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So dd got bit at daycare - Again!

AmericanInOzAmericanInOz member
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a few weeks ago when I picked her up, they noticed she had a bite mark on her arm. From the teeth bruise you could tell that she didn't do it herself. The ladies in her room said that was so strange, they didn't see it happen and she hadn't cried once all day

well it happened again today. I am FURIOUS. I called the daycare and said I just wanted to let them know there is a biter, that she definitely did not do this herself, I can clearly see the marks of front teeth facing her and bottom teeth away. Anyway, the main lady from her room called and said she is so sorry - that there weren't many kdis today and again dd didn't cry once and they didn't see anything happen. I trust this lady a lot, I really like her, I just don't know what else to do?

She said she would keep a lot closer eye on dd from now on, but isn't that their job anyway? I guess I'm just upset that some kid bit my baby (well, toddler - 21m)

have you ever dealt with this? gosh I wish she was old enough to tell me who's doing it

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  • sosophsosoph member
    What does the number of kids in the room have to do with whether or not she knows there's a biter in the room? It's a normal part of toddlerhood but they should notice this stuff, and have a discipline plan.
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  • FrickandFrackFrickandFrack member
    This is the age when some kids are biters.  DS is the taraget multiple times and if it happens and I do not get an incident report, I tell the teachers.  If it starts to become frequent, I talk to the director. 
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  • cali2vacali2va

    What could you really do if she could tell you who was the biter? Usually once parents know who the biter is they shun the child when really at the toddler age they really don't even understand that the behavior is wrong.

    Kids bit..my DD has been bit and she has been a biter. Its a natural part of growing and learning about how our body works. MOST centers will not kick out a biter unless it is excessive (10+) 

    Also, most kids don't just bit to bit...they are provoked. Most of the time its over a toy or invasion of space.  Kids bit because they don't have the words to express their frustration.

    I wouldn't be upset with the child who bit but the lack of supervision that is happening. Regardless of if DD cried or not  the bit should have been seen, how are they not watching the kids every second? If she cannot handle the number of kids she needs an assistant. I would talk to the director and express your concerns. You are going to get more results then talking only to her teacher directly.

    Good luck. 

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  • Wufroggy79Wufroggy79 member
    Unless it is breaking the skin, I don't think this is a MAJOR issue.  Kids bite.  My own DD has bit me before.  Not often, but kids are cutting teeth.  It happens.   You would probably feel a lot different if you were on the other side and your kid was the one doing the biting.
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  • sosophsosoph member
    imagecali2va:

    What could you really do if she could tell you who was the biter?

    Oz doesn't need to know who the biter is, but the teacher does so she can address the misbehavior. Especially if it's a repeat problem. It is not okay that she's not seeing this and therefore not reporting it.
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  • tyke29tyke29 member

    imagenbeseau:
    Unless it is breaking the skin, I don't think this is a MAJOR issue.  Kids bite.  My own DD has bit me before.  Not often, but kids are cutting teeth.  It happens.   You would probably feel a lot different if you were on the other side and your kid was the one doing the biting.

    And you might feel different if your child came home 3 days in 1 week with bites that bruises last for a solid week all from the same child.  I understand that it is hard situtation, but I dont think other children should be teething toys.  Some bitting is normal, but some biters are a problem.  It usully happens in every daycare and it is a part of life, but that does not make it any less hurtful to see your child hurt and bruised. 

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  • Stephanie2167Stephanie2167 member

    My DD got bite 8 times in a 3 months span at her old daycare. We oulled her because they weren't doing anything about it.

    The first two times we understood, but it happened almost every week (sometime twice a week) and that wasn't OK with us.

    It is the age, I understand (she's been bit twice at her new place) but she's been there 6 months and they are working with the other child.


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  • kendra223kendra223

    I work in a daycare. Infant room ratios are 4 to 1. Toddler room are 6 to 1. You're going to know who bit who. This is what scares me about your post. There has never been a time (that I've seen anyway) where an LO gets bit that hard and doesn't cry. Biting doesn't happen often around our center, but when it does, it's not something that goes by quietly. LO 1 bites LO 2, LO 2 cries and right that second even if you were talking to another LO at the time, you notice what has occured and who did it.

     

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  • kendra223kendra223

    I work in a daycare. Infant room ratios are 4 to 1. Toddler room are 6 to 1. You're going to know who bit who. This is what scares me about your post. There has never been a time (that I've seen anyway) where an LO gets bit that hard (or bit at all for that matter) and doesn't cry. Biting doesn't happen often around our center, but when it does, it's not something that goes by quietly. LO 1 bites LO 2, LO 2 cries and right that second even if you were talking to another LO at the time, you notice what has occured and who did it.

     

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  • violaplayerviolaplayer member
    imagekendra223:

    I work in a daycare. Infant room ratios are 4 to 1. Toddler room are 6 to 1. You're going to know who bit who. This is what scares me about your post. There has never been a time (that I've seen anyway) where an LO gets bit that hard (or bit at all for that matter) and doesn't cry. Biting doesn't happen often around our center, but when it does, it's not something that goes by quietly. LO 1 bites LO 2, LO 2 cries and right that second even if you were talking to another LO at the time, you notice what has occured and who did it.

     

     

    I actually have seen this. I have one biter - Ethan. He bit Jimmy pretty hard, hard enough to leave a mark. And Jimmy didn't cry. I've seen Ethan bite Jimmy at least 3 times a week.... 

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