Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: Do you still use your diaper bag?
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I didn't bring it one time when we went to a store, we would be gone for about an hour, if that... Riley decided to have a poop-splosion. All I had was a diaper and wipes....so she had to go through the rest of the store with no pants. We were at Bass Pro, so I thought I could buy some there for her....they don't have infant pants..only onsies.
I now bring a diaper bag everywhere...sometimes I leave it in the car, but it is always with me.
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I always carry my big diaper bag but leave it in the car. I have a smaller bag that I have for when I go in places. I like to have everything I need with me.
Same here. A friend of mine wants to have a 31 Party... I might...big emphasis on might....get something to replace it there... But we'll have to see... I'm pretty stingy with my money.
Yes, but only once or twice a week, usually just Sundays for church and small group. MIL watches DS at our house during the day, so we don't need to take him out of the house for daycare. I usually run most errand during my lunch break or after LO goes to bed, so he rarely goes to the grocery store or anything like that.
We CD, so I wish I had a larger diaper bag with more external pockets.
hey now. grow the eff up.
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Same here!
Nope.
I have a big prada bag DH bought me in NYC for my birthday last year. I put a wetbag in it with diapers, wipes, change of clothes and other baby essentials in it.
I also have a bag that is in each car with diapers, wipes, etc. just in case.
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I mainly use a small sling Eddie Bauer back pack nowadays. I keep a few diapers, a changing pad, package of wipes, diaper cream, a spare outfit for DD, a small toy, my wallet, and cell in there. I BF so I don't have to worry about carrying around bottles.
I used to use my large diaper bag more when I was using a travel system stroller, but I have a City Mini now and my large diaper bag cannot fit in the storage area it has. I feel like I don't need to carry around as much stuff as when DD was a newborn, though.
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I rarely use mine. It's a pretty roomy, messenger style. Actually I use the diaper changing pad that came with it all the time, but the actual bag rarely. I have a big leather purse that I throw my little purse into on one side, and the changing pad, diaper, toys etc on the other. It's usually overflowing and heavy though- so I'm thinking of taking my purse out and just taking my wallet, chapstick, and gum with me- since that's all I use anyway.
I do fill the diaper bag with toys when I'm dropping Maya off at her sitter's house. And although we haven't gone for any long outings lately, if we were going to be away from home the whole day I'd probably use the diaper bag.
oh yes. We CD and I need several dipes (we go out for long periods of time) cloth wipes, solution, change of clothes, puffs, packet of baby food, bib, wet bag etc. We def need a diaper bag. I don't bring it in many places though. Unless it's a restaurant where I will need the puffs, toy, bib, suction bowl etc. I usually just toss a dipe in the bottom of the stroller or change her in the car before going in if we won't be there for long.
I did ditch my bulky Coach for the Vera Bag by Vera Bradley. It fits a TON but is not huge and bulky. It fits in the bottom of the stroller if I want it to.
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I left my diaper bag in the car one time when I went into Target. Hannah decided to have the biggest explosive mud butt ever. I had to leave my cart, go to the car and get the bag, change her, then do my shopping all over again.
The diaper bag stays with me at all times.