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Grieving because it is over...

wagneram13wagneram13 member
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I feel like I am grieving not being pregnant anymore and that the birth of our daughter has come and gone. I really was ready to be done being pregnant as I had a lot of discomfort & pain and was not sleeping well. The birth was beautiful and I keep reliving it in my mind and through the photos/video I have. I had a very close relationship with my midwife so I think some of the sadness comes from knowing I won't be seeing her anymore... or at least for a long while. I think sharing such a defining part of your life with someone creates a special bond.

I know this will all pass. I am doing better than after I had my son. I cried every day for a couple weeks with him. I think having 2 keeps me busy enough that I can't focus on feeling sad so I guess that is good. It also helps that Gracie has been sleeping very well so I am not exhausted. She is an overall very content baby.

It's just hard to have this feeling of sadness even though I am so happy & thankful for my family and the experience I had.

Thanks to all the crazy hormones!

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  • hannahbagelshannahbagels member

    Phew. Glad to know im not the only one feeling that way. I had two awesome pregnancies and birth experiences with a great MW so I totally miss it already. I feel crazy for wanting to be pregnant again (though we're probably 2 and through:/) but its reassuring I'm not alone. I was really down and uncomfortable this last pregnancy and yet I miss it. Ok I'm done rambling.  

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  • jellybeanjeanjellybeanjean member
    DEFINITELY had this feeling with both my boys.  Still have twinges of it, and I'm 9mon out from the second one.
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  • FyreFlyeRushFyreFlyeRush member
    Awwww. It's normal to miss being pregnant. part of its your hormones, and it'll ease off over the next few weeks. (hugs)
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  • Cheekers2010Cheekers2010 member
    I was soooo sad after my baby was born because I wasn't pregnant anymore.  I cried every night for a couple weeks.  It was hard!
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  • iris427iris427 member
    I felt that way after both of my pregnancies.  I remember feeling kind of lost after the 6 week postpartum check with my first, because most of the last year of my life had been devoted to pregnancy and birth and now it was over.  So I say it's normal. :)
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  • julyjenniferjulyjennifer member
    I can relate to your post...I'm feeling very mixed emotions lately as my son is approaching 1.  He may be our last, and I find myself wanting to immerse myself in pregnancybabynursing stuff right now because it feels like it's slipping away!  It surprises me because I'm not usually a "baby don't grow up" type of person.  I just try to focus on enjoying what I have in front of me now without pining for the past, but I'm also trying to be gentle with myself.
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  • Faith1318Faith1318 member

    I definitely felt this way after both of my deliveries. I was very, very sad to (essentially) say goodbye to my midwives as well - I think it's very normal to feel a close bond after they have helped you through such a special part of your life.

     I was better prepared for these emotions the second time around, and I agree that a lot of it is due to postpartum hormones those first few weeks. Be patient with yourself - it's an emotional time for sure!

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  • Kattank12Kattank12 member
    I haven't cried about no longer being pregnant, but I do miss it and cannot wait to be pregnant again (will wait until DS is a year old or so). I had a great pregnancy and DS is a really good baby too. Being pregnant was a feeling like no other. It was great even when I couldn't sleep well the last 2 months. BUT having your baby outside the womb is wonderful too. :)
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  • mAnYaShamAnYaSha member

    I broke down about it in mom's support group after I had DS. I was the only person there who felt that way. Several of them had really difficult pregnancies, some after loss, some with extended bed rest. I guess it all depends on your pregnancy. Mine was very easy and beautiful and I missed it for a long long time.

    With time watching DS made me feel like he is better than pregnancy itself. I was sad because I knew I would probably had 1 more opportunity to experience it and then it was done.  I have read a bit of material out there and decided that I am open to the surrogacy experience. DH is not exactly ok with it, but it is not completely out of the question.

    This time around I have more trouble thus far, so how I feel in the end remains to be seen. It is nice to know that other women have the same feelings.

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