First time pregnancy - question

jamiemyselfandi · April 2012

We are so excited, we caved and told our parents and siblings on Saturday. (Thank goodness it wasn't yesterday, I don't know that anyone would have taken us seriously!)

So far, only two of the sibs (my husband's) have asked what I think is a little too much of a personal question: Was it expected, or a surprise?

My default answer has been, "A little bit of both," but both times it seemed like they expected more of an answer. His sister dropped it when I didn't elaborate, but his brother didn't.

What's your default answer in this situation? Do you even care? (I might be outside of the mainstream for even caring, for all I know.)

BLuvsE · April 2012

I haven't announced yet, so none of this so far...but I think my default answer to this question will be, "Really?"

jamiemyselfandi · April 2012

BLuvsE:
I haven't announced yet, so none of this so far...but I think my default answer to this question will be, "Really?"

Haha! If they weren't family, and we hadn't told them over my phone, I'm pretty sure that's what my facial expression would put across.

jamiemyselfandi · April 2012

MandJS:
No real advice other than to say welcome to pregnancy and mommyhood. Where all personal boundaries are ignored.

Thanks for the welcome and the warning. I think the lack of personal boundaries part is going to be difficult for me.

kg_08 · April 2012

Congrats!

We got that question a few times with DD... and honestly it was the same answer as you "A little of both". We decided we were ready to try, then found out about a week later that I had already gotten pregnant. I didn't really find the question offensive.

This time people knew we were trying for a while so nobody has asked.

jamiemyselfandi · April 2012

I didn't find it offensive; just a little TMI about our sex life, especially for a sibling to be asking.

jennypasadena · April 2012

"why do you ask?" is always a good response to inappropriate questions. Makes the question-answer stop and think about what they just asked you.

Milliways · April 2012

I would say something wildly inappropriate like, to be honest we didnt think we could get pregnant from anal sex so it shocked the shiit out of us. But...that might not work for you.

jamiemyselfandi · April 2012

Milliways:
I would say something wildly inappropriate like, to be honest we didnt think we could get pregnant from anal sex so it shocked the shiit out of us.

That. Is. Awesome.