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SIL vent

kat530_528kat530_528 member
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Last night we went out with my BIL and SIL and it was a really great night.  We went to see a concert which was a great break in our hectic daily life and things were going so well until we were all sitting down and talking about our ailments (I don't know how conversations always lead to this).  Well my dear SIL said something about how she's afraid that she can't have kids and this that and the other thing and then adds in at the end that they haven't tried yet but she just has a bad feeling.  I then told her that my husband and I have been trying for the past 6 months and without any success.  She then goes on to say that I have nothing to worry about being that I am still very young (mind you, she is only a few years older than me).  I then reminded her that my husband and I already had a miscarriage and that it scares me that things are going the way they are with us not being pregnant yet.  She kept insisting that I have nothing to worry about and that things happen and we are young.  I am not sure why but I got so angry and I just wanted to scream.  How can she say anything to me about anything?  She hasn't tried yet and somehow she's an expert in fertility?  Or how about that she's not only an expert in her fertility, she's apparently an expert in mine as well!  How great it is to have an expert in the family!!  My husband thinks I am crazy and that I should just take it with a grain of salt and that she was just trying to help me out and make me feel better.  I hate it because not only does she not know what she is talking about but she also has no right to assume anything about my life and my ability or inability to have kids.  Why can't people just say something like "I understand your concern" and stop pretending like they know what they are talking about?  

Sorry for the lengthy vent but I am quite angry (if you can't tell). 

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Re: SIL vent

  • Actingdiva09Actingdiva09 member

    I've said it before, and I'll say it again... People weren't REALLY taught about their bodies! My SIL ended up being a fertile myrtle and had her 3 kids between 28-35. Refer your SIL to the Duggars... People can have kids later in life. And it sounds like she's not even that old... I agree, I'd be very frustrated!! I'm 24 and FORTUNATELY since I went public with my story (which included that we've been TTC for over 2 years), no one says to me "Oh, you'll get pregnant again in no time! you're young!" I'm sure there might be one or two that try that later, but I'll just smile and say "Oh, you must not have heard..." lol.

    All of that was to say yes, I'm right there with you!!!

    "For I know the plans I have for you,
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  • geminiwaysgeminiways member
    ahhhhhhhh...the joys of in-laws.... :) 
    BFP#1 10/15/2011! EDD 6/25/2012. natural m/c 10/28/2011. 5wks, 3d. BFP#2 2/27/2012! EDD 11/12/2012. d&c 4/10/12. 9 weeks. Daisypath Anniversary tickers
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