I get home my life is going to right back to being hectic and I won't have alot of time for visitors.

biochembelle · April 2012

The only rule we've had to institute is a curfew. DH's family, in particular, are night owls. I suggested a generous cut-off of 10pm and DH said (much to my delight) he thought 9pm was more appropriate.

I do tell everyone who is coming to visit they are welcome provided they have low expectations of being entertained, the cleanliness of my house, and my general appearance.

WildcatPrincess · April 2012

I wish we had more! I'm bored and DH has confined me to the couch after a busy weekend and increase in bleeding. We had a few visitors in the hospital, but no one has come to the house besides my parents and the ILs. Right now I'm missing playgroup a lot.

tiannalee · April 2012

This is a slight deviation from the topic but I just wanted to say that unless you have a private room, please remember that you have roommates who are getting over their own labor and delivery. I had two roommates (it was a huge room) and neither one of them respected the two visitor per patient policy. They were rude, loud and had no respect for the fact that I had just gone through major surgery and was trying to rest and bond with my child. They brought numerous family members in for hours at a time, tons of food, talked loudly on their cell phones and would not leave until I complained to the nurses. It made me so angry that the nurses allowed it until I complained and that these people had no respect for other patients. K, done bitching.....hope that none of you have to endure this but if you do, please complain to the nurses right away.

erniebufflo · April 2012

Our families did pretty well, but our situation was complicated by my extended hospitalization. My husband's mom, dad, and two sisters came for 9 days, my stepmom drove every day that I was in the hospital to take care of me, and my biomom generally drove me bonkers (we aren't close, didn't have a relationship at all for several years, but are rebuilding, and she kept traipsing around like she was GRANDMA OF THE YEAR).

My ILs stayed at our house and cooked freezer meals and cleaned and took shifts visiting baby Claire in the NICU at the Children's Hospital and Etta and me at the university hospital. My stepmom stayed with me to help me care for myself and Etta and allow my hubby to be with Claire during the day and me at night. All of that was super helpful. And the few friends who did visit called first, kept their visits short, and were generally awesome.

monkeypants23 · April 2012

My outside baby is a week old today-

In the hospital i didnt have any rules on visitors- because the hospital had visiting hours

Our rule was that the first day we were home we didnt want ANY vistiors- we wanted to come home as our little family and introduce baby to dog and just be by ourselves-

after that, with yesterday being Easter i wanted family to come over- but told them they were welcome to come but i wasnt going to do anything- they had to bring dinner and cook and help us with baby! and thats what we did- it was nice to have family over and help us.

Everyone has been very respectful and if someone asks to come over and its an inconvience i just say so and ask them to come over a different day,

Luvmy2sons · April 2012

tiannalee:
This is a slight deviation from the topic but I just wanted to say that unless you have a private room, please remember that you have roommates who are getting over their own labor and delivery. I had two roommates (it was a huge room) and neither one of them respected the two visitor per patient policy. They were rude, loud and had no respect for the fact that I had just gone through major surgery and was trying to rest and bond with my child. They brought numerous family members in for hours at a time, tons of food, talked loudly on their cell phones and would not leave until I complained to the nurses. It made me so angry that the nurses allowed it until I complained and that these people had no respect for other patients. K, done bitching.....hope that none of you have to endure this but if you do, please complain to the nurses right away.

OMG this is awful! I'm thankful my hospital has single rooms!

learningfromlife · April 2012

Luvmy2sons:
tiannalee:
This is a slight deviation from the topic but I just wanted to say that unless you have a private room, please remember that you have roommates who are getting over their own labor and delivery. I had two roommates (it was a huge room) and neither one of them respected the two visitor per patient policy. They were rude, loud and had no respect for the fact that I had just gone through major surgery and was trying to rest and bond with my child. They brought numerous family members in for hours at a time, tons of food, talked loudly on their cell phones and would not leave until I complained to the nurses. It made me so angry that the nurses allowed it until I complained and that these people had no respect for other patients. K, done bitching.....hope that none of you have to endure this but if you do, please complain to the nurses right away.

OMG this is awful! I'm thankful my hospital has single rooms!

This. I am so sorry you had to deal with that!

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