My Blood is Boiling ~NIFR long vent

winofairy · April 2012

I HATE my DH's sister! She is a fat !

My MIL just called DH to tell him she received a letter in the mail from his sister telling her that she and her family want nothing to do with her anymore because she continues to have a relationship with DH and I and that we are "TOXIC."

Toxic?! WTF does that mean?! This is coming from the queen of toxicity. She keeps a score card and never forgets anything. Things that occurred days, weeks, months--even years earlier has not been forgotten by her, and she is constantly reminding my MIL of it and punishes her for it. SIL likes to be the center of attention and hates it when other people get something she feels like she is entitled to.

This person has maybe said 10 words to me in the last 5.5 yrs. Most of those words were hello and good-bye. I would see her at Thanksgiving, X-mas, and MIL's b-day. I was never invited to her house for anything. She hasn't liked me from day 1 and the feeling is mutual. She is a hypocritical b!tch! She told my MIL the only reason my DH married me was because I was pg and trapped him into our relationship! The stupid b!tch has no clue!

My heart breaks for my dear sweet MIL who has done so much for her and her family. SIL has two boys ages 8 and 11 (almost 9 and 12). She has babysat, paid for violin lessons, tae-kwan-do, guitar lessons, piano lessons, bought new dishwashers, clothes, etc...

SIL doesn't work because she feels like it's un-biblical. BIL got let go from his job 3.5 yrs ago and has been out of work since. They have this arrogant entitlement attitude about them. SIL made a comment to her neighbor that she can't believe my MIL has been vacationing when BIL has been out of work and that she has 2 boys to feed. Hello! Get off your fat a$s and get your own job and pay for your own ***! My MIL worked for over 30 yrs. If she wants to travel let her. Of course the neighbor told MIL about it and MIL never said a word to SIL about it.

My SIL is fvucking nuts! She still wipes the 11 yr old a$s and expected my MIL to do it when he would come over to visit. What mother in her right mind still does this?! She is constantly complaining about how hard it is to raise 2 boys. My MIL did it. She raised 2 children while working full time. Not sitting her on rump drinking her $6 star buck coffee, getting massages, mani's and pedi's. SIL's life style hasn't changed since BIL has been out of work. They have been living off his parents for 3 yrs. BIL's parents told my MIL he has been giving them $6000 per month. They even asked SIL if she was going to get a job and SIL told them no. $6K per month and she is complaining that my MIL needs to give them money too? $6K per month is more than DH and I bring home combined each month and we both work our a$ses off! Grrrr!!!

I am so not a violent person but I swear if I saw her right now I would beat the sh!t out of her! I am so sick of this person talking sh!t about me and she doesn't even know me. She NEVER has even tried to get to know me. Every time she comes around I feel like she thinks she is somehow better than me. My DH said they she didn't like any of the girls he has ever been with and hated his first wife too. When DH and I got married she told my MIL "I guess Sherry will be your daughter now." Really?! What kind of person says this crazy sh!t?

At Thanksgiving she would always be late and then she would eat and leave the mess for MIL to clean up. I wouldn't let MIL clean up since she cooked. It's only right that I clean up and I don't mind it except SIL could hang around long enough to help. But then I think that God she didn't because I can't stand to be around her. Many times I thought about slapping the smirk off her face. Stupid fake smile she has plastered on her face with her tacky bright red lipstick. Ugghh and her Jesus sandals with suntan panty hose! LOL! And they weren't even sandal toe!

2 weeks ago MIL was crying in church because the way SIL treated her the last time she attended the boys basketball game. MIL will go sit with SIL on the bleachers and SIL will not say 2 words to her.

MIL sent them birthday cards last August and SIL sent them back in the mail. And they literally live 3 blocks from each other. They didn't come for Thanksgiving and came around at Christmas for 1 hour to collect their gifts and then left. They had requested that DH and I not attend.

I do not understand what makes me such a horrible person. SIL has no idea what I went through while DH and I were dating and how hard I fought to keep our relationship together. It was never easy for us but I felt like DH was worth it and I'm so happy I never gave up on us. SIL has no idea how many nights I cried myself to sleep. And has no idea what we've gone through with our IF journey.

My MIL bought a timeshare in Disney 4 yrs ago so she could take her grand-kids and now SIL won't even allow her to see them. Prior to buying the timeshare she had taken SIL and her family down there 3x and paid for EVERYTHING and all SIL did was b!tch and complain the entire time they were away.

It makes me sick and I feel so bad for MIL. I just don't know what to do. Grrr!!

katib77 · April 2012

Bob Saget that woman is one hot mess! I'm so sorry you, your H and your MIL have to even deal with a fraction of this crap. If she will not be involved with your MIL because she stays in contact with you guys - maybe it's a better situation for all three of you. But I would see if the MIL could still see the grandkids, so that they don't suffer as much. I think there are grand-parental rights in many states because of odd situations like this.

To me, it honestly sounds manipulative to try and get MIL not to just quit seeing you and your H, but to some how get money or something out of them. Like in her mind "You have not given us 100% attention, or money? I'll cut you out of our life and not let you see the grandkids. Unless, you stop seeing XXX." Wow. She is just evil. I'm so, so sorry!

winofairy · April 2012

katib77:
Like in her mind "You have not given us 100% attention, or money? I'll cut you out of our life and not let you see the grandkids. Unless, you stop seeing XXX." Wow. She is just evil. I'm so, so sorry!

This ^^^ is exactly her thinking!

Honestly I don't care that she doesn't like me. I could see right through her BS from day 1. She and DH have never been close because of her fvcked up thinking.

We just hate that she uses us an excuse to cut my MIL out of their life. And it breaks my heart to think that MIL has these 2 grand-kids that she can't see and what if we are never able to give her a grand child she can actually enjoy.

Gregermis · April 2012

I don't even know what to say... That woman is awful! Awful awful awful! I will keep your family in my T&Ps. Sad

BeeBee08 · April 2012

Some people just don't have any manners. That sense of entitlement is not the "norm" for our generation, I would except that attitude from some of the much much younger girls. Sorry! She's BSC!

XV11Star · April 2012

She sounds like a horrible mess with so many entitlement issues and -- well, just so many ISSUES in general! Angry

I am so sorry. If it were not for the grandkids involved I would just say the he!! with her and be relieved she has written her entitled a$$ out of your lives. UGH!!!

KissyfaceKate · April 2012

Ugh. My bil is cut from the same cloth. My poor MIL is heartbroken. He got married last year and didn't even invite her.... She has her own issues but still. And don't get me started on my bros wife.

You said in one if my posts, we could totally be friends!! I agree

Sorry you have to deal with that suck.

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