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January 2012 Moms
SmittyPants
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Father in Law Issues- Venting
SmittyPants
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My in laws live in Texas (we're in NJ) and when DD was born, my MIL came to visit. They have a condo up here and she stayed there for a week, coming to our house in the evenings to cook us dinner and spend time with DD.
However, my FIL chose not to come. Apparently, he isn't comfortable around babies. He's meeting DD for the first time tonight and I'm really afraid that I won't be able to keep my resentment over that fact under wraps.
My husband said it doesn't bother him that his father didn't come to see her so I feel like I shouldn't be pissed over this, but I am. I'm pissed off and hurt for my husband and I'm pissed off and hurt for my daughter.
Blah... I better keep my wine consumption in check at dinner.
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Re: Father in Law Issues- Venting
Thanks. Just knowing I'm not the only one dealing with in-law issues helps. I just find it so odd that my FIL wouldn't be chomping at the bit to see her.
Btw, that pic of your DD kills me every time I see it. I just want to smoosh those cheeks.
I don't think a lot of men get into babies like women. I do think men become more interested when the babies start doing more like walking, laughing, talking, etc.
My dad didn't come until the beginning of March. He is retired and could come anytime. He stayed for 1 week. He was planning on coming back in June but told my husband on the way to the airport that he might wait longer. He calls and texts all the time to ask about the baby. He also sends him mail all of the time. I just don't think he can sit around and aw at ds like the mothers can.
My FIL didn't come until the end of February, although he was pretty into DS.
Although it is hard, I try not to take it to personal. There are plenty of people who are loving on DS.
Well THAT was interesting.
He had no interest in holding her. He barely smiled at her. He also kept making comments about how "I really shouldn't hold her so much" and "she should really be able to be content by herself in her room."
I think my tongue is bleeding from the number of times I had to bite it.
Ah well. His loss.
Oh my. Sounds like it might not be such a bad thing that he's not around much. I heard the best come back on here a while back in regards to holding baby "too much." Just say, "when I look back at this time in baby's life, I don't think I'll ever regret how much I held her."
DD1: allergic to eggs & dairy
c/p 4/1/11
DD2: milk and soy protein intolerant, allergic to eggs, soy, peanuts, tree nuts, sesame, bananas
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This, absolutely. Kudos to you for biting your tongue - I would have a hard time around my ILs if they said stuff like that because even if I didn't say anything, the looks on my face give me away!
Started TTC 05.08
Me: Stage II endo, borderline high FSH
DH: perfect
1 lap, 5 IUIs = 4 BFNs and 1 c/p
2 IVFs, 2 FETs = 1 BFN, 1 c/p, 1 ectopic and finally a sticky BFP in May 2011!
1 FET in Aug 2013 = BFP!