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Aversion to Daddy...

GoldenGibsonGoldenGibson member
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I'm not sure exactly what is going on but the past few days DH has had a tough time with DS. DS needs to be held to sleep so DH and I take shifts throughout the night holding him. DH has him the first shift, so I feed him, burp him and put him to sleep then hand him off to DH.Normally we have no issues and DS doesn't wake up during the hand off.  The past couple of nights DS will wake up immediately after I hand him over and fuss and cry and nothing DH does will console him. I've told DH all the things I can think of that LO likes and what always works for me. DS is not normally a fussy baby. DH tries everything to make him happy, but the only thing that seems to work is for me to take him back and as soon as I have him he's fine and falls right back to sleep.

I'm not sure what's going on exactly, but I'm worried DS is only going to want me if we keep this up and that DH won't be able to take over and let me sleep. I'm wondering if I should stop rescuing DH and let him figure it out, but I can't stand hearing DS cry when I know I can fix it. What do you think??


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  • speckledfrogspeckledfrog member
    Man, that's tough.  Maybe try handing him off to YH right after feeding and have him burp and put him to sleep.  Or try having YH hold a shirt you have worn but not laundered yet while he is holding the baby.  It's worth a shot!
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  • Baby LynnBaby Lynn member
    Maybe he is going through his 3 week growth spurt (if he hasn't already). When Isaac went through his he would scream cry for everyone but when they (even my SO) would hand him to me he would stop instantly. I was told that they might want only mom during that time. If that's it then hopefully it end soon! It only lasted a few days for us!
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  • DRiz567DRiz567
    This is exactly what we're going through. I feel bad for MH cuz he feels like crap sometimes. And then there's times were I get frustrated bc all I want is at least a 15 min nap.  I thought it might be bc I'm BF and he is used to my scent. ????
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  • GoldenGibsonGoldenGibson member

    imageBreanneL24:
    Could it be that YH is tense or something? I'm much more relaxed with DS than DH is and I notice a behavior change in DS when I hand him off. Babies are very sensitive! Did he change his soap or cologne? That could be it too.

    I think this definitely plays in to it. If DS fusses DH gets frustrated much easier than I do  and he doesn't have as much patience. I rarely get frustrated with DS even when he's screaming, but then again he never really cries for me unless he needs something and I never have trouble figuring out what he wants. I think this phase is affecting DH's confidence with the baby so now he goes in to each night afraid of what's to come. Hopefully it actually is just a phase and it will pass soon!


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