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SO - In the birthing room
The other post got me thinking... Who did you have in the birthing room? I was strictly DH only, and my mom was super upset about that. I told my OB that no matter what anyone said, DH and necessary doctors/nurses were the only ones allowed to come in and out of the room.
Then, part way through giving birth a male nurse came in to change the needle bin and I screamed. DH still gets a kick out of that because I don't classify that as "necessary" by any means.
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Re: SO - In the birthing room
It was just me and DH when Andrew was born.
I wanted it that way. I felt it was special for just me and him. Next time around I am considering having my Mom in too. I know it would mean alot to her, and I would also love her to be a part of it. But, I am still deciding.
I had DH only. My mom took really hard. She felt like I took away an experience that was rightfully hers.
She was with me when I went in to PTL at 30 weeks (we were able to stop labor for several weeks.) She drove me nuts. DH was out of town on business so I called her to drive me to the hospital. She was a wreck. We couldn't take her car without her cleaning it out first. The car is alway so messy and cluttered that she has to clean it out for anyone to fit in the car and ride with her. I didn't want to wait so I asked her to drive my car. Mine is a standard, so she didn't even make it down the street. She knows how to drive a standard, but she was so freaked out that she couldn't drive. I ended up having to drive us! Anyway, the rest of the time that she was with me went about the same way. She even got sick and had to spend some time in the restroom. She just isn't good at dealing with high stress situations.
When DD was born, it was just my DH and medical personnel. I honestly couldn't have told you how many medical personnel were there besides the doctor at the foot of the bed and the nurse holding one of my legs. My mind was focused on other things, KWIM?
When I was pregnant with my first, my mother said, "You don't expect me to be there in the delivery room do you? Because I don't want to be there." LOL! I don't judge other people who have extended family members attend a birth, but I am happy to just have DH there. The grandparents can wait until baby and mom are all cleaned up before seeing us.
It was just me and DH, and about 5 nurses and my midwife. Honestly though, I wouldn't have noticed if a llama walked in the door. I was in the zone.
For the first one, I wanted it to be just me and DH, but for the next one (we're TTC) I'd like it to be me, DH, and our moms (if they want to be there for it). I may have to put duct tape over my MIL's mouth though. She talks even more when she gets excited.
Do I really need to specify that I'll be there? Lol.
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We were planning on it just being MH and myself (and medical personnel). But, my mom ended up being in there with us. She wanted to be there when it happened, but she told us that she had no problem staying in the waiting room the whole time. We invited her in to the delivery room, and, by the time I was pushing, I didn't want her to leave. So she got to stay for the show.
She was really helpful though. She kept wiping a cold washcloth over my forehead while I was pushing and it felt WONDERFUL! So, we're planning on having her on washcloth-duty for subsequent births.
Only my DH. The rest of the family waited until I called them.
Ditto! My rule was if you weren't there when baby was conceived, you don't need to be there for the birth.
Our family is all out of state so it made it easy to call after baby was born. As far as I know, no one had hurt feelings over it.
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DH and my mom were there.
This time it will just be DH. My mom lives 4 hours away, so she moved in with us(uninvited) a week before my due date. It was horrible. She wanted to be entertained, has no respect for privacy, and asked me everyday if I would just have the baby already. Then she spent the labor trying to take over DH's job(I had a drug free birth, he was my coach). It wasn't pretty, and won't be happening again.
With DS1 while I was in labor it was DH, my parents, IL's and SIL. During the pushing it was DH and our moms.
With the twins I had an early c/s so it was just DH in the OR.
Amen. I didn't even want anyone else at the hospital until the next day
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My mom was in the room with me when I had Jordan. I was a single parent and I asked her to be there because I wanted her support. I was glad that she was.
When I had Ben, it was just DH and I. Both sets of parents were in the waiting room and DH went and told them once Ben was here. When this baby is born, we'll do the same thing.
Unless asked to participate, I just cannot understand family insisting on being a part of the birth of a child, which is something that is very personal and special between a husband and wife. It's so incredibly rude.
My mom said the same thing! Which is good, because I didn't want her there, just DH. I don't get grandparents thinking they have some right to be present.
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As I was starting to feel the really bad contractions, the IL's called and said they were on the way to visit. I REALLY didn't want to have visitors while having those contractions.
I had her by the time they got there.
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This was me exactly! Thank goodness DS was born at 12:12am so we had a full 8 hours before visiting hours. Even then I managed to hold off the ILs until noon or so!
The first time I had DH, my mom, my little sister (14 at the time), 2 interns, nurses and the dr. My sister has wanted to be a doctor since she was 4 and one of her interests is OBGYN so she was so excited to be there.
The second time it was just DH & I for the delivery but my mom came in every once in a while while I was laboring so that DH could go to the bathroom or get me ice chips down the hall.
This time it will only be DH again and I don't know if my mom will be here because my parents are supposed to be in Puerto Rico on my due date. If LO comes early, she'll be here and probably do the same thing (wait in waiting room unless needed).
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I only wanted DH. It was DH and a ton of hospital people for the first two (one baby was pre-e and the next was born at 32 weeks so there were a ton of docs and nurses for both me and the baby). For the last one, it was just DH, one nurse and the doc. I kept waiting for all the other hospital people to show up because I thought it was the norm to have 15 to 20 people in the room with you.
In all honesty, when it came time for the actual birth I could have cared less if a marching band came through. I just wanted the baby out and I didn't care who saw what at that point.