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Family drama about baby's name!

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I fell in love with the name Graham right before I found out I was pregnant! It's been the front runner for a boy throughout my entire pregnancy. My hubs loves it too. The only issue is that he and his brother call his dad's mom Gram as a shortened form of Grandmother. Her name is Mary. His mother and Grandmother can't stand one another. He is afraid that if we name our baby Graham his mother will associate it with his Grandmother and throw a fit and resent our child for it. My mil has been known to cause drama over things like this in the past... She is a very emotional and dramatic person. I am very frustrated because I feel like I should be able to name my baby what I want without my mil's prejudices causing major family drama. To make things worse our favorite middle name is Wesley (my hubs name) but that is also his Grandfather's name. If we name our child Graham Wesley it will seem like we are naming him after my husband's grandparents. I have spent hours looking through baby names and that is my favorite name but I know if we name our baby Graham Wesley it will cause family drama... Advice? Or other middle name suggestions? 
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  • Aimlc1281Aimlc1281 member
    Just don't tell anyone until the baby gets here.  That's what we did last time and plan to do this time as well.  Most people won't make comments once there's a cute little baby face to go with the name.
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  • Jessca77Jessca77

    That's just ridiculous.  Name your baby what you want, and if they have a problem with it, well it's their problem.  Having a child, you will run into TONS more conflict from here on out about your personal choices concerning them.  If you don't start putting your feelings first concerning your child it's going to be a bumpy ride:)  Also, having a baby doesn't mean you have to try to make everyone else happy about the things you decide.  Too many people bend over backwards trying to please the grandparents when in the end it's your child, not theirs, and it's not fair to you most of all!

     

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  • mamayo26mamayo26 member

    Your baby, you kname him what you want...and if MIL has a problem with it, then tell her she doesn't have to see him...that usually snaps the back to reality...

    you can also keep it a secret and wait until the baby is born and it is on the birth certificate...not much can be done after that.

    I like Graham...

    Here are just a few suggestions for alt mn: Brian, Lee, James, Dean

    Is there a masculin version of your name or another family name?

    What about favorite books/movies/actors?

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  • MrsL1022MrsL1022 member
    My advice is to stick to what you and your DH love and leave his name as is. Everyone will get over it. We are naming this baby Brennan (My grandmother's maiden name) Christopher (DH's name) we love the name and that both sides of the family is represented in his name. My MIL wants him to be Brennan Cahill (her late mother's maiden name) We both don't like it and a 3 surname name is too much to do to a kid plus we don't like it. We just told her this is his name and she will just have to get over it. Once the baby arrives the excitement will override the name drama. Do what you love and let opinions roll off your back. FWIW Graham Wesley is a great name. 
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  • mikeandcristinamikeandcristina member

    I'd name him what you want, and not worry about what people will say. This being said, I wouldn't tell anyone what you are thinking until it's on the birth certificate, because at that point, they can b!tch all they want but can't do a thing about it. We're using my gma's (dad's mom) middle name, and I know my mom will be pissed (messy divorce), but oh well, our child, our choice! If they want to be petty, let them, but I love the name we picked out.

    I think Graham Wesley is adorable! You should go for it, screw the family drama.

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  • giggles0918giggles0918 member

    I'd name him what you want and forget about what everyone else thinks.  I'd also not tell anyone until LO is born and it's permanent.

     BTW: Great name choice!

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  • SandyAliSandyAli
    You will never ever ever be able to please everyone in your family, Period. So go with the name that you love..who cares what everyone else thinks!
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  • ASKSAKASKSAK member
    Name him what you want.  From what you said you're not intentionally naming him after anyone.  You do not have to defend your choice of what you want to name your child.  She'll get over it.
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  • notfrancienotfrancie

    I agree-- say nothing until he is here to minimize her opportunity to comment or act dramatic.  If she says something after the ink on the birth certificate is dry, just say, "oh no, it is G-R-A-H-A-M.  I'm sorry, does that sound like Mary to you?" and leave it at that.  Obviously she likes the name Wesley OK if she gave it to her son.  

     ADORBS name, btw!

    Looks like today was mamadrama day on June 2012 Bump!  Hope this blows over soon for you. 

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