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Mother's Day plans?

My mom brought it up today.  She wasn't pushing me to make plans with her and my sister (who is also a mom), but was just wondering what I was planning to do.  I hadn't even really given it any thought and it caught me a little off guard.  I'm not sure I'm going to want to do anything, but my mom has made such an effort to be helpful and supporting and to develop our relationship over the last three months that I feel like I need to do something for her.  What are you ladies doing?  I'm kind of at a loss.
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  • I didn't do anything last year.  I pretty much wanted to hibernate until it was over. 
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  • I hadn't thought about that until you said something.  Both my sisters had babies last year (older sister in September and younger sister in December - I was supposed to be February).  That's going to fuccking suck.  Shitt.  I assume we'll do dinner, celebrating our mom for the most part and doing something for my sisters.
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  • I know that we're planning to get both our mothers as well as my sister (baby Gary's godmother) heart pendants with angel wings and a halo engraved with his birthstone on one side and grandmother/godmother engraved on the other.  If we give this to them ahead of time and not do anything that day do you think that's enough?
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  • imagelrichmond86:
    I know that we're planning to get both our mothers as well as my sister (baby Gary's godmother) heart pendants with angel wings and a halo engraved with his birthstone on one side and grandmother/godmother engraved on the other.  If we give this to them ahead of time and not do anything that day do you think that's enough?

     

    This sounds lovely to me.  I am sure they will love it and understand if you don't want to do anything on the day of.  Do you mind me asking where you are getting the pendants from- they sound really pretty. 

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  • I honestly would love to stick a card in the mail for my mom and go out of town.  The thought of mother's day makes me want to crawl in a hole.  I know my mom and sister will feel bad, I don't want the sad eyes or sad cards.... I wish we could just cancel it this year.  sigh.
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  • imageCarolee:
    I didn't do anything last year.  I pretty much wanted to hibernate until it was over. 
    This. I hope I can hibernate till the day is over. Thinking about that day literally makes me nauseous.
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  • I want to go out of town too. My relationship w/ my mom is very strained right now; not sure I can handle a whole day of her especially since I know she will say nothing about Nathaniel that day (or any other for that matter). I'd like to go somewhere where I can just be w/ DH & DD and try not to think about the other aspects of the day.

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  • imagelittlepenguin2012:

    This sounds lovely to me.  I am sure they will love it and understand if you don't want to do anything on the day of.  Do you mind me asking where you are getting the pendants from- they sound really pretty. 

     

    We have a friend who is a jeweler who will do custom work for us.  We designed them for him to make.

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  • I know there's what I'm going to be forced to do (DH's family finds it "unacceptable" to not participate in family functions) which is go to his brother's and have to deal with all the crap associated with it.  Then there's what I'd like to do which is stay in bed all day and hope the day passes quickly.

     

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  • I'm actually glad you wrote this post, I asked DH this morning what he thinks of getting out of town for the weekend he didn't seem opposed at all, so now I'm looking into what we could for the weekend.  It's not necessarily that I want to hide from the holiday, I don't want to hear how anybody else thinks I am or should be feeling.  I just want to be with DH and quietly celebrate that I am a mother, just not the way I hoped I would be right now.
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  • imagePetunia844:
    I'm actually glad you wrote this post, I asked DH this morning what he thinks of getting out of town for the weekend he didn't seem opposed at all, so now I'm looking into what we could for the weekend.  It's not necessarily that I want to hide from the holiday, I don't want to hear how anybody else thinks I am or should be feeling.  I just want to be with DH and quietly celebrate that I am a mother, just not the way I hoped I would be right now.

    THIS!  It was only recently that even I realized that I meet the criteria to be a part of this holiday.  I wonder if anyone else in my family will think  of it...

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