How soon to tell?

MrsSmithinOR · April 2012

Hi ladies! I know it's different for everyone but wanted to get some opinions. We have told our parents, my sister, and 2 very close friends. How soon is reasonable to tell everyone else? I've had betas drawn and everything is fine so far, but i know that can change this early. Thoughts? TIA!

LLK122207 · April 2012

12 weeks is what I've heard but it's all up to you guys and when you feel is right! GL!

Jackquelyn · April 2012

My opinion: tell when you feel is right. I know that if something would go wrong with the pregnancy, I would tell all my family, so for us it is just right to tell them right away when we find out we are pregnant.

If you want to tell, I say go for it. If you feel better celebrating quietly until out of the first trimester (which many people do), then you should do that. Unfortunately, this is something that you just have to decide what works best for you! Good luck and congrats!

Bunny1212 · April 2012

I think many people wait until the beginning of the second trimester, which is probably what we'll do, too. I definitely won't tell my employer before 12+ weeks. My suggestion would be to wait at least until the first u/s and/or when you see the heart flutter, but that's just my personal opinion.

cassoppea · April 2012

I think this is a very personal decision. Everyone has their own feelings on when they feel comfortable telling. Some tell right away, others wait until the first u/s and some wait until 2nd tri. I think you need to decide what is right for you and what you feel comfortable with.

Personally, I like to wait to tell everyone except our immediate families until 2nd tri. A few others may find out along the way on a need to know basis. I guess my concern is that I don't want to have to back track and have to go through the process of telling everyone again if we have a loss. I just feel it makes things harder. I try to stay positive, and not think about that too much. But it just makes me less stressed this way.

That being said, I have many friends who actually posted their BFPs on FB the day they got it! So you will find all different answers on this one.

StephanieDM · April 2012

There is no set time that is right. Its whenever it feels right for you. Some people tell right away. Some wait til their first appt, their first u/s, the end of 1st tri... It varies and is ultimately a very personal decision. We told everyone right away with #1 but I know people who have waited.

mijakach · April 2012

It's definitely a personal decision and you need to do what you feel most comfortable with.

For me personally, this is my third pregnancy and I still don't have any living children. So it's hard for me to get excited this early on. We haven't told anyone, not even our parents yet. It's sad, but after going through a couple of losses, we don't want to get anyone's hopes up in case this one isn't it either. Plus, those close to us know what we have been through and it's bad enough that I have to constantly worry. I don't want anyone else to have to worry as well.

The plan is to wait until after we see a heartbeat to tell our immediate families. I know that's still not a guarantee that this will be our take home baby, but we've never seen a heartbeat before, so that would be a step in the right direction. Friends we won't tell until later on. And I doubt we'll be making a mass announcement on FB.

doraleigh35 · April 2012

We've told our parents and my best friend. We will tell grandparents, Aunts and Uncles, and siblings on Mother's Day when I'll be 9w. Everyone else will find out after 12w and we probably won't make a FB announcement until after the big u/s around 20ish weeks.

Like PPs have said it's whatever you are comfortable with.

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