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C & P from 0-6. scarrrrryyyy!

Re: C & P from 0-6. scarrrrryyyy!

  • travelingkristravelingkris
    Yikes..... very scary.  I hope he gets help.  Or, at least sees he needs it first.... then get help.
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  • SummersJuly15SummersJuly15
    Wow - that's awful....I hope they both get some help very soon.....
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  • jamie4dukejamie4duke member
    That is a scary situation, so I am praying she gets help for her DH.  Children change a lot of people, and their relationships, and sometimes people just don't handle it well.  I know after I had DD I was so sleep deprived and emotional (not PPD, but I was probably close!), but I could never do anything to hurt DD.  When I was stressed I had to just lay her in her crib and walk away to get a moment to myself.  Hopefully it all turns out well for her.
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  • ImpatientgalImpatientgal
    PPD affects men too. This poor woman is definitely dealing with that. And she's catching it at a good point- he obviously wants help or he wouldn't be confiding in her and apologizing. He recognizes something is wrong. We all need to be on the lookout for uncommon behavior/attitudes/emotions in ourselves and our s/o's!
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  • *sallymad**sallymad*
    Whoa. Very scary. I feel bad for them. Dude needs to get into therapy NOW.
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  • JARbabyJARbaby member
    So sad and so scary, Dads can get PPD too.
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  • dereks_wifedereks_wife
    Holy crap.  Can you imagine?  That is awful.
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  • camrudecamrude
    Oh wow. That's not good. I really hope he gets help b/c is sounds like he needs it.
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  • rease.rease.
    wow, my first thought was "he is going to hurt that baby". I hope he gets help.
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  • AprilsiesAprilsies
    Wow ... I hope I never have to deal with something like that. Serious issues there.
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  • megs042107megs042107
    i need to read the replies, but god i am scared for her and her son.  her H needs to talk to someone.  i could never imagine my husband speaking to our baby that way.
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  • jerzeygirl4everjerzeygirl4ever member
    OMG this makes me want to cry..... I pray for them both!!!
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    wow, my first thought was "he is going to hurt that baby". I hope he gets help.

    wow that's what i thought too.

    he needs to get help.  the mom needs to really get her h into some therapy.

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  • madhatter2003madhatter2003
    wow.
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  • etoussaetoussa
    That's very sad and scary. I hope they can get some help.
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  • the_magic_numberthe_magic_number
    Whoa.  I just noticed that she is from a town that is about 15 minutes from me.  It is kind of a hole in the wall town but it is 30 minutes from a decent sized city (decent sized for Ohio, at least).  Basically there are facilities and doctors that can help him and it isn't like he would have to travel hours away.
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  • Tipton10Tipton10
    Wow!  Does anyone NOT see a problem with mom here???  She let dad tend to baby AFTER she heard him yelling!?!?  Are you effing kidding me?!?!?  They BOTH need help!
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  • Garnetbaby09Garnetbaby09
    Wow.  I'm so sad for her!  Sounds like he has PPD too... 
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  • Snowy_OwlSnowy_Owl

    CAN dads get PPD????  Or is this just his hidden side?  That's what would scare me as that mom.

    I feel for her.

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  • Sarahb34743Sarahb34743

    imageJARbaby:
    So sad and so scary, Dads can get PPD too.

    I didnt know dads could get PPD too. I thought it was brought on by hormones. But I guess stress and emotional situtions could do it too. Crazy

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  • BananaPancakeBananaPancake member

    imageTipton10:
    Wow!  Does anyone NOT see a problem with mom here???  She let dad tend to baby AFTER she heard him yelling!?!?  Are you effing kidding me?!?!?  They BOTH need help!

     Are you pregnant with your first? I'd have to assume that you are. EVERYONE has a breaking point with a newborn and everyone will have more than a handful of times when they need someone else to step in and take over. I haven't met a parent yet who hasn't gotten so frustrated that they yelled without thinking about it. This doesn't make you a bad parent. She did the right thing by stepping in and giving him a hand. It sounds like he does have some PPD issues, but she's on the right track by looking for counseling and giving him extra support while they figure this out. Yeah, since then it sounds like he's getting more and more frustrated, but she's doing the right thing and it sounds like she has her head on straight.   

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  • kiliwicketkiliwicket
    oh my.  That is scary.  I really hope they all find some help soon.  Not good at all.
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  • brideofaussiebrideofaussie
    imageSarahb34743:

    imageJARbaby:
    So sad and so scary, Dads can get PPD too.

    I didnt know dads could get PPD too. I thought it was brought on by hormones. But I guess stress and emotional situtions could do it too. Crazy

    Yeah, I think what people mean when they say that is that dads can be affected by the change in their life just as moms can, even if that change is not directly related to their hormones.  Men can suffer from depression after the baby is born too.

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  • Tipton10Tipton10
    imageBananaPancake:

    imageTipton10:
    Wow!  Does anyone NOT see a problem with mom here???  She let dad tend to baby AFTER she heard him yelling!?!?  Are you effing kidding me?!?!?  They BOTH need help!

     Are you pregnant with your first? I'd have to assume that you are. EVERYONE has a breaking point with a newborn and everyone will have more than a handful of times when they need someone else to step in and take over. I haven't met a parent yet who hasn't gotten so frustrated that they yelled without thinking about it. This doesn't make you a bad parent. She did the right thing by stepping in and giving him a hand. It sounds like he does have some PPD issues, but she's on the right track by looking for counseling and giving him extra support while they figure this out. Yeah, since then it sounds like he's getting more and more frustrated, but she's doing the right thing and it sounds like she has her head on straight.   

    This is my second child, and I know how frustrating a newborn can be.  My concern was that OP was making EXCUSES for H!  She didn't want to talk to sisters because she doesn't want them to hate H, her pastor is an hour away, she doesn't know if insurance will cover counseling!  Give me a break!  You do what needs to be done, regardless of what it takes or what people think.  Yes, kudos to her for stepping in and protecting her child from possible harm, what a concept!  But the excuses pissed me off.  If you know your H is having some problems you don't continue to ask for help form him UNTIL they are resolved.  You just don't chance it.  I realize that every new parent will need a break and will get frustrated, but get the help from someone who is capable, not convenient.

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